I'm watching the Locator. Anyone seen the show on the twin boys? How can you steal someone's kids like that?
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I'm watching the Locator. Anyone seen the show on the twin boys? How can you steal someone's kids like that?
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These twin boys were living with their father, and their mother had visitation. When the boys were 4 years old, the dad decided he didn't want them anymore. He dropped them off at another families house out of state and I guess the family adopted them. The mother never gave consent. How could this happen?
The adoptive mother was very disturbing. It looked like she raised the boys well, but she was so upset about their mother wanting to find them. PLus, she had to have participated in them being stolen just by shear lack of never questioning how she ended up with them? The boys are only 20 years old now so this happened in the early 90's. Explain how this could go on? It's sick and disturbing. I love my son's mom and couldn't imagine her being treate like that. What's wrong with some of these adoptive parents. They only care about themselves! Don't adoptive parents realize it's about the kids and not themselves!
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The adoptive mom seemed like she would rather her sons grow up thinking their mom abandoned them rather than them knowing the truth: that they were always loved and wanted. How can a child be hurt by knowing people love them and wanted them. Isn't that better than them thinking they were abandoned? I'm secure as my son's mom so I have no problems with him knowing his first mom. I can never take her place and she can never take mine. We are just 2 moms who love a child. What is so wrong and worrysome about that IF you did your job as an adoptive mom? Can't children have multiple family members in their life who love and care for them? Okay this is turning into kind of rant so I will stop. ANybody elses thoughts?
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Laurel J
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I can't bring myself to watch that show. Now I know why.
If someone dropped off a couple of kids at my house, I wouldn't be able to sleep at night until I found out where they came from and whether anyone was looking for them. I'd not only be concerned about the kids, I'd (somewhat selfishly) want to adopt legally so they could never be taken from me.
Carnie, exactly what do you suppose we're not being told here that would make the adoptive mother (if that's even the right term) or the first father look any better? Because I can't think of one. Single. Thing. That would make what either of them did right by any stretch. |
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I watched that episode.. The adoptive mother was told by two different people that the birth mother had skipped town. It should have been the lawyer that handled the adoption that looked into getting the signature from the birth mother..
The only way I think they could've done it without the birth mothers signature is if she'd missed visitation for months.. She wasn't 100% sure when they went missing when she was talking about them. She just knew about which month.. It sounded to me like the birth mother left town and expected the birth father to keep full responsibility. She actually said "I knew they were missing by May".. Like, how long had it been?
I can't blame the adoptive mother for being edgy. She was told one story which is what she shared with her adoptive sons. Of course she wanted to be present when they met her, probably partly to explain how she ended up with them!
My mom was still very much a part of many small details of my life at 20. She certainly would've been involved in something as big as that. That's what mothers do..
The blame in my opinion is very much on the birth father as he knew where the children went. But, also partially on the birth mother. Who doesn't see their kids often enough where they can only nail down their disappearance to a month not a week or a day? |
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Mei-Ling
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"We are just 2 moms who love a child. What is so wrong and worrysome about that IF you did your job as an adoptive mom? Can't children have multiple family members in their life who love and care for them?"
I wish more people would think like that.
"How can a child be hurt by knowing people love them and wanted them. Isn't that better than them thinking they were abandoned?"
Because then a child tends to think, "Well if my biological mother loved me THAT much, why couldn't she have just kept me?"
A child does not understand the financial reasons. I mean, they can understand that their mother wasn't able to provide for them, but really, they tend to think if their mother loved them SO much, she would have found a way to keep them.
So the emotional desire to know why you weren't "enough" to fight for overrides the logic about financial stress or poverty.
http://sisterheping.wordpress.com/2008/08/14/wanted-but-not-wanted-enough/ |
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Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009
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I've wanted to watch the show but I just CAN'T. As an adoptee and a bmom I'm afraid it would just be too much |
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Carnie C
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i'm sure there's far more to the story than what was given on the one sided show.
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