I am 18 years old and my mom is pregnant and I want to adopt her baby. I am still going to live with her.help!

Gershom

Why not just be a really involved big sister. What would the point to adopting your little sister be? Is your mom capable of raising your sister? I'm not sure I understand why your mother would be wanting you to adopt her?

Daniel T

Babies aren't puppies to be randomly traded between you and your mother.

You didn't even mention the baby's father who also gets a substantial say in this arrangement.

zarandipity

why would you both want to do this?

NC Princess has had a princessâ™¥

Is your mom unable to take care of the baby? That's the only way I see possible that the court will let you adopt the baby. They will want you to be financially stable. The child will always call your mother mom not you b.c your mother is in the house. I don't think the courts will let you until you move into your own place!!

bluntly answered

why would you want to adpot ur own brother or sister? either way you are going to be there to help take care of it and participate in raising it...the only reason why u would want to do this is if your mom is unfit to take care of it...and why would ur mom want to give you legal rights over her child? your only 18 and taking care of a baby is a lot of respondsibility

mom of many

i am sure it is possible, but in alot of states you must be 21 to adopt. also, the father has a voice in this too. There's always guardianship.

jhg

Yes that would be possible and yes it does affect the child.
My husband and I work with youth and kids who have been adopted or who are unadoptable state kids and they both alike run into the same problems.

They can have attatchment disorders and such things like that. Why would you want to adopt your sibling and yet continue to live with your mom??

Why not let your mom raise her baby and you just help and then one day when you are ready have one of your own.

freedom

I'm confused, how old's your mom? Is she sick, why would she want to give up a child to a child. No offense.

Danielle

Im not sure I understand why she would want to let you adopt her baby. But yes it is possible.

Ryan

She may feel unwanted. But why do you want to adopt your sister it would only complicate things

Angela R

I'm wondering why your mother wants to allow you to adopt her baby, but she will still be providing a home, living with, and taking care of the baby. I'm also concerned by the statement "besides it wouldn't really make a difference since I am going to be living with my mom so whether I adopt the baby or not we will still both take care of the baby". If you adopt the baby, then you will become her mother, for the rest of their life. You will be soley responsible for her including financially. When you move out of your mothers home, your child will go with you, and when you meet someone and get married this child will be your husband's step daughter.Yes, it will affect the child in many ways. I imagine that she will have a difficult time understanding the reasoning behind her adoption as well.
Adopting is a perminant decision, not just something to do just because you like babies and think it'd be fun to be a mom for now.

jambutty

its your sister so you already have a relationship with the baby -why is that not enough?
I think its wierd to adopt your sister (unless you are orphans or something) but is it just to play 'mummy' ????
just be a wonderful big sister to her I cant even believe your Mum would agree to such a strange suggestion!
Beside the poor kid will be calling its sister 'mum' and its Mum 'Grandma', poor kid will be very confused
its unnecessary to adopt someone who is already a family member!

cbuc s

what you want to do is senseless and i don't understand why you want to go through all the paper work. there is no need for what you want to do because you'll be living under the same roof as the child and most of all you are depriving the child of the same privileges that you had.

babyj06

your 18, and you live with your mom....does it really sound like your able to take care of a child by yourself?? One of these days you'll have to move out..besides..I see it as a mistake..legally the child would be yours if you adopted... so it would not be your moms responsibility...but it just seems as if it would be a mistake b/c more than likely your mom will still act like the "MOM" and not the grandparent... if she can't take care of the child then it can be an understandable situation but other than that..it's prolly going to be a headache..even though you'll be the guardian she'lll still make the rule...

momofone

Not sure what the point would be since you all live together. The father would have to agree with the adoption as well (assuming you all know who he is). It is possible but kind of "different".

CrazyTrain

You're saying that YOU want to adopt your mom's baby...you are saying nothing about that is what your mother wants.... Besides that it "would be ok with her" since she knows you would take good care. Does that not sound strange to you? And YES it would make a difference...and you're not going to be living with your mother forever. You're not going to college either?
What's wrong with being a Big Sister? It is going to be way confusing to the child.....is the child going to call You mommy and your mom grandma? It doesnt seem to make sense, with the explanation you gave. You pretty much said my mom is pregnant and since I just love babies I wanna take hers and adopt..... Where is the father in all of this?

Kelly

there is no reason for it. so why do you want to do it. i could see if your mom was saying that she didnt want the baby and you did that but that doesnt seem to be the case

Holli B

uuuum crazy thought here but maybe your mom should be a mom and you should be a sister? I don;t know maybe I'm way off base here..... anyone?

Tracy

the baby may feel unwanted later one, but you never know. I think you should let your mom keep the baby for a couple of months, and then decide if you are ready. since you are still young
:)

emma157

You can but for what reason do you want to do that. Its yourbrother/sister not your son/daughter. If your living with your mom anyway I dont see the point of confusing the child with adoption when he/shes older.

Sadeae

The most important thing to remember is that the baby feel loved 100% and for you to love him or her unconditionally...as a parent should. You must understand and be willing to make the sacrifices needed to raise children. You must also be able to provide safety and stability.

Yes, you can legally adopt the baby. You will need to find a good lawyer to handle the adoption procedures. The lawyer will explain everything you need to know and guide you and your mother through this difficult albeit joyous time....

Good luck.

iluvmytessadog

Why would you want to do that??

ohiolady1974

you are only 18 years old, I understand loving babies and all but you have your future to think about, not raising your baby brother/sister. My opinion, Your mom needs to raise her baby, she got herself into this situation. Go to college or whatever, get a decent job and then think about having kids. In order for you to prove that you can care for this child, you need to have a suitable place to live. I'm not sorry with your mom. You need to think about this more. I am sorry if you don't like my answer but think about your future. Are you planning on getting married? Not saying that all guys are this way but, I think it would be harder for you to find the right person with baggage. (per say) But this is your decision, Good luck in what you choose to do. I just ask that you think about this more.

babymama.

Maybe it's just me but that is so strange. Why would you want to do this??

That is you brother/sister. Once you have children that child will get put on the back burner... and what will happen when you move out? Who would she call Mom? What the hell, what is the point of your Mom doing that unless she is unable to care for the child....

sooo strange.

minni

i think thatd course alot of problems for the bab n u n ur mum now n wen the kids older
r u sure ur mum was seriouse bout lettin u adopt her baby
if u reli wanta baby y dont u have ur own
iv neva heard of sum 1 lettin herr child adopt there other child 4
no real reason n if it wouldnt reli make any diifrence y dost ur mum keep the baby n u help look afta it
i dont reli c a good reason 4 u 2 want 2 adopt the baby or 4 ur mum hu is willin 2 giv the baby 2 u
y dont u try 4 ur own baby or study child cae so u can take care of children being a parent is a hard job

Misty

From a mother who had a child at 18...please don't adopt this baby. It is one thing to be "good with kids" and another to be a parent.

If there is a reason your mother can not take care of this child, then maybe adoption to a different family might be the better option.

Another thing to consider...the child. How is it going to feel, knowing that Grandma is really Mommy. Something like that can really screw up a kid's head.

Live YOUR life first. Go to school, find a spouse, get married, and then think about having children. Like someone else just said, babies are just puppies you can trade off, they are a lot of time, love, work, and patience.

Please, for the baby's sake, rethink this.

Arikashikari_Peace

well... im not sure why you wanna adopt your own bro/sis... kinda wierd... but whatever..
unfortunatelly, not sure if that's even legal... sorry!

Msuthukazi m

Pardon but are you sick, first what makes you want to adopt a baby, i dont buy the LOVE of BABIES crap, secondly what makes you think you can do a better job then you mom, love alone does'nt raise children (well it does, it raises ustable criminals ) and you want to be the mother of a crook then go ahead, but seroiusly no matter what you think this isn't about the baby, you are looking for something else be honest with yourself and find out what that is and the look back ad see if you still want a baby

remi

WHAT IS THIS MAADNESS?!!?!?! O.o you cant adopt your sister yet live in the same house as your mum? its not right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HAVE YOUR OWN BABY, ITS NOT LIKE YOUR NOT OLD ENOUGH!!!!!! are you that ugly that you cant get anybody to sleep with you? HAVE A BABY!! not take your mums baby away from her, she will have to live with the torture THINK ABOUT IT!!

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