I am 18 years old and pregnant and I am planning on adoption, what should I do?

I have already read several forums about the simple question of should I put my child up for adoption, so I kind of know how people are thinking, but I am thinking completely differently. I am 18 years old and I am planning on going to college in August, therefore I will already have a lot on my plate and my main goal in life is to graduate from college with a bachelor's degree or higher. I never planned on getting pregnant, but life is funny like that. At the time I am single, but I know who the father is; well I am quite positive and the father is living several states away right now but I am able to get into contact with him, so I will be asking him as well about the whole situation. Also, this is not about the money at all. It's about the stress, unplanned pregnancy, and responsibility that I will not be able to handle while I am in college. What are your opinions?
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I have already read several forums about the simple question of should I put my child up for adoption, so I kind of know how people are thinking, but I am thinking completely differently. I am 18 years old and I am planning on going to college in August, therefore I will already have a lot on my plate and my main goal in life is to graduate from college with a bachelor's degree or higher. I never planned on getting pregnant, but life is funny like that. At the time I am single, but I know who the father is; well I am quite positive and the father is living several states away right now but I am able to get into contact with him, so I will be asking him as well about the whole situation. Also, this is not about the money at all. It's about the stress, unplanned pregnancy, and responsibility that I will not be able to handle while I am in college. What are your opinions?

P.S. The college has daycare but only for 2-6 year olds, not newborns. And college is free now 4 me; won't be later.

unknown23235

I would give your baby up for adoption. It sounds like your life is already pretty hectic, and a baby needs 100% of your attention, love and energy..And putting your education on the back burner may be harder said than done. Not to mention, you seem pretty mature and I can only imagine you only want the best for your baby. There are so many couples out there waiting for a miracle like the one you are caring, and can devote all there time and love to him/her. It is an amazing thing your doing and very mature. If I wasn't able to have kids, I could only hope and pray that there would be more brave, selfless and courageous people like you in the world. Just know that your baby will have the best life and be loved unconditionally, you are doing the right thing!

sugarbone2006

I can understand I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. I didnt know what to do. It took awhile before it hit. I am pregnant and single. I was planning on going to college. But it turned out that went to the back burner for a while because I decided to take care of my baby instead. A lot of things changed. Everything I wanted was set aside for my daughter. I didnt mind I had alot of fun buying cute dresses and outfits for her. I didnt get out as much as I use to I didnt mind that either. But honey its up to you if want to keep it or adopt it. No one can answer this for you. Just know that you can still go to college now or later even if you keep the baby. Yes things are going to get a bit crazy that is the way life is. If you plan on adopting just know that its going to be hard because you will be thinking of the baby " what does he or she look like" "Is she or he with a good family" "What is my baby doing now?". I am not saying this to change your mind but I went through this also wondering if adopting would be the right choice for me it wasnt for me though. Take your time to decide this. I know its a very hard choice. I know you can go to college still if its what you plan. You can ask your parents if they can watch your little one while you go to college or even there is Colleges now with a daycare in them ( I know this one). You can also do college online now. I hope all works out for you and your little one. I did a bit of college online and went to college myself for a time.
Good luck to you and your baby.

Brandy C

you should def do what you feel is right. If you feel it is adoption, then contact an adoption agency. They often have programs to help you through the process. There are lots of waiting couples that want babies! But you have to know that this is what you want. it is a huge decision that you will be living with forever. I wish you the best of luck, what ever you decide.

Mommy of 8 <3

You should take responsibility for your precious little blessing, you can still go to college? But what is the difference in going to college now and in 4 years when your baby is in school? I had 4 kids by the time i was 20 and i have a bachelor degree and i run my own daycare, i have the ability to do more but i don't want to i love seeing my kids everyday even when work is late, i see all 8 of them. So please don't let a stranger raise your baby, please? College is all about responsibility, why do you think you can't handle a baby? Why don't you message me and ask me or come to me about any personal matters, honey i can help you, just please don't ship your baby off to some kind of strangers.

Tasha

Keep it.

Money is money. College is college. Children are your legacy. This child could live for 90-100 years and always know his or her mother...... College seems so lame (4yrs?) compared to all those years. I was pregnant at 18 too, and 11 years later now she is an incredible daughter.

Time works things out.... Things that seem impossible and unreal now tend to work themselves out in time...

Like when I was 18, I could not imagine having a home, car, etc. It will fall into place. Just use your brain and in life make the best of anything you can.

zemraa

I am glad that you are not getting an abortion. Giving up your baby for adoption is easier said than done. My opinion is that you should first look into other options before you give up your baby and maybe regret it in the future. There are a lot of colleges that have daycares and family housing. I think that it's great that you want to continue on to higher education, but if it is too hard for you to handle than maybe you will find a great family who will adopt your child. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

scrumpkin

As far as education goes...I work with a 20 year old that just got her RN. She is single, has a four year old and a 5 month old. Two totally unplanned pregnancies. Because of her status regarding federal student loans, her $40k+ education was paid for by mostly grants and federal programs (she has no student debt). The childcare for her daughter was 100% paid for while she was in school. She also received financial assistance while going to school (housing, food). After completing her RN she now makes over $50,000 a year. It can absolutely be done. Many have done it before, and many will do it again. I think you should call and speak to a financial advisor at your school. They will know all about available federal programs.

And then, on a personal note, please don't give your baby up for adoption. I'm not one of those "abort or parent" freaks you will find on this forum, but I believe that all children belong with their natural mothers as long as they are safe and loved. Please reconsider. It will be traumatic for you, traumatic for your baby. This will effect both of you for the rest of your lives. Some people say "adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". And also, do not be fooled by "open adoptions". There is no such thing. Google "open adoption scam" and also "bring peri home"

Contact and adoption agency in your area. What you are considering, you are doing so for the sake of the child and for yourself. You are going to get a lot of negative feed back for considering adoption. Remember your rights can not be relinquished till after the babies birth. I am an adoptive mother and I have had birth mothers change their mind and decide to parent and it is hard for us adoptive mothers but we understand.

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