I am 6 months pregnant and i want to put my baby up for adoption. Where is a place to handle this for me?

magic pointe shoes

Just a few questions ago someone asked how they could prepare for placing their child for adoption. Part of that answer is relevant to you. I'll cut and paste in just a moment.

But first I want you to know that picking an agency or an adoption facilitator is a bit tricky. Adoption is a big business and it's easy for those running those businesses to make sure to sway the odds that you will relinquish instead of honoring the ethical obligation to make sure you are fully informed and not coerced.

Safeguarding the rights and well being of birthparents in the adoption process. This link discusses the the changes that those that facilitate the adoption process should make in order to honor that ethical obligation. It is in everyone's best interest if you find an agency or facilitator that meets the qualities in this pdf.
http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/publications/2007_01_Birthparent_Study_All.pdf

This is a website written by a birthmother to help give information about open adoption in a non-biased way.
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org/

As for preparing for the placement of your child...

I'm not entirely sure there is a good way to prepare. I think if I had to do it all over again, I would honor the process of deciding between adoption and parenting better. Part of the problems I have had in the years since relinquishment is coming to terms with not being my own advocate. Not only did I relinquish my child, I relinquished my judgment to other people's advice for fear of either being too needy, or out of fear of making the situation worse.

So with that, I say honor the process. You cannot decide that you will relinquish your baby for adoption until after birth. You can make an adoption plan though. You can look at profiles and possibly pre-match with a potential adoptive family. Keep in mind that this is just a plan, and the potential adoptive family is just that... potential. It is so easy to let yourself think of your baby as theirs instead of yours. It is so easy for potential adoptive parents to think of your baby as theirs and not yours. Be kind to everyone involved and not let that assumption be made. This is your baby until the termination of parental rights is signed. They should not accompany you to doctor's appointments. They should not be at the birth because of how easy it is lose sight of the huge choice you have to make after the baby is born. If you still choose adoption, they will have a lifetime to bond with your child.

If you were to choose adoption after your baby is born, realize that every moment of the time you have with your baby will be forever etched in your memory. Hold your baby. Take the time to absorb that time in. While some say the thought of looking or holding will make the separation hurt more, the lack of holding or looking hurts way more in the years to come.

Also, look at all your options. You need a parenting plan in place. You cannot make an informed decision without know all of your options. In fact, the pressure placed on you to relinquish without a parenting plan is that much worse.

Discussion boards to help find resources and get more information about your choices.
http://www.singlepregnancy.com/
http://www.girl-mom.com/
http://soulofadoption.com/

chelyox

You will need to go to your local or state offices and find out the very best place to do this, you don't want to just drop the baby at any "adoption" center as you don't know where it will end up.
I am sure you have your reasons for giving up the baby, but I am also sure you dont want harm brought to it.

richard_beckham2001

You need to contact your local social services department.

KayKay

Someone else posted to contact Catholic Charities. We are waiting to adopt and that is the agency we are using. They do counseling for birthmoms and also assist with medical needs that you may have. I don't know where you live but there may be one in your area. E-mail me if you need contact info and I can help you find it. Be careful of where you go! You really need to go to an agency that provides counseling so that you can be sure this is really what you want to do. You also may decide that you would like to have an open adoption where you can still be in contact with the adoptive family.
Take care and God bless!

anthonysmama1

your local dss and I'm sure if you do a search for adoption agency online you will come up with some near you.

bedbye

Look up CATHOLIC CHARITIES in the phonebook or go to this website to find numbers
http://www.catholiccharitiesinfo.org/states/

They are one of the finest adoption agencies available, will be good to you, and give baby the best possible parents.

jennifer r

either the social services dept or a private adoption agency...

Daisha J

I would suggest doing a lot of research into a reputable adoption agency. We went through LDS Family Services to adopt our son and are currently going through them to hopefully adopt again and I can tell you as an adoptive parent that we are screened thoroughly. Background checks, home checks, references, fingerprinting, birth certificates, adoption/parenting classes, etc. They offer FREE counseling for as long as you need it before and after birth/placement and (from what my son's birth mom told me), they do not pressure girls to place their child. It is a good place to find someone to talk to. Also, there are FREE group sessions weekly for girls who are pregnant and who have placed their babies in the past.

Good luck!

sistermegan

I would reccomend that you go to the Catholic Charities in your area and ask to speak to someone about the possiblities of adoption.

This group would be good for you because not only do they provide adoption support, and counseling for you before and after the birth of your child, but they also can help you with medical care before your baby is born.

If you have any more questions, you can contact me.

Good luck and God bless!

Dr. Lee Williams

A social services dept can direct you to an adoption agency.

jenne m

Hi there! I'm in the same boat as you are--I'm 16 weeks pregnant and have an adoption counselor who is helping me--She's really nice and I found her through a local pregnant women's resource center.

Be really really careful about whom you speak to about this, as there are a lot of nutcases who will try to tell you they want your baby without going through the proper channels. There are many great agencies who can help you, and a good place to start (as someone else mentioned too) is a pregnancy crisis center. They will put you in touch with perspective families who have passed state-regulated home studies and are qualified to be on a list to adopt babies. Be careful and be informed about your decision...it's a tough and delicate matter. Good luck!

Kelsey H

A crisis pregnancy center. They will go over everything with you, and let you know about programs that can help you keep your baby if you change your mind. They'll give you the legal referrals you'll need for a successful adoption. They also assist with prenatal care, and everything is free!

One thing I would suggest doing before you start is, make a list of the qualities you would prefer in an adoptive family. Would you be okay with a single parent? Do you want your baby to have older siblings? Do you want your baby to be raised into a certain religion? Think about those kinds of questions.

You can email me any time, and I wish you and your baby the very best!
<3 Kelsey

Bouvier

At 6 months, you are at the point in your pregnancy, when most birthmothers contact agencies. That is my recommendation. A reputable agency will not only offer you counseling (very important for you emotionally), but also, any medical/insurance assistance you may need during the pregnancy. Do you have prenatal care currently? If not, they will make sure you do. A reputable adoption agency is the very best route for all parties involved. My agency, The Barker Foundation in Washington DC area is wonderful. You are making a very important life decision here, for you and for your unborn child. Make sure you give him/her the best possibility at a great life, and also, yourself as well.

djhpink

your local dss can help you. There are good people waiting through these agencies. A friend of mine has been waitng on a infant and she is going through dss, so it is a good place to start

a baby is a blessing from god . im 16 and have a baby if i can do you can do it too.theirs alot of agencies that help moms .

AdoptiveMama

Family to Family Adoptions Inc.

281342-4042 or fam2fam.org

They are great and will take care of you well!

Still Me

You need to contact a licensed agency for counseling first. Contact me if you need a referral. I'll help.

Just click on my name and then email.

StacieG

You can seek out an agency that handles domestic infant adoptions (look in your phone book), you could contact a local hospital and see if they have anyone they've worked with in the past that they'd recommend, you could contact an adoption attorney, I think probably in most states, to see if he/she can help you, or you could contact the department of social services and seek their advice.

Here there is an agency called Lifeline Adoption Agency that places infants in private adoptions. They're a terrific agency & I've had a lot of contact with their people. They really seek the best interest of the child.

I think, probably, in most cases you can choose the adoptive parents if you want to. You can also specify how open you want the adoption to be (do you want annual letters & pictures, do you want freqent visits?).

BPD Wife

We used Adoptions From the Heart. You can find more information at www.adoptionsfromtheheart.org.

Blessings to you for making such a difficult decision.

Jules2u

We are hoping to adopt and are working with an attorney who honestly is very kind and helpful. Please let me know if you would like more info. He would help you to select a family and your living expenses would be taken care of. Best of luck to you!

Jacqueline M

Ask your OB/GYN. They can tell you what you need to do. They may also suggest counseling to help you cope with your decision. Good luck, I hope everything works out well for you.

CRAIG C

Do not think me callous when I say this to you but if your going to place your child up for adoption, you should go through the adoption agencies in large cities, where there are agencies that screen people for future adoptions. They also pay your hospital fees, your doctor, and you. The last time I checked, which was several years ago, the mother received $10,000 for the child. You might be saying, "I can't sell my baby"! In a way I wouldn't blame you, but this way you know that the people who adopt your child are well off and can provide for the child and it helps you defray the cost of the birth. Good Luck. I have read some of these answers, and lets be realistic here. A mother is placing her child up for adoption, I don't know the reason. Maybe she does not want to raise it by herself. Maybe she can't afford to keep the baby. What is wrong with receiving help with paying for the hospital and other expenses by using an adoption agency that will get this money from the adoption parents. Call me anything you want, but it's time to wake up and get real.

Kimberly P

Where are you located first of all? I know your local hospital or clinic should have information for you. I would also be willing to adopt your baby. I am married, two children 21 and 10 and I would love another child but I cannot have anymore. Good luck and I wish you both the best.

Angelic Valentine

You can just bring him/her to me. You can not only go to the dss, but you could tell your doctor or the hospital and they can do the work for you.

momtosix

If you happen to be in Colorado, I know someone who will adopt !

flowers

you are so mean
why can't you just take care of the baby yourself??

SARAH

you are so mean you only want the money

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