I am adopted and ireally wanna know more about my bio mother?

well i know i was abused but i would like to know wher emy ancestors came from and stuff i did a timeline in 6th grade and i coudnt do my blood realtives because the only blood relative i know is my brother who is 12 i am 13 and my mom wont tell me because she thinks i willlove my bio mother mre than her i just wanna know more abou ther i know she is a bad person on drugs drinks alot schizophrenic she abused me and my father was the same way i would like to know about my grandparents and my great grandparents i really like where iam now but nobody understands me i am always depressed bored i eat alot but i am underweight and i think i am bipolar all of a sudden i act really happy like in a crazy way i jump up amd down like a little kid or i will act kind of ditsy like a blonde and i found out that i have ADHD a while ago and i dont take meds because they made me worse
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and i dont know why i guess i got hit in my head alot when i was younger well whenever i do get hit or hurt myself such as when i was in 1st grade i broke my arm i was trying to stand on abeach ball i was stupid ell i laughed i didnt cry at all i laugh alot when i get hurt because i think itis funny i had to get 10 stitches on my chin bcause i was ice skating and some fat guy fell on top of me and so i felt a little dizzy i didnt know i had a cut i just thought i hit my head some lady came over to me and said i was bleeding so i went over to my friend and got help i didnt cry or nything felt a little dizzy butinstead when seen the big cut acroos my chin i laughed

ladyren

I don't answer many of these any more, but you seem to need some help. And I am hoping that you will read this a few times. And if you have any questions, write.

You have lots of comments here, but I'll just answer the one that appears to be your main concern: Your birth parents.

I doubt that your adoptive mom would think that you would love your birth mom more than you love your adoptive mom--- and it is your adoptive mom who is your REAL mom.

At this point in your life, she is protecting you from a not-to- nice past. And she was a brave person to take on someone like you. In your place, I would be telling her how truly grateful you are that you are happy to no longer be abused. I would leave her little notes that you know at times you can be a pain, but you cherish her love, and her concern for your future.

Honey, if she got you out of an abusive situation, you owe the female who carried you in her uterus for only 9 months absolutely nothing at this time. And you owe the lady who is raising you, your love, your devotion your loyalty and your thankfulness. And you need to tell her so often.

When you are an adult, supporting yourself, that would be the proper time to search out your birth mother. Not now.

Concentrate now on making yourself all you can be.... study hard in school, think very carefully before doing something you might do that might hurt someone, make your adoptive mom; proud that you are her daughter. Prepare yourself for a nice future by getting that great education.

Here's the list my mom had taped to the inside of my bedroom door beginning when I was 11. Some of it at the time, I really didn't understand, but I knew getting pregnant anytime before I had an education would be a disaster. And sweets, all that I am today, I owe to the woman who RAISED me, not the woman who gave me birth.

1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decadesâ€¦. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are foreverâ€¦. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.

Lori A

You have time to find out who your first mother is. Your mom seems to know a bit about her. I agree to an extent with another poster that you owe her nothing, but that goes for anyone else as well. You do not owe your adoptive parents anything either. No more than any other child who was not adopted. This is a desision they made, it is what they wanted to do. I am very sorry your first mother is having problems, I hope she can work them out. Being a surrendering mother is hard, it reeks havoc on your life. It takes a strong person to survive surrender.

As far as your laughing when you are hurt issues, I have seen this in other people, there could be several reasons for it. Fetal alcohol syndrome is one, and some people for no other reason other than God gave it to them have more of the morphine type substance surrounding their brain that others. We all have it to an extent but some have more. I would check with a doctor about that.

I had 3 professionals tell me that my son was ADHD and to medicate him. I instead got him involved in sports, He is an absolutely amazing athlete because he has the ability to push himself to give more to the sport than some others. Never would have happened if I medicated him. It also gives him a release for all the penned up energy. He has trouble sitting still and school is a kicker for him. But as soon as its over he gets on the track, basketball court, football field and wears himself out. He is a much happier kid and I am a much happier parent. When he gets squirrley, I tell him to go for a run or do some exercise and he does. He realizes it makes him feel better. I am not a big believer in drugs for everythng that ails you.

Talk to your mom and see if there will be a time that she will allow you to know more about your first mother. I don't know if she is affraid of you loving one more than the other, she may have other reasons. If all else fails you will have to wait 5 more years and then no one can stop you from looking.

baby boy due 6-2-09

maybe you need a cat scan or something. sorry to hear about your childhood. I hate to hear anything bad to happen to poor innocent children. i would not want to know my real mom if that is how she was

Monty

How on earth are we supposed to know where your mom is?

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