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A while back I came across an agency that specifically dealt with the placement of African American babies to African American couples/person. Now you could also just look in your phone book for agency and request that you want an African American couple and do not want your baby to be adopted abroad.
This link lists some waiting couples several who are African American who are looking to adopt you can click on the couples name and find out some more information about the couple.
http://www.africanamericanadoptionsonline.com/families.html
http://www.afadopt.org/
This link A child’s hope which is located in NC
http://www.achildshope.com/aa_adopt.htm
This is a hard decision for you and you can only do what you feel is best for your baby. You can’t even place the baby for adoption until he or she is born. I realize you may not think this now but it’s very possible you could change your mind. As your pregnancy progress and your baby starts to move around you might decided at birth that you can not part with your baby. That is ok. However this is also a reason why I think it’s probably better that a list of PAP be selected prior to the birth but not picked until after the birth (like 48 to 96 hours) when you’re sure that you are going to go through with the adoption. This will cut away any feelings of guilt if you change your mind or feelings of obligation to your PAP. As well as heartache for them.
I also wanted to note about the biological father even if he is an a hole an adoption can not take place with out both biological parents agreeing to it. It has happened where a biological father has found out about his child sometimes even years later and has been able to get custody because he didn’t give up his rights. I am sure that you would not want to risk your child being ripped from his or her home and only parents the child has know simple because you did not do the adoption properly.
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jessica300
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It's a crap shoot isn't it. You really have no way of knowing if you are handing over your flesh and blood to strangers who will love him/her or to strangers who will not. Do you think an agency or adoption lawyer cares how they line their pockets?
Think about it long and hard. You may "know" that you may hate yourself later, but you have no idea what that really means to live with it.
http://motherhelp.info/
http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/wish.html
http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf
http://www.girl-mom.com/
http://www.cms.hhs.gov/MedicaidEligibility/01_Overview.asp
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AvaRae
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The best advice I could give since you are looking for a Christian home is to reach out to a Christian Church in your area. Talk to the preacher and explain to him your choice and that you are looking for an African American family to adopt your child. This will allow you to have more control over your choice and you can meet the families get to know them and make sure it is what is best for your child. |
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redheadsdontdye
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Hello!
I was in the same situation you are. I got hooked up with my adoption agency through Planned Parenthood. I would go there and see if they have any resources for you. Also, I would consider doing an open adoption, because then you are able to hand pick the family that you want. I'm working with an agency that specifically works with open adoptions, I got to look through a HUGE book of families... and i found the PERFECT family, i've been getting together with them weekly since June and I feel very good about my decision now. Getting to know the family makes ALL the difference. Now I have 6 days until I'm due!
Good luck... I hope you are able to find what you're looking for. There IS a family out there for your little one! |
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Heather B
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A baby losing his/her mother is the most horrific and traumatizing experience for baby.
Adoption is only an option for unfit parents - most infant adoptions are completely unnecessary and intentional unnecessary separation of mother and baby is just cruelty IMHO
Babies know and want their mother. Being with other carers is just not the same.
The same people who praise you and stroke your ego for what a wonderful person you are for giving your baby away are usually the same people who get all possessive and want to shut the mother out permanently once the ink has dried on the adoption papers. They turn on you and suddenly instead of a saint you become some kind of monster - just check out some of the natural mother-hating comments on this board, it's just hideous. |
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peppermint_paddy
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Good luck with your choice. You sound like a smart girl. I wish you strength through your life experiences. |
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sunny
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You really feel this is you only CHOICE?
It's not. |
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daddio
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Lutheran Social Services. They are wonderful. My wife and I adopted our son through them almost 7 years ago.
They councel the birth mom (you). They also councel the adoptive parents. The prospective adoptive parents take classes. They also put together a small photo album with letters to the birth mom.
The birth mom gets to look at a selection of these albums and letters. She gets to pick the family that she wants to adopt her child.
Good Luck and God Bless. |
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karcnr
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You are amazing, so selfless for putting the needs of your baby above your own. What a strong young women you are.
Here is a great adoption agency, Christian based and they will help you every step of the way. You can personally meet with them and choose the adoptive family for your child based on what you want for your child.
www.itsaboutlove.org
1–800–537–2229
They have an office in NC:
LDS Family Services
NC North Carolina Agency
7621 Little Avenue, Suite 420
Charlotte, NC 28226
PH: 704-541-5626
FAX: 704-541-9284
Best of luck to you, I'll be praying for you. |
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KP19633
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I give you props. This has to be hard, but you are making the right choice. I think you should be able to maybe put out an ad... or ask the agency to give you a list of names, and families. and you can meet with them one on one. and pick out the right family. |
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mmskdc4eva
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Suppose if you were so smart as the person above you said you wouldn't even be pregnant. Why didn't you think of your schooling and the things you couldn't be able to give to your baby now BEFORE you got pregnant? Accidents are NO excuse. There are pills and condoms you can use. Hell you can even use them at the same time. |
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xxlucky7xx
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First i would like to say that im proud of ur decision. i was 16 an pregnant w a bi racial baby and i placed her up. i looked in the phone-book an found an adoption agency that let me meet and chose the parents. Call around and find one that will let you make the choices. Best of luck to you. |
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~Mrs. S~
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If you are part of a church I'm sure you could get some information about a local Christian adoption agency through them. Good luck! |
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marcsnothere
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Try this site, seems to be well established. |
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cmc
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I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation. I hope you'll be able to find a great family for your baby that meets all your wishes. Also realize that you're very early in the pregnancy and you may change your mind about adoption before the birth - it is really a huge decision and one that takes a lot of thought.
You can look for families online by searching for "waiting families" or checking some adoption agencies. I'm not sure of all the reasons, but there are certainly more non-african american couples adopting, or mixed race couples, so try to keep an open mind if you can to find a good family. The important thing is to find a family you like, and that shares your values.
The only agency I know in NC is IAC (independent adoption center). Their website is www.adoptionhelp.org. I met with them in CA before we adopted and liked them, but they were kind of far from our home so we went with another agency. They have waiting families across the country, and you can view the families online. Also they definitely have the philosophy that you should choose the family for your child. |
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Dannielle
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Thank God for people like you who chose adoption rather than abortion. You sound like a mature strong woman and I really respect your decision to let the child have life. This might sound odd, but you could try putting an add in the paper, I see it here all the time, only it's people looking to adopt. That way you could interview and choose who you want to raise your baby. You will probably get a good response, a lot of people are looking for adoption or on waiting lists. Have you tried the adoption agencies yet? You should also try talking to them, certain agencies might give you the option of meeting with the familes and making the decision yourself. |
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iLoveHim=]
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I'm sorry that you have to give up your child but I know just the places to call =) either call
1-800-453-1011 (Christian Adoption Agency..in North Carolina)
1-800-632-1400 (and another...in North Carolina)
=) I really hope I helped =) |
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BlessedWithTwins
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You are making such a courageous choice. I have so much respect for you. I had a friend and a former roommate place their children up for adoption through this service and they have nothing but wonderful things to say about it. My roommate chose to get updates about the baby I think twice a year? She gets pictures of him too but doesn't see him in person. You can elect not to do that though. I also know two couples that adopted through this service and it went really well.
anyways
www.itsaboutlove.org
Good luck. |
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dad5
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wow! You are showing so much Love to this baby already. If you want to be involved in the process you can definitly go with a private adoption agency, there are familys that you can pick from. so that you have a say in what kind of family you want for your baby. some will even keep you updated on the baby afterward if you choose that route. it sounds like you are so connected with this already that maybe you should consider keeping the baby You said you grew up in a great home so why not see about getting the support of your family and keeping the baby. What ever you decide, I am so greatfull that you are choosing to give your baby life. good for you!!!!!!! |
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bubblegumgiraffe
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Just curious as to why ur giving it up? |
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Blue Coral
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I'm proud of you! It's an amazing thing your doing! Thank you for giving your baby a chance at life:) There are so many people that are unable to have children and want to adopt (my college professor is one of them).
I'm not from the NC area, but I know of a girl that gave her baby up for adoption. She went through a local agency and was able to pick out the family herself.
There is usually a place in towns (with a pop. of 10,000 and larger) where pregnant women can go to get help. They will provide you with information on giving your baby up for adoption. I don't no what your local place is called. Try calling Human Services at your local courthouse to get a phone number. Or perhaps look in your phone book in the yellow pages.
There's posters at the local college for the place near me (I live in MN). And sometimes I find them in bathroom stalls with little numbers that you can rip off. |
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