I am currently pregnant and was wondering about adoption?

magic pointe shoes

Oh my. The ugly and crazy things are going to be said in the other answers to this question.

I'll give you links to good reading material about adoption and refrain from feeding the crazy.

What you should KNOW if you are considering adoption for your baby.
http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.php?id=1

Safeguarding the rights and well-being of birthparents in the adoption process
http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/publications/2006BirthparentStudyrevised07.pdf

Looney Tunes

Gosh, this post bothers me. You are SO nonchalant about this issue....are you kidding me? You are talking about a child, not a freaking hot cross bun.

You know what in the future ---- USE CONDOMS ------so you don't have to ever deal with this again.

So sad.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

well, haiving a baby costs a heck of a lot more than $150!!!!!

get ready. keep your kid.

bubba

a kid is more expensive though

Allison

you should really look into having the baby and putting it up for adoption. there are many people who want babies. my husband and i have been trying to have a baby for 3 1/2 yrs. we are now looking into adoption. if you need anyone to talk to about it feel free to contact me, i'm willing to talk.

34 weeks with Evan Alexanderâ™¥

So you're asking about adoption because you can't afford the 150 for an abortion...

Well, thank god for poverty, right?

There are so many people who are looking to adopt... which includes my husband and I. It is of course up to you. Maybe there was a reason you missed your appointment besides the money. The gift of life is an experience that is so great and is such a blessing from God.

Shannon

Where is the father or your family? Surely you can raise $150 in a couple of weeks. Keep working on it if you really do not want to carry through with the pregnancy. If you decide that you do not want an abortion, then you can look at your options. You should not finalize any adoption until you hold the baby in your arms. If you decide to parent or decide to go through with an adoption, there are many resources at your local department of family services.

T-REX Mermaid

Sometimes poverty is a blessing. Call Catholic Charities, Lutheran Social Services or a local adoption agency. If you don't have health insurance, the charitable agency will cover your medical expenses. You will have counseling sessions. The counselors will discuss how you can support your baby, and they will discuss adoption options.

If you desire, you can have open adoption where you will read letters of interest for your baby. You will be able to select the parents that you would like for your baby. With closed adoption, the charity will select the best parents. The adopting parents pay the hospitalization, attorney fees for you and for the baby.

Please feel free to get in touch with me ifor further assistance. My daughter placed her baby for adoption 12 years ago. I am so blessed to have a relationship with this wonderfully, precious, beautiful tweenie.

Good luck. I will pray for you that you will be guided to the group that can best help you. There is a family waiting to love your precious child.

Julie L

I am certain that if you wanted to have the abortion bad enough, you would have managed to find the money somewhere. I think it was your self-conscience and you knew that you couldn't go through with it. Adoption is a great alternative!!! I am infertile and I am going through homestudy & adoption courses with Child Welfare Services. Just think what wonderful feeling it would be to make another family very happy and fulfilled not to mention giving your baby a better life (not to say that you can't but it sounds like you are not ready yet...but you will be some day!). One suggestion that I would like to make is to try and find an adoptive family that would be interested in an open adoption. This could mean anything from sending you pics of baby as she/he grows up, report cards, phone calls, or even yearly visits. This is the kind of relationship I am looking for with the birth mother. Good luck with you pregnancy and may God be with you as you make your final decision.

sizesmith

There have been answers here where people have bad experiences with adoption, but there are also many people who have had good ones also. There are people like myself that honor open adoption agreements (and can respect it if you'd want a closed one), and there are people who don't.

If you decide to place the baby for adoption, there are several options. You can place the baby privately, or through an agency. If you place privately, make sure you get copies of their home study, which has criminal checks, background checks, home inspection, and an overall view of their thoughts about adoption. There are differences in the laws in different states about relinquishing, and different time periods. Some states allow you to sign papers before the baby is born, some make you wait for a few days afterwards. Some allow a time period of nothing upwards to 30 days to change your mind once you place the baby. You have every right to get to know the people you place the baby with, and to see their home, meet their family, and see how they live. You can place the baby with someone who has kids, or who doesn't. You're in control, and can pick whoever you want. Visit cafemom.com for more answers from people friendlier to adoption. Goodluck, no matter what you do!

allchildrenareangels

There are so many people that are hoping to adopt. You really should look into it. For instance we have been trying to adopt for the past to years. Maybe you should go to a local clinic that helps young woman who are pregnant I am sure they can help you or at least offer a shoulder. Good luck

Love,
Michelle

B. White

There are a lot of choices but only you can decide what will be best for you. Look at each option carefully and think hard before you make any final decision. You can get an abortion, you can decide to place the child for adoption or keep the child yourself. An unexpected pregnancy can be overwhelming but don't let that rush you into a permanent decision too quickly. Try to get some unbiased counseling (not through an abortion clinic or an adoption agency) to help you sort through the different choices and decide which is right for you. Also, confide in your parents, a pastor, a close adult friend, someone who you trust. Whatever you decide you will need emotional support.

If you want an abortion then $150 is not much of a barrier. Talk to groups like Planned Parenthood and see if you can get it financed or sponsored by an anonymous donor. Or, look into a part-time job, see if your family or the father could help you come up with the money, etc. Good luck in whatever decision you make.

I want to be a mommy

You know what there are people out there that are trying there best to get pregnant and they can't. Don't keep it if you don't want it...

jackmatt

So what are you asking, exactly?
OB/GYN RN & mom

Roxyroe

please dont have an abortion! where are your parents.... i haved my first child when i was 16 and i went into labor when i was 6 monthes pregnet, my baby is now considered a marical baby and he was in the hospital for a 1 1/2 and i still have medical bills and hes 26 years old... adoption is a good choice, but i handled my 1st son, so can you...

Dawn R

go to your local adoption agency or foster care agency. they can speak with you on your options. there is open adoption and closed adoption, there are more choices than you know. and wonderful people who would love to have a baby. best wishes to you, stay healthy

C Wood

You should contact a local adoption agency and discuss the possibility of adoption.

If you can't afford $150 for an abortion, then you can't afford the medical care you need as a pregnant mother, and you need assistance.

You can also talk to an adoption attorney.

If you give the baby up for adoption, you need to do it though a legitimate adoption agency or an adoption attorney.
cw

karcnr

I am sorry for your current situation, but please don't have an abortion. There are plenty of couples out there who desire a child and would love to adopt. Please consider adoption. There are agencies that can give you support and counseling before, during and after the birth of your baby. All of this is free to you, so you won't even have to worry about money. Some states allow the adoptive couple to pay for birthmother expenses. Consider all of your options, before making a decision that will affect you and your baby. Adoption can be a very positive thing for all those involved. It lets you place your baby (you can choose and meet them and have future contact too) with a loving family who can provide the child with everything you wish you could provide them with.
Best of luck to you.

zolita1908

Adoption is a better alternative than abortion, but that's just my personal opinion. The only thing I would say is that while you're carrying that baby you'll get attached, especially when it starts to kick, and after birth i felt an overwhelming sense of love. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, I'm just warning you that adoption may be really really tough to deal with. I wish you luck x

sundragonjess

Please don't kill your baby. There are plenty of couples out there that are ready and willing to take care and adopt your baby because maybe they can't have a baby of their own. Please put the baby up for adoption and give the baby a chance at life.

:))

Please don't get an abortion I am begging you you can put the baby up for adoption when you have her/him . I know people who had abortion like 10 years ago and Its is still hard on them soo please don't

r s

oh, you can get WIC and Tanfi grant and medicaid....

or you could go to one of those agencies that get the adoptive parents to pay for your keep the entire time you are pregnant..

bummer they were making you pay for your medical care...

tlent

here's a link http://www.crisispregnancyonline.com/adoption.html

Sweet & Sassy

My sister is wanting a GIRL so bad & she keeps having BOYS !
Keep your baby & possibly if YOU have a girl she would LOVE
to adopt her from you !
You could also put her up for adoption & make some money -
for college or just to save for yourself down the road................
$150. - sounds cheap ! I would watch out for those places !

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