I am doing a study on adoption?

Gershom

Books:
Journey of the Adopted Self - Betty Jean Lifton
Primal Wound - Nancy Verrier
Adoption Healing a path to recovery - Joe Soll
20 things I wish my adoptive parents knew - can't remember the author

Resources:
http://lizardchronicles.blogspot.com
http://www.adultadoptees.org
http://www.poundpuplegacy.org

If you decide to post onto the forums, i suggest being polite and sharing about yourself. Many don't take kindly to be "a research study" without some communication and sharing from YOU too.

Phoenix

why dont you use one of those free survey sites to make a survey so adoptees could have specific questions to answer?

as an adoptee, its difficult to explain what its like to a non-adopted person because its part of my life, so specific questions help to define what you want to know and make it a lot easier to answer.

LaurieDB

The survey idea is a good one, as feelings run the gamut. Adopted persons normally have some feelings related to it, but everyone is still unique in how and to what degree they sense these feelings. It's just not very cut and dry.

Mei-Ling

Please be more specific.

I can't tell anyone about my emotions unless I am prodded to do so because I do not know what they want to hear. :

Super HORSE lover!!!

Well it hurts. You dont have an identity... you dont know birth parents. You are jealous of friends bcz they have better life. All this stuff is just my opinion. thnx

Lucy Deana

it hurts me personally A LOT!
I dont know where i come from, i dont know who i come from and i dont know why i came?!
I want to know what it feels like to not be adopted, and live with my mother and sisters for a while, just to know.
I would love to know my medical family history, for future reference and that.
x

>>>>Janessa<<&

i was adopted and i can tell you that most people get really messed up from it and not just for a short time some people can never get over it and most of the time they never forget it. when something like that happens you have feelings that you can;t explain and you have no clue how to help yourself or ask anyone for help because no one really knows what you went through if you are lucky enough to have someone else adopted around you they don't know what things you had to experience i hope that i have been able to help you

JennaBear

Here are some books for you to read: (I think especially pertinent to your topic would be: the 20 things adopted kids wish their parents knew, journey of the adopted self, and the primal wound).

Anderson, R. Second Choice: Growing up Adopted.
Burns- Robinson, E. Adoption and Loss: The Hidden Grief.
Burns- Robinson, E. Adoption and Recovery: Solving the mystery of reunion.
Eldridge, S. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew.
Krementz, J. How it Feels to be Adopted.
Lifton, B. J. Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness.
Riley, D. & Meeks, J. Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens.
Rillera, M. J. Adoption Encounter: Hurt, Transition, Healing.
Russell, M. Adoption Wisdom: A Guide to the Issues and Feelings of Adoption.
Simon, R. J. & Roorda, R. M. In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories.
Soll, J. Adoption Healing: a path to recovery.
Strauss, J. A. Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive Parents.
Verrier, N. Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up.
Verrier, N. The Primal Wound.

Also, start searching around and reading blogs by adoptees. It's such a complex topic that to try and explain here, in a small post, exactly how I feel (which varies from day to day) is too difficult, but if you read blogs and things it can help get an understanding of over time how people feel.

Kashi

I was adopted as an infant to a wonderful family. I know that other people have bad experiences, but I did not. My parents were young highschool students and I probably would have had a very difficult life. Or maybe not. Who knows. I have a younger brother who was also adopted, so I guess it helped to have that in common. My parents were not able to have children of their own. I had always known I was adopted and it was never treated like something to be ashamed of, but rather to be proud of and feel special about. I think some people that are adopted who have bad feelings about it, maybe their parents just didn't handle the whole thing right. Sure, I had questions which my parents always tried to answer. As I got older I was curious about my family and health history and things like that. Sometimes I felt weird about not looking like anyone else, but in a way it was cool to be different. No one- family or friends- ever treated me any different- that is for sure. I have reconnected with my birth mother, although we do not talk all the time, we do talk and email. She lives thousands of miles away and that makes it harder so we have not seen each other. But, it is neat to get another piece of the puzzle. I think adoption is like alot of things in life- it just matters how you deal with it. You can be mad and upset and you can realize that someone made the best choice they could at the time, and who are we to judge?

usmcwifey

I was adopted when I was 36 hours. It was always put on the table for me and my mom and dad were sure to remind me that I am the same as their other children. I remember that I used to tell people that unlike most people, I was picked out not just there. I did go through a phase when I was hurt that my bp would give me up but then I realized that it was for the better. I have had a great life and I am so glad my mother made that decision.

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