I am looking for adoptive families?

realmom lese

the buzzards are circling

Randy B

I'm sure you will be flooded with inquiries from some of the hangers on around here in about....5...4...3...2...1....now!

Heather B

What Randy said

Please be careful, the internet is no place to do this.

Just a Mom

Honey, this is the wrong way to go about it. You don't want to find them through Y!A.

LisaHW

This isn't the answer you want, you may want to seriously reconsider going through a well known, reputable, agency that will screen prospective parents.

Things can get tricky, messy, and otherwise problematic if you just do things on your own.

mom of many

you may not want to go thru an agency but the adoptive parents will have to as all states require an adoption homestudy to be aproved to be adoptive parents

Philippa

My advice is NOT to look for adoptive parents here and go through an agency as it is very risky. There are adoptive parents online who are good decent people and I have learnt so much from them but you run the risk of being contacted by people who shouldn't ever be allowed to adopt. Please think carefully and I hope the decent adoptive parents give basically the same advice.

cmc

We matched with our birth mother on parentprofiles.com. All those potential parents already have approved home studies. I would actually recommend an agency or an adoption lawyer to help find a match. They'll help do some filtering for you. For example do you want a family with certain religious beliefs, single parent okay, loves dogs, want ongoing contact etc. You can pick the family.

Also you don't have to commit to an agency - meaning you can just talk to them and see who they are working with (waiting parents). If you don't find parents you like you don't have to deal with the agency. Who ever you decide to work with know your rights. You should not sign any papers before the birth. After the birth you will be asked to sign relinquishment papers - and then you cannot change your mind. You can receive some money for pregnancy related expenses in most states - but there are strict limits to be followed. Any one you are working with should respect that it is your decision to make. No one should pressure you, and if you feel they are that is a warning sign. Even if you "match" you can change your mind at any time.

If you want to find parents most agencies and some lawyers post profiles of waiting families on their website. There is one organization that has several locations around the country called Independent Adoption Center (adoptionhelp.org). They are sort of an agency, meaning they help people wanting to adopt, do outreach to pregnant women etc, but the adoptions are independent adoptions so the agency involvement is less. That might work for you depending where you are.

sizesmith

Some answerers are correct and there are horrible people out there, but I also know that there are good ones also (we're included in the good).

To protect yourself, only call someone using a calling card from a payphone, never your own, until you are able to get contact information, verifiable references (like a listed phone number, a police officer, a business, etc), and make sure you're able to obtain a copy of the home study done, contact information, including a copy of their driver's license, and before the baby is placed, permission to run checks on the people for a future date, so that way, you'll always know where the baby is. If you want open adoption, I'd go through someone who has already in an open adoption situation, and can verify it.

You have rights to visit the family, see their home, know how long they've lived there, and meet their families, talk with people, and know that the baby will grow up in a loving environment. You can be more specific on qualifying families, such as wanting someone who goes to church, or who plays music, or anything that you'd like for your child to be exposed to.

There are bad, but there are also good people who wish to adopt. Just make sure you protect yourself. People will actually offer money, but don't fall for that (like from perverts), but do go through someone who will work with you legally, and morally. If you don't like an answer someone says, RUN from that person, there are others who do want to adopt. Ask a question that will spark someone to reach inside and tell the truth, such as "What would be a drawback for you to adopt my child?" With a truthful answer, someone might say something like, "I don't write letters really often, but I do call on the phone a lot". If they can't find one thing wrong with themselves, or portray themselves as perfect, something is probably major wrong. Good luck, no matter what you decide in the process.

DevonChaos

This isn't the place to say this. You are going to get a bunch of freaks emailing you. If you MUST do this, go through an agency. At least then you know that the people have been properly screened. There is no way that you could do the proper checks on your own. You could hand your baby over to a pedophile or a killer. The people who are going to contact you through Y!A may very well be these kinds of people. If they are trolling here for babies, there is obviously a reason as to why they aren't going through foster care or an agency. Probably because they are unfit. Watch yourself. This baby deserves you first and foremost. If you are unwilling to parent, go somewhere so that you can KNOW that you are giving your child to a family who can treat them right.
These disgusting baby trolls on here don't deserve your baby.

staceydv4

parentprofiles.com

kattilac1

I am looking to adopt!!! Pick me! lol.....There a million families out there, in each and every state wanting to adopt a child. Especially a newborn, they are the hardest to adopt, as they go first. And sadly, money wins. The easiest way to find a family, is thru an agency. They are monitored, checked out, and approved by the agency. That is good, for the reason of background checks. You dont want to just give the baby to someone off the street you dont know. For example, me...you dont know me, I could be a horrible person, end up abusing the child, which is SOOOOO not the case.....but you have no idea what I am like. I understand going thru an agency is alot of work tho, but its probably in your best interest, unless you happen to know someone well enough, that wants a child. You can put ads in the newspaper, or online thru adoptive sites, that you are looking for parents, and speak with them, and meet them to see if they are suitable. In the end it is your choice. Usually in adoptions of that nature, the adoptive parents pay for the lawyer to fill out paper work, stating the child now belongs to them, to access birth certificate properly and so on. You also have to decide on open or closed adoption. I personally think open is much harder, on all involved. But you can have each others names, for the reason of the child finding you later on, but not being in their lives as a parent. Whatever you do , think it over well, if you find a couple, please make sure its what you want to do 100%. Its hard enough if the couple cant have children, like us, to get promised an adopted child, to have the birthmother change her mind and take the child back, before it was even given. Your not only holding your life, and the babies life in your hands, but also the adoptive parents. Along with thier hearts. Much luck to you, I do hope you can find what you need!!!!

timsdarlyn

you should try www.lifetimeadoption.com. there you can choose your baby's family and they've already had home study done. i know i'm going to sound like a crazy person judging from all the responses ahead of me , but i can assure you that i am perfectly sane, but if your interested you can email me, my husband and i are looking to adopt a child. but you should be wary because there are people that will tell you one thing and not be there for you in the end. if you don't feel comfortable it's totally ok. good luck!

Melissa G

Try http://www.OpenAdoption.com

At least you can have contact with open adoption.

Jenn

How about adoption.com? There are profiles of families on there. Good Luck.

Kevin W Kahle

Keep your kid...how do you think the kid will feel never knowing its biological mother....

jjcdios

There are so many sites that are great. My husband and I have been researching for quiet a while. I have seen several advertised in the paper as well. But you said families how many children are you looking to place?

Rebecca G

Where do you live?

Aleshea F

I myself am wanting to adopt a baby but you should go though an adoption center that way you can meet the people and set up a plan for you/ if you want to talk more you can email me.

jennifer

my husband and i are looking to adopt.we would be very interested in adopting your baby.if you would like more information about us.you can contact me at jenniba37@yahoo.com

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