I don't know who the bio father is of my baby but my hus. wants to adopt her how do we do that ?
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I don't know who the bio father is of my baby but my hus. wants to adopt her how do we do that ?
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My Husband has been in her life since she was 5 months old she is now 18 months I don't know who the father is for sure but the person that I have confronted wont acknowledge that he is and wont take a test I haven't spoken to him since before she was born. There is NO father on the birth certificate and my husband wants to be named as her father but I cant seem to find a process that will help me with this
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I have already tried the child support thing it took forever and got me no where he wont pay for a dna test and if he refuses they will just put him on the birth certif any way and make him pay child support I dont want and make me deal with an unstable person for the rest of my life plus what if he isnt the father? then I have to pay him back his costs
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Moni Mon
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As long as no one is named as the father he can sign her B.C. and then he will be legally named the father because he would sign an affidavit of paternity stating he is her father. If later he changes his mind and you still want him to be responsible he will have to pay for the DNA to prove that he is not the father. But if he loves her he wont do that and you dont have to worry about that. In Nevada where I am, whoever signs the B.C. is deemed the legal father and is responsible until the child is 18. If a woman is married and cheats on her husband and gets pregnant the husband is legally resonsible for the child even if he is not the father. Weird, HUH?
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anastasia beaverhausen-the real1
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oh, screw it. if your hubby is going to stand up and be a REAL man, just go for it.
as anti-adoption as i am, no kid deserves a crap-*ss bio father in her life.
and secondly.....if at all possible, i would encourage you to at least try to figure out who the bfather is, bc your kid will want to know his/her roots in the future.
TRUST me on THAT! |
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Hunter and Madilynns Mama!
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I believe that he could adopt the baby since you have no idea who the actual father is it will make it easier. |
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Katherine W
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Call your local courthouse and ask them. They'll tell you how to do it. You can also go to Legal Aid services locally -- call United Way and ask them what's available. Or you could just see a lawyer. Chances are that the courts will do it for a small fee.
It's great that you married a good guy! Way to go!
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Bouvier
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Tricky...depending on your state law, they may subpoena this guy for dna prior to relinquishment of parental rights. Otherwise, the court will place ads in local newspapers with a general description of the child, date, place born, and some other information, with a plea for the father to contact the court. If he does not within 60 days (Maryland time frame, may differin your state), then it goes back to the court to review and then decide whether or not to relinquish the parental rights of the birthfather. This proces took about 90 days overall for us, it was a nail biter, but worked out in the end. Good luck. |
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thats_hot1205
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File with child support enforcement this will get the ball rolling. He will hae to answer their call because he will not answer yours. They will end up doing a DNA test to make sure he is the father and then all you have to do is have a lawyer draw up papers so he can sign his rights away then just have him sign it the you will have to petition the court for adoption then you take the DNA and papers he signed to court and then your hubby will be able to adopt the child. If he acknowledges that the baby is his now then you can just have the papers done and have him sign them and have them notarized. |
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Cool Hal
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I pretty much agree with anastasia beaverhausen's remarks (especially about maintaining the details so your daughter can get in touch if she chooses to), if the only issue is that your ex wont pay for the DNA test why dont you and your husband pay for it.
They cost like £100 (US170) isnt that a small price to pay to move on with your life?
From your wording you are in the UK so this actually is an easy way out for him if he is the Dad and he should be snapping your hand off.
A word of unsolicited advise if I may? Your ex sounds like a tosser (which from reports I think my biodad is) and I would advise you to be never to lie to your daughter about him but just be sensitive.
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Pregnant w #1 Due December 14!!
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I'm not sure how you go by doing it but my mom added the person who I call dad onto my birth certificate when she married him. I took his last name and everything. I didnt meet my biological father till I was 15. |
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Gaia Raain
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Unless you were drugged, you know who the father is. Speak to each lover you had around the time of your daughter's conception. If none of them are willing to take the test, just make sure they understand that they will be losing their rights to her, but that she probably will one day come looking for her father. Make sure you have as much information as possible on all her possible fathers (name, birthdate, last known address, phone number, likes dislikes, medical info, etc.) because your daughter has a right to her own information. Just because he's not around doesn't make him unimportant. Whoever he is, he is half of her.
Once that's done, if you believe that an adoption is necessary (i.e. there is no other way to make your child feel like family with her "Dad" than to have a piece of paper that legally severs her ties with her natural father, changes her identity and her birth certificate, gives her less rights than every other citizen in the state, and changes her life forever), then go for it.
Good luck to you and your family. |
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Julia
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Take the one that went acknowledge that he is her father to child support they will make him have a DNA test done. And go from there
State will pay for it |
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