I don't want to be adopted anymore, how do I get it undone?

sweetjane

As long as the adoption was done legally, there is no way to be un-adopted, or to void the adoption.

However, your birth parents or another adult could adopt you. Adult adoption is legal in all states, I believe. You don't need anyone's permission to do it, either. That would put a different name on your newly-issued birth certificate, and give a different person those "legal rights" that you don't want your AP's to have.

Alternatively, you can do a legal name change yourself now, and you don't need anyone's permission for it. And a will and a living will should take care of anything another related adult might try to do against your choices. But neither of those are foolproof, which is probably why so many adult adoptees choose to have someone else adopt them rather than following those processes.

Felicita1

There are two options: You can petition the court to annul your adoption (rare, but judges have been known to grant this petition). Or you could be adopted-back by your natural family. Have you reunited with them? Adopting-back is more common, especially when it follows a successful reunion as a final step in restoring the original family as it once was. Search, reunion, relationship, adopting-back.

Adoption, unlike birth, need not be forever. It is an artificial social construct (and legal child adoption actually was only invented in 1852). If you don't want to be adopted, there is no reason you have to remain adopted.

Good luck. I adopted back my son, so it can be done. He is no longer related to the abusive people who raised him.

ETA -- "Emancipation" only applies to minors and does not change legal filiation. It is not applicable to your case

ETA -- I'm sorry to hear that your mother had died. That is a huge loss. Have you reunited with your father?

Serenity71

Change your surname legally to one that want and move away from them. Your an adult so the choice is ultimately yours who you have in your life.

Angela R

An adoption can not be "undone", however, even as an adult, you could have someone else legally adopt you, (an older friend, mentor) and then your adoptive parents would no longer be considered related to you in any way.

If that's not an option, you could simply change your last name and end all contact with them. However, if you are not married, your adoptive family will be considered your "next of kin", and could make emergency medical decisions for you unless you legally appoint someone else to make those decisions incase you are unable to. (I'm assuming you wouldn't want you adoptive family to make those decisions for you.

babygirl2303

idk im srry you have to go threw all of that

Crucio

Yeah you canâ€™t be un-adopted unless someone else was willing to adopt you. As others have said you can change your surname and just not have contact with your family. There are many people who are estranged from their family for one reasons or another.

LisaHW

The law says you are no longer a child, so you technically don't need to worry about who your parents are at this point. You can change your name, and you can "disown" your adoptive family - nobody can stop you from doing that.

You could take it a step further and find an attorney who will write up a will for you, specifically stating that if anything ever happens to you nobody from the adoptive family will be included in your will. You could also ask about naming a close friend as "nearest of kin" in the event you were to become disabled in some way and need a "next of kin" to make medical decisions on your behalf.

Other than that, you don't really need to do more to become "un-adopted" at your age anyway. In the eyes of the law, once people are over 21 nobody cares who their parents are unless they become seriously ill and unable to make their own decisions, or unless they die without a will.

As a mother of two biological children and one adopted child, I can tell you that what makes me their mother has nothing to do with any birth certificates or adoption certificates on file at the court. Relationships are about what's in people's hearts - and if nothing is in your heart for the people who adopted you, then you've already un-adopted yourself.

Angela D

You can't be "un-adopted" anymore than you can be "un-born"...what's done is done and can not be undone.

You can choose to have nothing to do with them if you wish but the historical fact of your adoption can not now be altered.

dontknow86

Find your birth mom and start over? Im so sorry this has gone bad for you. Have nothing to do with them anymore and move on.

mom

Just pack up and move. Or contact an attorney in your city that works with cases like yours and see what they can do or if you can just forget them and move on or see if you are still technically their child.

Stephanie K

Once you are 18, you are legally an independent.

allchildrenareangels

I don't think there is a process for this unless you want someone else to adopt you. If I were you I would pick a knew name and have it changed. That way you will not have their name anymore then sever all ties. I am sorry for whatever it is that you have been through. Is there any more remaining family of your birth mother. Like an aunt or an uncle. Maybe it would be good to meet them. Maybe you could take your biological mother or fathers name. I really hope you find peace.

Love,
MIchelle

smiley :-)

change ur surname and then get
''emancipation''
its kinda like ''divorce'' from ur family,well in ur case the adopted family
xoxo

skc7264

get emancipated from them (a divorce from your parents)

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