I gave my girl up for adoption about 10 years ago the man that adopted is now dead how can i get her back?

Randy B

If she was legally adopted then it may depend upon what arrangements the man had made or what his family wants.

I don't think it would be possible but contact a lawyer as only one of those could examine the case and advise you how you may be able to proceed. If you wanted to "get her back" then you may need to adopt her yourself if thats possible and for that you would need to qualify like anyone else.

kitta

Be prepared to do DNA testing. Unless you have already established parentage. You may have to establish it again.

Excellent that she wants to live with you!

AS the others have already said, you will need a family rights attorney.

Since she has been adopted, she will have to be adopted by you. Weird, but that is how it works, unless you or the adoptive father made some other arrangement, such as an automatic placement in case of death.

Make a case for yourself. Are there other relatives who can stand up for you? Friends? Church? Community?The more the better. The laws in your state will look at you very harshly because you surrendered her, so you must show that you can pass the squeaky-clean test.

You are older now and that may help you.

The laws will state that you must be prepared for her, be able to provide a clean home,decent neighborhood, education, medical care, guidance, stability,good food,etc. and that you are not a danger to her.

ETA: check the laws of your state, but most likely easier after age 18, because she will be an adult. Legally speaking, it matters a great deal that you do this.It is very important to establish a legal relationship, as well as the biological one.

Good luck to both of you.

Wundt

Don't get a lawyer. She turns 18 in a month. Things move very slowly, and likely by the time you get anything done she will be 18 and officially an adult.

You and her should sit down with her grandparents (the ones she is living with) and tell them the plan for her to come live with you. It is possible they will agree to have it happen sooner. Even if they don't, it will smooth things over when she does move out.

The ONLY reason you should bother with trying to adopt her might be for health insurance reasons. But otherwise, once she is 18, it really doesn't matter much. And, certainly isn't worth the cost.

Halo Mom

See a lawyer

Nobody can tell you this

You need to see a lawyer

MamaKate

Dear Chris & Kelsey,

Congrats on having each other in your lives again! :)

http://www.adoptingback.com/

Good luck and best wishes for a long, happy and healthy future together!

Crucio

In most cases adoption does not work like that. The death of a parent who has adopted does not guarantee that the child that was adopted will be returned to their biological parents. What arrangements did this girls father make for her? Who is she currently living with/has custody of her? How is her home life? Who ever has custody or guardianship of her would have to give up their legal rights to her and then you would have to re-adopt her.

Assuming she is 10 year old or even a year or two older then that, a child does not get to pick who they are going to live with. Take an older child in a custody situation they can tell who they would rather live with but in the end (in most cases) they do not make the finale call.

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Off the cuff, if she is considered an adult at 18 in your locale, then she can go anywhere she wants to go then. She could even be adopted back by you if she wanted to be.

A lawyer could settle this.....

March is just next month.....

kidmindi

Even if you get a lawyer, she will be 18 before it would go to court. When she is 18, she can then choose to live with you or wheverever she wants...It's just a month, hang in there until then

Angela R

In order for her adoptive father to adopt her, you would have either had to give up your rights to the child, or your rights were terminated by the court. Since she was adopted by someone else, then in the eyes of the law, you are no longer her father and have no legal rights to her.

You didn't state if her mother is alive or not, but if so then she would need to consent to you adopting your daughter back, or if not, then the grandparents would need to, but she will likely be 18 by the time the adoption is final. Or they could probably just give you temporary guardianship since she's almost an adult, and you could re-adopt her after she turns 18 if you want.

fafa12345

okay well when the child is 18 she is legally an adult. After she is 18 if she chooses, she can make you her legal parent.

goodluck

Joann D

I believe all states differ when it comes to the laws of adoption. But for sure contact a lawyer. Especially if she is still in your life and wants to be with you. She can have a say in all this.

Cindy B

Contact a lawyer, he should be able to help you.

avictor

I don't agree that you will be treated harshly because you gave your daughter up for adoption.
Especially if you were a teen parent.

I am sure it was a very difficult and painful decision and you did what was best for your daughter at the time.

It is the courts job to do what is in the best interest of the child - not judge the birth mother on whether or not she should or shouldn't have put the child up for adoption.

As long as the reasons you put her up for adoption have been resolved completely and you an prove that you will provide a good home then you have a case.

So yes, you have a chance to get her back. How good a chance depends on many factors.

twinkle83

you probably should av thought more about it before giving her away 10 years ago

RichyBaby

To be honest like why would you even give up your kid 10 years ago anyways? But you should get a lawyer and see what happenes.

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