I have just noticed, something that probably should have ?

Flying Monkey #073177

I'll give a run down of the first mothers I know of IRL.

My mom was 17 when she had, and lost, me.
I was 17 when my son was born and 19 when I lost him.
My abrothers fmom was 19.
My friend S's fmom was 16.
My adad and his girlfriend were 18 when they lost their daughter.
My other friend S was 17 when she relinquished.
My cousin's fmom was 14.
A friend from work's fmom was 20.
A past coworker's fmom was 16.

BLW_KAM

Our daughter's natural mother was 17.

Freckle Face

DD's mother was 29 yrs but we are the exceptions. In our adoption support group, most First Mothers were teenagers.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

I was 17 when I gave my son up and my bmom was 36 when she gave me up

Sly

I lost my son at 18. I got pregnant on or about my 18th birthday. I am in groups with hundreds of women who lost their children to adoption during the EMS, and their ages range from 15 to about 22. It was not the norm during the EMS for the mothers to be older. In the home where I was there was an "older" mother who was 28. She was separated from her husband and got pregnant. She had an 8 year old at her mothers. If he had found out she was pregnant she would have lost her son. Her baby was born dead due to the anxiety she felt, I am sure.

During the EMS mothers were usually very young. Now it is different and the average age of the surrendering mother is in her early to mid twenties, statistically, according to the Donaldson Institute.

Robin

Interesting question!

I'm a BSE (baby scoop era) adoptee. My 1st mom was 21 when I was born, 23 when I was placed in foster care (b/c she was a poor, divorced working mom b4 welfare per court records) and 24 when she lost me to adoption.

Sofiakat

My kids' mum 18 when one was born and almost 20 when the second child was born.

DevonChaos

I heard my mother was somewhere between 14-16 when she conceived me.

Crucio

My file said that my natural mother was quite young and since she had a daughter who was 3 years older then me. I guess that she was anywhere between 19 to 22

Indian-vision

Our daugters birth mom was 24.

Ghost Writer Rides Again

I was 28, almost 29 yrs old when I gave birth and surrendered. I was also raising a 3 1/2 yr old little girl. The father of both my children is my soon to be ex husband. I was still married at the time of my younger daughter's surrender, tho he was out of the picture at the time of her birth (but he was made aware of the adoption plan, I had him served legal and proper). Her father was 30 when I surrendered.

kateiskate

I don't know how old mine was, but my little sister's was sixteen when she gave birth to her and then in her late twenties when she had two sons that she and her husband raised.

Linny G

My n mom was 24 and in grad school.

aloha.girl59

My son's first mother was 20 when she had her first child, who was adopted. She was 31 when she gave birth to her last child, the one I adopted. She is now 38.

Anha S

My first mother was 18 when she had me. My abrother's first mother was 17.

Kazi

As my daughter is from China, unfortunately we don't have information about her mama.

As for my son, adopted from domestic foster care, his first mother was 37 when he was born.

trying2behelpful

My daughter's fmom was 24.

Carol c

I was 18 when I became pregnant in 1966. In the Booth Home I was sent to - most of the girls were about my age - 16 to 19. There was however, a 14 year old and one young woman who I believe was in her early 20's.

romeochewy

I was 21 when I placed my newborn, healthy child

lidea316

i was 17 when i had my first son who i kept 19 when i had my daughter who i placed for adoption and 21 when i had my second son i placed for adoption with the same family

myst1998

I had just turned 20 whn I was raped and found out I was pregnant with my daughter. Most mothers I have met since were between 16-21 years old when they lost their children. I would say older mums relinquishing/losing children is unusual.

allchildrenareangels

this is what I have heard but, I don't know if it is true or not. More young mothers consider adoption but, more older moms go through with it. I think the reason why if an older mom gets to the point that she is moving forward with anything she is serious and whether it hurts or not will go through with what she thinks will be best. I guess what I am trying to say is not that an older mom loves their child more but, they are more likely to put their babies needs first.

Love,
Michelle

Birthers are NOT mothers

Birthers have one thing in common...abandonment. Age doesn't matter, you can be just as selfish and cruel at 40 as you can at 15.

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