I may possibly found a baby to adopt?

Wish it was that simple but do get a lawyer and get things started. There are some things you will have to do to be okayed for even a private adoption. And she can not sign her rights away til 49 to 72 hours after birth and they do change their minds cause it happen to me twice. Also, where is the birth father in this? One of my birth mother signed conditional relinquishment papers that if the birth father tried to fight the adoption, the baby would revert back to her and the relinquishment would be void. Get the lawyer, there is some stuff you need to do. But congrats!!! It takes a least 90 days for an adoption to be final. Thats if everything is done without problems

kurts99ford

Go to a lawyer that specializes in adoption NOW! Don't wait!

Good Luck!

Address all your questions to your attorney so you dont have to experience a heart ache...

piratecaptainkyle

You should speak to a lawyer and have them draw up everything before hand, you don't want to wait too long and then have everything fall through. The lawyer can tell you everything that you will need to do. I would speak to the lawyer as soon as possible. Make sure that the mother signs all of the papers as well as you.

dmcg1012

ever hear that old saying - too good to be true -
get a lawyer right away - before your taken for an emotional ride

Dalice Nelson

If something sounds too good to be true, it usually is. I'd hate to see you get your heart broken over something like this. I'd suggest getting a lawyer involved NOW. Have all of the legal ducks in a row before she gives birth.

Good look-I hope this works out for you.

pebblesphd

I would contact a lawyer to discuss this with. I know you will have to terminate the parental rights of the parents. Also you have to decide if you will remain in contact with the parents to send pictures possibly. Make sure you know what the family expects. Make sure you can make that kind of commitment financially and emotionally. Prepare yourself for any of the disappointment that could go with the adoption procedures. I wish you the very best of luck and admired you for choosing to give a child a loving home. Again Please contact a lawyer for advice God Bless you.

lil southern girl

It depends on your state's adoption laws. We have done them that way in the law firm where I work, but most states have more stringent requirements than that. The judge may say that bio daddy has to sign off, and if he is nowhere to be found, he may say everything must be done to find him, exhausting all possibilities before finalizing the deal. A guardian ad litem (attorney for the baby) may or may not be required. A home study may or may not be required. There are all kinds of things that may or may not have to happen, and you need to talk to an adoption attorney in your state to know for sure.

P.Y.T.

i dont know if thats a good idea i saw somethin like this on dr. phil, a lady was running a scam. just be careful, sometimes it's worth the extra effort to make sure it's a legit operation. good luck and god bless!!

momofone

Congrats!! We just started our search and expect it to take at least a year. If that were to happen to me I would have an Attorney immediately. I will guess that my Atty. would need to talk to her or her attorney (which you should pay for)If she wants 0 dollars from you, you have nothing to lose (well maybe the atty fees). As far as emotional duress....that is the risk one takes when they adopt domestically. Go for it with wide open eyes....listen to your gut feelings and watch and listen to all red flags. Best of luck to you. Can you tell me how you met her??? Maybe I can use some of your advise.

Adoptive Father

I agree with the advice to get a lawyer now! I can recommend someone in Indiana or Illinois. E-mail if you are interested.

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..i dont know the logistics of it, but I was adopted and it took my parents 7 years to get me. It took 4 years to finalize the adoption on my lil brother.

jeff b

I'm sure that it varies from state to state. But in Michigan you also have to have a home study done. In essense, have an agency that can verify to the judge that your home is fit for a child.

Angela R

It can vary a lot depending on which state you live in. You'll want to verify that your sate does allow independent adoptions without the use of an agency. (a few states don't), and you'll probably still need to complete a homestudy. Some states have other requirements for this type of adoption as well.
Also remember that although it probably won't be as expensive as an agency adoption, legal and court fees can still run over $10,000, and some other costs may also be involved.

Here are a few sites that might be helpful to you

http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=1017

http://adopting.adoption.com/child/independent-adoptions.html

Good luck to you on your adoption journey, I wish you the best.

SisterSue

Each state's laws are different regarding adoption...I would get a lawyer that specializes in adoption in your state.
There are papers that are drawn up beforehand that both parties need to understand prior to the baby being born.

mom of many

every state is different but in Wisconsin it doesn't work that way. You must first be foster care/adoption certified approved by the state. Lots of interviews called a Homestudy. Lots of paperwork and background checks and some hours of classes. Before you can adopt any child, private or not.

Lynn â„¢

My grandpa did this. I wasn't there, but that sounds right. Plus if your lawyer is going to sign it, he or she will tell you if theres something wrong.

Tired of the Crap~!

Talk to a lawyer and there is a little more to it than that. It still costs a great deal.

Congradulations!

Mother of four

Ther are still legal fee to think of. You need a lawyer.

InOklahoma they have "Oklahoma Alternative Resources" 918-742-8883 They provide lawyers on a slidding scale (very good ones I might add) Even if you do not live in OK give them a call and see if they can refer you to an orgnazation in your state.

Good Luck I am so HAPPY for you guys!

giaalex76

Where are you adopting from? Ive been looking into adoption for almost a year. We have an attorney in Guatemala trying to adopt, but the whole system is so corrupt that its almost impossible to adopt without having to pay so much money.

slklein1957

As long as she does not change her mind before the paperwork is final.
Good Luck

Wanna-Be-Mommy

You should call the Dept. of Social Services in your state. Ask for the Adoptions unit and they will point you in the right directions. There are certain forms that need to be filled out, you will be given a new birth certificate stating you are the parents of this child. There are Indian Heritage forms and letters that need to be sent... there is a lot to adoption, but it is completely within your reach! Good luck!

P.S. I've heard of a lot of women who adopt children and then soon after get pregnant naturally on their own!

MYAB

Pregnant women change their mind alot just keep that in mind. I hope it works as easy as it sounds.

parental unit

contact a family law attorney to help you draft the proper paperwork and to make sure you get everything in order, just in case. You may have to have a home inspection from DCF, which is crazy, since if you had your own baby they would not do this, but I have heard some states require it. Good luck and congrats!!!!

AdoptiveMama

You cannot legally adopt a baby without going before a judge in court. A lawyer is the first step in the right direction, I would be careful....it the baby born yet? When is the baby due? Do you know the birthmother? What does she want....visits, contact, pictures, letters? Talk to a lawyer ASAP, and all the dealings from this point on need to be through a lawyer. I know this sounds harsh...but it is better to protect yourself, than get attached to a baby and have to give the baby back!

luzina p

i agree with everybody

lefttheroom222

The only catch is that she may come back later and say she wants the baby back. Especially if she didn't go through counseling or go through an adoption agency. There is no record of anything. She could claim she wasn't thinking clearly or was pressured by someone else.

Imagine losing the child when he or she is 4. It has happend before. The parent's rights are strong.

Go through an adoption agency!!!

Stan

Why not just skip the baby and be my "sugarmommy," so I can quit my job?

I'll make it worth your while! Haha!

not in this country NO ...

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