I need some answers about open adoption?

Just a Mom

Yeah, first of all, he does need to be providing child support. Secondly, the kids deserve to stay together. I know how you feel about being overwhelmed. I have 7 and although I do have my partner, she works crazy hours and I often have all 7 by myself. And I am a full time college student. It is hard, and I imagine that you never intended to be a single mom of 9 kids. But you have to roll with the punches. Think about what is best for them. Is it really best for them to be split up?

Do you go to a church that could help? Every Sunday that I have to go to church by myself with the kids, there are plenty of people around who WANT to help me with the kids. They like holding the babies and get a kick out of the funny things the older ones say.

I hope you can get through this without an adoption.

snowwillow20

How would you ever pick which ones to keep and which ones to give away?
Check with your state, they might have services you can get temporarily and your husband should be paying child support.

Mom to Foster Children

WOW - how are you going to choose which ones you give away and which ones you are going to keep? Secondly - how are you going to explain this to the kids now (the ones that your keeping) and later to (the ones you're giving away?) Sue your husband for child support and get some help from the state and god forbid you drive to Nebraska to take advantage of the no age limit Safe Haven Law.

Lori A

I would talk to the parents of some of your kids friends and see if any one would take in on a temporary basis some of your children. It has been done before. In the mean time you still have contact with them, there are no actual papers drawn up, and you are still the responsible party concerning their medical care and school necessities. Then you need to get your own act together.

I have done this. Two brothers that were my kids friends, whom I adored, came to live with me at separate times. They are both back home now and doing okay. It was easy on all the kids because they were friends and practically lived here anyway.

jinsuperstar

I don't think you shuld adopt your children i know it's hard but just remember that you created them and they have your blood in them There children consider it. Find a babysiter or if there young take them to drop ins

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

perhaps you should watch sophie's choice.

i hope you are prepared for the backlash you will get from the ones you desert toward the ones you keep.

leila

You need to call the local foster care agency or abuse hotline in your area. Not because you are abusive, but because they have the resources to help you. If you should decide to give them up for adoption if there are no resources to help you, I suggest you give the smaller ones up...they will have less loss issues then the older ones. A private adoption agency should be able to help you find homes for your children and you can specify and open adoption. Look for an adoption agency that specializes in open adoption or has a lot of experience with it. Find out what the laws are open adoption if the adoptive parent should decide not to continue with an open adoption after finalization. good luck, this must be very difficult for you.

39 Weeks Pregnant!

Contact a local adoption agency, they will be able to help you.

good luck.

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