I think i'm adopted?

LaurieDB

One thing you can do is get a copy of your birth certificate. Take a look at the filing date. If it was filed a while after your birth (say, 4 months or more,) there's a decent chance you were adopted. Most people file them pretty soon after the birth. However, an amended birth certificate, which is produced following an adoption, cannot be filed until after the finalization of the adoption. That normally takes several months or more.

Ask your parents, though, too. Even if you feel a little embarrassed, you won't be the first person to ask this of her parents.

max'smom

Ask and keep asking.
Tell them you need to kow and then ask other family members you know if you are they know. Other family will let it outl are you close to cousins older than you?

Freckle Face

Hi xOkaybaby,

So far you have great advice but here is a different angle as a science geek....

ask your parents their blood types. If they don't know, talk them into donating blood at the red cross with you. You will get a donor card mailed to you, with your blood types on them. Now it might be no help at all or it could give you a definite answer. Like if both your parents are "o" blood types and you are "ab", then they cannot be your parents. Then again, if you are all "a" blood type it doesn't help much cause you could still be adopted. Good luck.

http://anthro.palomar.edu/blood/ABO_system.htm

Kitty

That does sound very suspicious. Ask them. If you feel they are not telling you the truth, try to obtain your birth certificate. It will be at your local courthouse, and you can also buy them on-line sometimes.

Let me tell you the truth. I know a person that is adopted, but she does not know and she is 30 years old. Her parents refuse to tell her the truth. They even went as far as to fake a pregnancy and took pictures where her mother "looks" pregnant. They dont have any of when she was in the hospital, but they have some of when she was at home. They have no intentions of ever telling her, and it is not my business. The had no other children, and even some of her family members think she is their real child because of all of the lies. It is very sad.

beachchick08

Ask your parents about it, just talk to them, they should open up and tell you if you ask. Tell them you are writing a paper for school and need to know where you were born and need a copy of your earliest picture to go with it. Maybe even ask if you can look at your birth certificate, tell them all your friends have seen theirs and you really want to look at yours. If your an only child, tell them how cool it would be if they adopted a baby brother or sister for you, but make it like a random though, maybe they will tell you. Come straight out and ask them, tell them that you don't think you look like them, tell them their stories sound kind of sketchy, and tell them that you know how much it means to have someone that loves you so much that takes u in as their own and adopts you, tell them you would be really hurt if they lied to you and told you when you are older, tell them you are ready to hear the stories about when you were a baby. Keep asking, if they don't want to tell, it will drive them nuts and they will tell. Good luck. I have a few friends that were adopted, some didn't find out until like 15 or older.

Gershom

Ask about how you were born. Look at your birth certificate, are there signatures on it? does it have all of your vital details? Go to the hospital and try and get your medical records from your birth under the name you currently have.

Thats a good start.

Lovely sweetie

never hurts to ask because my best friend was on myspace and some strange lady sent her a friend request and she answered it and the lady sent her a message saying Hi i'm your mom. Turned the girl adoptive mother was gonna wait to tell her she was adopted once she had her first child. so it never hurts to question

Ingrid

I wish I would know your age. I then could give you at least some answer.

Stephy Jo

You should not jump in head first and ask if you are adopted. It is a very sensitive subject. Not all children look like their parents. Some look like aunties, grannies and some people are just a mixture. You should ask them who you look most like in your family. Also, ask what you were like as a baby, like how much you weighted, how long your mum was in labour and stuff like that. Don't just ask your mum and dad, ask other relatives. And remember, if you are adopted, it was mum and dad who brought you up. It is natural for you to want to know your biological parents, but keep their feeling into account.
Good Luck and all the best!

If you are, do you really, want to know?
Think long and hard about it.
If so,
Sit them down, and tell them you're serious so they know you're not fooling around. Explain to them why you think it, without them interrupting and tell them it means a lot to you, this is no playful joke &you have a right to know the truth.

Hope it helps.x

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