I want to adopt a baby or young child? need help?

Gaia Raain

Well, that's a tall order. Would you like fries with that? Sorry to sound crass, but adoption is treated like a fast food restaraunt in the US today, and you seem to have fallen prey to that mentality.

First off, adoption should be a way to find families for children who need them, not babies for adults who want them. Second, if you just can't survive without someone else's baby to raise, you need to go through the process, cough up the dough to buy the baby all proper-like (i.e. to pay the agency that coerced the baby away from the natural mother for you), and sit and wait for a looooong time for that one healthy white infant who has 90 PAP's calmoring for him/her. And third, I fully understand if you take offense to the things I just said (I did too when people first said them to me) - but you must understand, this is what it feels like to be an adoptee. People are buying and selling babies, and one day those babies grow up and start to have feelings about the fact that someone so callously said "I want a baby", and went right out and bought one.

Before you move on with any form of adoption, please take LOTS of time to learn about adoption from the adoptee's perspective. It will change your life, and it will probably change your mind about wanting to raise someone else's child (just guessing by the way you wrote about it in your question).

tickled blue

Um....there are many legal ways to adopt a child/baby. I don't think it takes years and years....ours took 3 months through foster care....but the paperwork and the homestudy and training classes took nearly 1 year. Which will regularly be the case, since they must do things like background checks, training, and preparing you and your home for the child. I would simply call my local dss office. If you are looking for a baby, you will wait longer and pay tons of money. I have an issue with your question...perhaps its wording...in that you cant adopt an older child b/c of your emotional issues. You will need to be emotionally stable for any aged child....and many people with all sorts of disabilities adopt older children. If you want a baby, fine, you will wait for a while for a baby....but there are tons of older children in need of quality homes...regardless of your physical problems....but all children will need you to be your best emotionally.

Independ"ant"

At 21 your chances are none existent in getting a healthy baby or toddler. There are too many people with tons of money,older and more experience. Most people giving up their babies are your age and look for more established couples. I would suggest internationally but then you are taking the chance of a adopting a child that comes from a loving home but lacks money. If you are interested in adopting a child over 5 or 6, go to the Guatemalan city dump. Its sad and disturbing how many live there but you may have problems because of the fraudulent baby selling there over the past few years. The US and Guatemalan govt's are cracking down on it. Good luck and best wishes.

it doesn't take money, it takes love :) It's not true that there are no babies available. The county children and family services may tell you that there are no babies available until you finish the 8 weeks or so of classes, then, wait for the phone calls! I swear, at one point, they offered us a choice of 5 kids at once, all under 3 years old. They tell you that you have to wait years for a baby, but it's so not true. We got our first son, who was 6 weeks old, on the DAY we got our foster license. We got our second guy, who was 16 days old, the DAY we reopened our home as a potential adoptive home. We had closed it until our first guy was 18 months old because we weren't ready for another one until then. And suddenly, ring ring, they called that same day and offered us the baby :) We're now a family of 4! Good luck and congratulations of your future children :)

Brown Pit named Blue

What you really need is lots of money. Everything is about money.

dianne

hmm if you can love and care for others baby for sure you can adopt..want to adopt my baby?..

YA Sucks

Actually, the foster care system is a good route. We don't have a lot of teens available for adoption simply because of factors that remove them from the adoption process before they reach that age. And, in my experience (10 years doing adoptions both with social services and in private agencies) the kids almost always overcome any issues they might ahve once placed with a loving caring family. Adoption is about MATCHING children who NEED homes with families who WANT them. It's a two way street, it's mutually inclusive, one can't exist without the other. So you need to be sure you're ready, and then go to your local agency to at least talk to the social workers or attend an orientation. Sometimes they have adoption day when the social workers are all available to answer your questions. Also Foster care isn't a long process. In California, at least, a typical adoption is completed within 12 to 18 months after the court terminates parental rights. Not all families are appropriate for adoption, so if you find yourself waiting more than a year for a child to be placed in your home, you may want to explore other options. Trust me, the social workers will put your file in the back of the drawer if you aren't appropriate, it's easier than telling you face to face.

You're old enough and have been in a relationship long enough, those are pluses. You must be 10 years older than the child you adopt in the state of CA at least.

Good luck

sk8ermom

The foster system has plenty of babies and toddlers needing homes! You have the risk that they will go back to their parents but if you do fost/adopt the process is a bit less risky. The children available to adopt through the state (waiting children) are mostly teenagers but I don't get where you got the idea all foster children are.
You are too young for most international adoption. Off the top of my head, all I can think you would qualify for is Ukraine.
Domestically, most agencies prefer you to be 25. However, if you are open to an African american child then the wait is much shorter and the age requirement may be waved. Older child (toddler) placement does happen privately but is must less frequent.

~Blonde~

Childrens Hope International 95%chance you will get a girl (China)

sushil gupta

i have my nice , sweet good looking , & perfect in all respect , my sister is financially weak to afford her ,please email me if you are interested

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