I want to place my unborn for adoption. The babies father says no. He cannot support me and does drugs. Help!?

LindseyTaylor

You talk to a local adoption agency about options...you can do it without his consent, they have lawyers waiting. If he is an unfit parent and you dont want him raising your child then thats your choice. Seriously talk to him thou and see why he doesnt want to adopt, he might just be intimidated by the idea of it like most people are when they first hear it...

Lori A

If he wants to raise the child he can without supporting you. Many a person has quit distructive behavior when children enter the picture. If he wants the child start talking to him about where he is going to live, who is going to do day care while he works or goes to school, and whether you are going to be an active part of this childs life. He has every right to parent the child he produced.

Independ"ant"

I know you're scared but try to keep in mind this is temporary and will pass. There are resources available to help you in whatever you decide.

My opinion is....regardless of your personal relationship with him, he is the baby's father and has rights. Unfortunately, not as much as he "should" have.

He is the childs father and should have a say so on the situation. I would look at the positive and see that he cares enough to want to be a part of the childs life and not hand the baby over to strangers.

If you don't want to raise the child then tell him he needs to grow up and stop experimenting with drugs and take custody of the child after the baby is born. Many young fathers snap out of their immaturity after the baby is born. If you want to be involved with your child you will need to pay half of the childs expenses just like you're expecting him to do.

If you do decide to keep the baby then tell him to pay half the expenses to raise the "baby" and be a big part of the baby's life but keep in mind this doesn't mean being responsible for you and your bills. There are resources out there to assist you and it isn't as horrifying as some adult with personal agendas will inform you.

He can stop the adoption even if you go behind his back. It wouldn't be fair to him or the child if you did this.

Zeena

Well, he technically isn't legally recognized as the father until the baby is born.

Still, I wouldn't try to pull a fast one and give the baby up without his consent otherwise you could get into legal trouble.It is his child too.

I would suggest he go to rehab or something along those lines and get clean if he wants to be a father.He does have the right since he is the father but for the best interest of the child, he needs to get sober otherwise he cannot do it and the courts will probably not see him fit.

Suggest a recovery house/program.

Mrs. D

I have an idea....why don't you support yourself! As well as the baby! Millions of single mothers do it everyday!

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

be prepared to be bombarded with hungry people wanting your child.

you can't do it without his consent.

amyburt40

There are ways for him to protect his rights. He can and will probably file on the putative father registry. Guess what? That will get him custody. He can contact all of the adoption agencies and tell them that he will do this. They can not complete the adoption without his consent.

alita6869

this is your baby you need to raise him or her yourself i raised mine i was 16 when i had him no daddy to help take of you and your child you can get help if you need it so keep the baby it will the best thing you ever did

C F

Try to find an organization near you that will help you. You don't need to deal with that alone. I am sure you can find decent people to help you either you decide to keep the baby or to put it for adoption. Consider your options very well so you don't regret.
Stay away from drugs and from the baby father if he is not willing to help you and support you emotionally and financially. After all it's his baby too and he has obligations towards you.

39 Weeks Pregnant!

If you can prove to the court that he is an un-fit father (drug user) and can't support the child, chances are the adoption will go through without his consent. Get in touch with a local adoption counselor ASAP.

C Wood

You can talk to legal aid about getting father's parental rights terminated, mostly on the basis of his doing drugs. You may need to get together proof of his drug problem, but if he's been picked up by the police for this, it should be pretty easy.

Good Luck.
cw

Kristy

he has to give the ok for the adoption unless you don't know who the father or the child is

xxlucky7xx

If he hasn't helped or supported in any way you can place your baby up for adoption.

debbie

I don't know exactly who to contact about it but check the front of your phone book - the "Yellow Book" has the red pages in the front for local help groups and the blue pages for the numbers of government offices (like finding your county's human services department). If he does drugs and wouldn't be able to support a child then he wouldn't be able to get custody of the child but I'm not an expert when it comes to this sort of thing so call and ask those who know.

In either case I'm proud of you for making the very very tough decision to put your child up for adoption rather than going the abortion route or a worse alternative.

deqa w

I hate it when people say that he ot Support me and does drugs you can raise it yourself it is not hard as everyone say it is if you worrying about their are people who can for example a family member do go giving it to strangers and then regretting it i know a lot of people who have regret it and i know a lot of Single mums who ain't rich but are very good parents don't really want money they want love you don't know for sure if the adoptive parent is going to love him or her as much as you do the baby doesn't know any body apart from its mum that is the person who carried it for 9 mounts keep the baby for about a month or 2 and see i you have a a bond if not help the beat his drug addiction sen him in to rehab then if he is Clean while let him have custody s better then handing the baby to strangers i hope you and your bay are doing well remember money is not love bye love

Jamie's Mommy

I just wanted to commend you for thinking about the child's best interests. I hope this turns out well for you. I wish you all the best.

Blacksunshine

first of all, make sure you tell him that if you were to keep it,the state would most likely take it away cause soon he'll deemed unfit.the state probably won't give you too much of a problem,as long as you can prove he dose drugs.I'm sorry you have to go through this,but I'm happy your looking out for the child.

Jasmine

Depending on the state, you don't even need to tell the agency who the father is. You can talk to a local adoption agency who should be able to help you through this. There has to be a way to terminate his rights, and you may have to go to court to do so.

Amilah,.!

why did u even get pregent in the first place?

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