I was adopted at birth and I want to know if...?

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

I can guarantee you she thinks about you, and you should ask your parents for information, EVERYONE has the right to know where they came from

good luck to you!!!!

Zeena

Wait, you just recently found out you were adopted?

Don't worry about hurting your parents feelings.

Firstly, (if you JUST found out you were adopted) that is a no no on your parents part.They should have raised you with this information.

Secondly, by adopting you in the first place, they run the risk of you being curious of where you originated.

Yes, you can potentially find out your birth mother/father when you are 18 years of age.You would probably have to contact the agency in which your adoption took place and request the none identifying information (you might be able to do that right now) This information is usually what your ethic background is, what your parents did for a living, if you had any brothers or sisters etc.

Good luck.

Gershom

what state were you adopted in? I can give you some things to prepare for once you become of age.

purple monkey dishwasher

Unless your mother is a heartless person, YES she thinks of you. I promise!

That was one of the first questions I asked my birthmom upon finding her. She said yes, all the time. Not just on my birthday. But little things like a plaid baby blanket or even watching a movie with a train in it (she traveled by train to give me away)

Your not alone in wondering that. I wondered that ALL the time growing up. YES YES YES. How can you not think about a child you carried for 9 months.

I understand you not wanting to upset your adoptive parents, but you also have a right to know about your adoption. Hopefully they will understand that you have a need to know and that will feeling of wonder will never go away. Its a natural instinct.

Good luck and hugs!

Lori A

Your first mother absolutely thinks of you. As far as asking your parents, they should expect questions from you. It is only natural. If they get upset explain that it has nothing to do with your love or loyalty to them as parents. It has to do with you and who you are.

Sherry S

I'm 27 weeks pregnant (almost 7 months) and I'm giving my baby up for adoption. You have no idea how hard its going to be, but it's best for the baby. I want it to have a good life. It going to be an open adoption but I wasn't sure at first. I was scared that knowing me might hurt the baby, and that seeing pictures and stuff might hurt me. Also, 15 years ago open adoption probably wasn't nearly as popular as it is now. She may not have known that it was even an option.

I can't promise that your birth mom is the same, but I will tell you that ALL I have been thinking about is how much I love my baby. I talk to it at night and tell it to lead a good life so that what I'm doing is worth it. I wonder what it's going to look like (my mouth and daddy's eyes and skin, hopefully.) I wonder how I'm going to look at it and hold it in the hospital and then give it away and maybe never see it face to face again. I wonder what it will think about me when it gets old enough to understand and pray to God that it knows that I'm doing what is best for it. (I say it because I haven't been able to find out if it is a boy or girl yet.) I don't see how I could ever not think about my baby.

As far as asking your parents about it, they are probably waiting for it and probably by now wondering if you are taking it well since you haven't asked about the adoption or your birth parents. I say go for it, and I wish you the best of luck.

Diane

Talk to your parents and ask them questions. When parents adopt a child they realize that sooner or later their child will begin to ask questions about their birth mother. I doubt that you will hurt their feelings. Good luck.

Adair

First let me start by telling you that I am adopted and so is my son. Mine is still a closed adoption but at the age of 18 you can register your name on line I forgot the link just google it and if your natural parents also register then they put you together. But, I also urge you to ask your parents if they would feel comfortable about you talking about it. As adopted people we are special and our parents went through a lot to get us. This is part of our life story. I always knew I was adopted and my 8 year old son knows he is adopted and always knew it. Let your parents know that you realize they went through a lot to have you in their lives and they are irreplaceable but you would like them to tell you the story of your life. You will find your natural parents one day if you really want to the laws are changing all of the time. But until then talk to your parents and get what information you can from them. Good luck

Fancy

i looked up my b/p's when i turned 18, and regretted it. Yes, i am sure she thinks about you every year on your birthday.

[[Glamour Gangster]] tm

You really should ask them.
It might hurt them
but you deserve to know
& im really sure she does
its not something you can forget

Lisamarie.

The exact same happened to me.

I'm the same aqe and everythinq, & I think about the same thinq constantly.

Don't ask your parents. It hurts then cause they've qrown to love you & when you ask it makes them feel that you miqht leave them..

Just don't. God bless you, Lisamarie.

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