I would like to find my birth mom. any suggestions?
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I would like to find my birth mom. any suggestions?
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All i know is the city i was born in and were i was born in my parents never met the mother or even knew her name everything was done through the agency and they wont give me the name of it any help would be nice
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cantstopLinnyG
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Hi, Jake. The links Robin provided you with are very helpful. Just wanted to dispel a few myths that have been quoted here.
MOST first mothers DO WANT to be found. Closed adoption is the norm, and it has nothing to do with the first Mom, it has to do with the adoptive parents and/or state laws.
Register on every site you can with your birth date, name, city & state you were born. Hunt around in your parents house, those papers (as far as which agency) are around somewhere. You can even petition the court in some states.
Good luck! |
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Possum
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Robin has given you some great advice.
Please ignore those that say that your mother may not want to be found.
You have a right to your truth. Many will try to talk you out of finding that truth - but I say - GO FOR IT!!
GOOD LUCK! |
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Dating Guru
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The internet is a powerful thing. Perhaps if you were to pose a question on Yahoo with some details you know but not all of them to see if anyone knows anything. Put vague points on there. You never know. Don't be too specific about anything. You don't want the wrong person getting your information and try and use it to do harm to you. Or you can contact the locator. I believe he comes on lifetime channel. You maybe one of the lucky ones. Good luck |
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Jai H
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maybe the hospital where you were born might help |
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destineeamber
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First of all, in order for the following suggestion to work, you must be at least 18. Secondly, keep in mind that it may take years for you to locate your birth mother. Now then, that said, here's my advice:
Find an Adoption Reunion site. Many of them are free, some are not. You may wish to register with more than one to further your chances of finding your mother. If this fails, then you may perform what is called a confidential intermediary. What this means is that you will need to petition the court to unseal the information contained in your adoption record in order to find your birth mother. Then you, or a hired P.I., can search for her. Keep in mind that in the intervening years since she gave you up, she could have married, moved out of country, or even, in a worst case scenario, died. Also keep in mind that your birth mother may not want to be found. (This happens very rarely, but is something that should be kept in mind.) More likely, though, she is just as anxious to meet you as you are to meet her. Good luck! |
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Timid Women Rarely Make History
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Sounds like this was a closed adoption. She may not have wanted to be found at the time.
Can you get an original copy of your birth certificate? Her name will be on that. |
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