If Adoption was Conducted Ethically would there be less Contested Adoptions?

MamaKate

Dear Heather,

I agree completely with JennaBean. The "business" ($) of facilitating adoption will never be ethical. There is nothing "ethical" about making money off of the "trading" of human beings. As long as adoption is treated as a business and people are making a monetary profit from it, it will never be ethical. Adoption should be above money if it is ever to be considered "ethical", IMO. Adoption has lost its purity of spirit, and until that purity is restored there will continue to be ethical issues and contested situations.

Sly

Clearly there would be less Contested Adoptions, because there would be less ADOPTION.

Sandy Young
SMAAC

Angela Q

It's always better to be ethical. Many of the problems in adoption are related to ethical lapses.

If the agencies followed their own rules and complied with laws, there would probably be fewer adoptions, but the ones that did happen would be contested less.

LaurieDB

Yes. This is especially so in cases where fathers are left out of the picture while mothers are whisked out of the state to have the baby and relinquish without the father knowing. Fathers get an absolutely raw deal.

Mothers who have decided that adoption is not what they want are put in a terrible position, as well. Many have been pushed anyway. There are a few hear that stood up and won. There are others who did so and lost, and continue to fight.

JennaBear

i think the question should be...can adoption be ethical? and ethical just doesn't mean 'i think it's good so people should adopt,' I'm talking about real ethics here...just a thought...I'm not sure it can, and certainly not in the large numbers of adoptions we see in the world currently...

Freckle Face

Hi Heather,

Imho, yes without a doubt.

Gaia Raain

I couldn't figure out a way to voice my exact feelings on this, so I went and thought about it some...and JennaBear summed it up for me. I think adoption is the best we've got for the kids who DO need a new family. But that doesn't mean it's a GOOD thing - just the least of two evils. I wish we could go back to a way of life where the people in the community (people the child already KNOWS) would step up to care for a child in need - where it's just expected, just a part of life, not some big legal thing where the child's identity is changed and then their truth hidden like some dark secret.

We have become too disconnected from each other. If there were no need for adoption, there would be nothing to contest.

monkeykitty83

I would think so. You can't just contest an adoption because you've changed your mind, once the revocation period is finished-- there has to be a reason like fraud, coercion, or illegal action, and it has to be provable for the adoption to be overturned.

I'm sure adoptions would sometimes still be contested due to plain human nature on both sides, but it would happen a lot less, and if adoptions had all been done ethically and legally, they would in theory never be overturned even if they were contested. I realize the reality wouldn't be as neat and tidy as the theory, but it certainly should reduce the number of adoptions that were contested.

myst1998

I personally do not feel adoption is ethical to start off with (eg why are two birth certificates needed? Why not just one original one?) so there really is no way for adoptions to be conducted ethically.

If they were handled differently and more focus placed on mother and baby, then perhaps there MIGHT be less contested adoptions. But, honestly, a baby is not some thing you can 'give' away and then expect to get over.

Most mothers who have contested adoptions have been victims of bullying, brainwashing, threats, coercion and outright criminals who have stolen their babies illegally.

purpledragonflyjrh

i don't think so. i also think it creates more tolerance and understanding.

Sophie

There will always be mothers/fathers changing their minds later, or claiming coercion, so NO... I don't think so.

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