If I become pregnant and wanted to give up my baby for adoption, what do i need to do?

Heather B

You simply mention the word adoption and they'll be on you like flies on s***

Look into ALL the options, including parenting before you mention the A word or you will be harrassed until your arms are empty - then all 'support' will disappear

A few things to consider that the agency won't mention:

http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf

sunny

Planning ahead, eh?

Do some research.

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.com
http://www.orgins-usa.com
http://www.babyscoopera.com

snowwillow20

Please do not become pregnant unless you can keep your baby.

red&sassy

Expect a that everyday will be an emotional hell, unless you're missing a chip, then you shouldn't have any problems.

You will be told about "open" adoptions, that you have legal rights, but you don't. It's a lie. I am a living testament of that lie.

I hope you're not serious.

Adoptionissadnsick

Detach from your conscience and your mothering instinct to love and protect your baby. Then harden your heart to the fact your baby will be miserable and feel lost without you. Lose all confidence in yourself, and believe the lies that those who will profit from your child are eager to tell you.

sarahhhhhhh

I would say DONT rush into this. Think about it and reaserch it before you make any decisions. It's not as easy to say your going to just give your child up! Its not a decision to be taken lightly.
Think about how youy may feel, and talk to someone about your feelings.

Good luck

nita

if i was to become pregnant, and couldn't keep the child if a family member couldn't adopt the child i would contact the social services, or if i was part of a church and wanted the child to be brought up in that religion i would contact them an ask how to go about it, far too many woman today are getting pregnant and aborting. it would be the greatest gift ever to a couple who cannot have children biologically

diamondringcowgirl

you have the internet so research. look up adoption agencies and there are yahoo groups about it. talk about it and what kind of adoption you would be looking for. open vs closed. If it was me, I would need to be sure that the people who recieved my baby were the right ones and would be talking with people for months before deciding. Some people can just hand the baby over knowing the agency wouldn't place it with someone bad. Its all your decision. GL

Gabbie

First, talk it over with your husband/fiance/boyfriend and make sure you both want to give the baby up.

Second, contact your local adoption agency and talk to them about it.

Third, if you know someone(family, friend, friend of a friend,etc.) that is intrested in adopting, talk to them too and see if they would like your baby.

And Fourth, Make sure you REALLY REALLY want this. Because you have a year to decided if you want to take the baby back after he/she is born and after that, you will no longer be able to see the baby again until he/she is 18.

Good luck!

KissMyBuk!

i did it at 16. i used volunteers of america open adoption program. it was a very difficult thing to go through. but my son is 6 now, and i still talk to him on holidays and birthdays. i picked a wonderful couple who had another son that was adopted, and a year and 2 weeks older than mine. so that when my son got older he would have someone with him that also was an adopted child. it was the BEST choice i ever made. gaven calls me his "birthday mommy" and bridget is his "mommy mommy". adoption is the best choice you can make for yourself, the child, and another couple, if you know that you cannot provide the life for your child that he/she deserves. i'm proud of you for considering it and not choosing abortion. what a selfless, strong decision. i promise you, adoption is well worth the difficulity of it. please don't believe that moron who said that you have no rights with open adoption. it is not true. i signed a contract with the adoption papers that said that the parents i chose had to send me at least 10 pictures a month and updates for the first year. they were required to let me visit with the child every 3 months for the first year if i chose to. for the 2-5th year they had to allow me to see him on his birthday, around christmas, and one other time plus cards and pictures and updates every 6 months. now he is 6 and i call on holidays and see him on his birthday. there is no contract for this, but his parents`are great people who like me in his life to some extent. if i called right now they would be happy to hear from me and i would talk to gaven on the phone. they send me birthday cards and gifts and sent me flowers when i had my other 2 boys in the hospital. i highly recommend volunteers of america adoption program to you.

Joseph L

LIFE IS ONLY TEMPOARY KSSP THE KID YOU WILL FIND AWAY IF YOU DONT KEEP IT YOULL BE SORRY LATER

Theres nothing to want the child you love..
there is however a war if you want to see her again

Carol W

Adoption is not what it used to be. Now a days you can have a closed or open adoption. Back when I was put up for adoption, the happy couple paid their money and (whoever paid the most) got a visitation with the child/children. Very blackmarket 35 years ago. I have since worked with your women who had to make a decision to abort or give up for adoption. No judgements made here, only gave information and let them make the decision.
An open adoption is a wonderful thing. It allows you to have one visit per year with the child and it's new parents. It also allows you to exchange pictures between you and new parents. You also will be allowed to send presents on birthdays and holidays that you celebrate. Be careful though, there are "no good" adoption agencies out there. Choose one with a longstanding reputation. Be sure of your decision, for the best interest of the child. You may also consider using an agency of your religion. For example, Baptist Childrens Home, Catholic Childrens Home. I was put up for adoption at 5 years old and had been in and out of foster care for 2 years before that. Mine was pretty much an illegal black market adoption. I was bought for a price. I later went back and found my real mom. We have an acquaintance but not a relationship. I don't have any bad feelings for her. My life has been much better because of her decision. I have thanked her for making the decision she made. Good Luck, and choose wisely. Any church would be willing to help you. And no, lightning won't strike when you enter the building!

bessiedarlin

Talk w an adoption agency - or even your Dr's office. They can guide you in what you would need to do.
There are soo many waiting families that would love the chance to love your child and raise him/her to be the best person that they can be!! : )

Gerry

Get in touch with an adoption agency, but make sure it is ok with the father of the baby, he has rights too

pam g

Lots of different avenues you can take. Research it. Talk to social workers at a child welfare office. It is not a bad thing to place a child for adoption. It is a wonderful gift for an adoptive parent and for a child if done with love. Good luck.

PS: Use birth control if you are not pregnant. It is better to have your first child after you have found your soul mate.

Manly_Stanley

Give the baby to me, I'll adopt it.

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