If I choose to give my baby up for adoption in California will it be permanent or can I get my baby back?

Dan B

Everyone takes a dim view of people who give up their child for adoption (so others can raise your child at no expense to you) and then want to claim them back.

Adoptions are a permanent and final decision. Records are sealed. When the child is of majority age, they might be allowed to find their biological parents.

Heather B

Adoption is permanent.

grapesgum

No, you cannot take the baby back. Even if the law in your state says that you can, once the adoptive parents get your baby they will refuse to return him/her and drag the case through court. Adoptive parents usually win these cases by stalling, stalling, and stalling some more until the child is old enough that it would be traumatic to move him/her.

If you are unsure about adoption - don't do it. Make a plan to parent. Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Please read this pamphlet - "What you should KNOW if you're considering adoption for your baby" at
http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.php?id=1

It describes the pitfalls of adoption for the expectant mother.

Also, be prepared to have your in-box full of email from people asking for your baby.

snowwillow20

Permanent. For the rest of your life.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

in answer to your question- NOPE. once you abandon your baby, it's forever.

xlinzx88x

no. but you can get section 8 housing, medi-cal, wic and when the baby is born they'll be enrolled in medi-cal or the healthy families program. california makes it easy to keep your baby, we have some of the best government programs for moms and their babies. good luck to you and your little one!!!

ps: you should get started on medi-cal asap, they'll cover all of your pregnancy care and the hospital delivery!

Independ"ant"

Its permanent until they turn 18......finders keepers.

Crucio

Some people truly amaze me. Adoption is not temporary childcare until the bioparents feel they can care for their child. Adoption is meant to be forever. If you want someone to temporary care for your baby you need to do temporary guardianship or foster care. Once you place for adoption and the reclaim period ends you can never get your biochild back unless in the rare case the adoptive parents were willing to give up their rights and let you adopt your child back. However that would be a rare occurrence what adoptive parents are seriously going to legally adopt a child for a few years and willing return the child to his or her bioparents.

Mom of two

Once you sign the relinquishment papers, you can not get your baby back unless you can prove that there was fraud or coersion. You must do this before the adoption is final. You usually sign papers 3 - 5 days after birth and the adoption is final 6 - 12 months after you sign the papers. You can not reverse the decision you made during the 6 month period, they are just waiting for the adoption to become final. Even if you could, would you really want to do that to your child? Good luck in your decision, do what you feel is right for you and your baby, it is going to be difficult no matter what you decide.

cmc

It is permanent! We adopted in CA almost 3 yrs ago. You can only sign the papers after the birth. After you sign the papers get registered with the state. Once they are registered with the state (maybe same day or within a few days depending) your rights are permanently terminated. If you decide to place for adoption you need to realize this is a forever decision. Also the father's rights must be terminated correctly.

I know several women who had a "surprise" pregnancy as you describe, so that they didn't know until abortion was not an option. All three of them decided to keep their babies and were happy they did, however every situation is different. Adoption may be the best choice for you, but you need to do some research and some soul searching.

There are people in this group that have gone through an experience like yours, but I will say that this group in general isn't very supportive of women who decided to place children for adoption (they tend to get a lot of criticism). Differing opinions are valid and should be considered, but also realize that there are many women who are happy they chose adoption for their babies. Only you can decide what is the right decision for you and your child.

Baby G

Don't give your baby away.

Corn is not dog food! No wheat!

There is a waiting period. Last I checked it was 6 months.

So, from the time you sign the adoption papers, you have 6 months before the adoption is finalized. You can change your mind in those 6 months, but after that it's final and permanant.

There are plenty of resourses for people like you. You can get help from several resourses and keep the baby.

Just be sure you know what all of your options are, and double check that I'm correct about the waiting period. It's been awhile and it might have changed.

sizesmith

There is a way to test the waters. Place the baby under guardianship for 2 weeks, until you feel comfortable to make the decision to place him/her. It's a hard decision to make, and don't let anyone rush you! If the adoptive parents won't do that for you, RUN away from them, and stop all contact with them. At the end of the two weeks, you'll have to sign the papers for him/her to be adopted, if you're going to follow that course. If the baby is placed for adoption, don't wait longer than 2 weeks. There's a time he/she will need to bond with it's family, either you, or them. You can always decide later to place the baby, although it gets harder with time. Also, I encourage you to visit with the people who will raise this child, and get to know them, see their home, and meet their extended family. If you don't, then you won't feel comfortable. Don't sign anything with an agency until you're sure. Contact me if you need the form. I've got a copy our attorney prepared. Good luck!

Heather

Let me get this straight. You are going to give your baby up for adoption. You're going to make a couple very happy with a baby of their own....then take it back? How mean is that!

You have to put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if you had no other choice but to adopt, and then have the mom take the baby away from you.

Dream_Weaver

It sounds to me that you really don't want this child. Since you've missed your time frame for an abortion (btw, you cannot have a normal period if pregnant, only spotting) either keep the baby or give it up. I don't understand why you're asking if you can get it back if you didn't want it in the first place? Why go through the effort?

Plumeria Passion

Come on, if you would have aborted it anyway, why take it back? By giving it to a loving family, you're giving the baby a wonderful life full of opportunities.

Generally, once the adoption is approved by the court, you can't take it back. However, in some states, you can revoke your consent up to the time the adoption decree is signed even if the baby is already living with the prospective adoptive parents.

Only an adoption lawyer in your state can tell you precisely how long you have to change your mind. I say "adoption lawyer" because not every lawyer will know. This is a highly specialized area of law.

I'M JUST SAYIN.....

Adoption is forever.....why not try something like foster care. I don't know what your situation is or why you are considering adoption but you can't take the baby away from someone who thinks that they are getting what they have dreamed of. I am raising my sisters daughter and when she gets on her feet then she will be taking her home why not see if a relative will help, that way you are still a part of the child's life and when it comes time for you to take over the process won't be confusing to the child. When you give your child up and have nothing to do with them then all of a sudden there is some stranger that comes along and wants to be the mommy?!?!?! it's not fair to the adopted parents or to the child

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