If adoption were abolished...?

Samone

For those that said they would give up a child because they would probably come to regret having that child around let me share something with you.

7 years ago I was married to a very abusive man, I had my daughter who was 2, and I had just had my son who was 4 months old.
On April 28, 2001, after a very heated argument with my husband he lit fire to my 2 yr olds bed, while me 4 month old slept in it. I'm not exactly sure what all happened after that, I woke up 2 weeks later in icu after I jumped from the window of our apartment building with my son. I sustained serious burns to my legs, my son a burn to his face.
My daughter wasn't home at the time fortunitly.

My now ex hubby received 50 months in prison for arson with disregard for human life. Every day of the trial I was sitting in that courtroom praying for a life sentence.

Today, my daughter is 8, my son is 6, and he is a spitting image of his father, who he will never meet. I've never looked back. I've never held it against either of the kids. I love them to death. Not for one second did I ever regret having or keeping either one of them. If anything, when the times were really tough, they were what kept me together to keep going.

Bizzi

Bob not everyone here is our enemy. Please keep that in mind.

...Maybe read a little more carefully...your talking to people not government officials.

These people will listen if you give them the chance.

minimouse68

Lol. I know that I would have experienced abuse if my mother hadnt given me up. This is simple fact, my siblings were in fact abused by not only their father, who my mother married 11 months after my birth, but also from our grandparents, our great uncle and several of my mothers boyfriends. For a LOT of people adoption really was and is the best and safest option. There is not a single person in my biological family who I would have wanted to raise me.

Bob Chill

If adoption were abolished I would think it is a natural inclination to replce it with somethig better.... yeah we support the tuffing of kids out on their buts..

People try not to think so simple minded please.

Like why is it all or nuthing in here. It seems like people do not have the ability to problem solve. Shuting down adoption and replacing it with something not so perverted is a good idea?

Heather B

Spot on! I'm sick of hearing that all parents who relinquish their kids for adoption would otherwise have abused their kids.

Personally I think adoption has it's place - for kids who are in genuine need of homes. It is not practiced that way in the USA. It's a buyers market there.

aestatisa

The reason that abuse/neglect/crime/etc. would rise if adoption were abolished is because some parents, whose children are put up for adoption, would have abused/neglected their children.

Not all children are put up for adoption simply because the parents love them so much. Some of the parents are drug addicts or in a similarly untenable situation; they are conscious that their home would be terrible, but may not be in a position to change that. Kudos to those parents for recognizing their situation, and doing something to help the child out.

Obviously, this isn't true of all parents that decide to put their children up for adoption--many of them would have actually made wonderful parents.

Shawn

I think if adoption was abolished, abortion rates would go way up. And so would the rates of child abandonment.

Kecia

So...every parent in the world that has ever given a child up for adoption has done so soley in the best interest of the child, and none out of their own impartiality of the child? By that rationale, any impoverished parental unit that doesn't give their child up for adoption is [for lack of a better word] "bad". If all of the people who give their children up for adoption were insusceptible of abusing their children, then I suppose that the only people capable of being bad parents are the ones who choose to take responsibility for their children. You should contact the international institute of sociology, because you have a new one for the textbooks.

Forgive my sarcastic undertone, but you seem to have a view of reality that is...well...unrealistic.

ALOT of people have debated this issue armed with statistics, logistics, and data accurately reflective of society. Frankly, basing an argument that deals with issues effecting the entire free world based on your (I stress YOUR) experience with these societal victims is ill-advised.

Personally, I don't like children. If ever I screwed up and ended up having one I would give it up for adoption. Not because of the best interest of the child, but because I'd probably hate it. Yeah, the child would probably end up having a more priveleged life, but that doesn't negate the fact that I'd have given the child up for reasons that pertained to my personal life. If adoption was then abolished, the child would most likely end up being neglected. Hey, sounds HORRIBLE but that's life. You can call me unethical, but honestly I couldn't care less.

Johnny Memphis

Samone...what does any of what you had to say have to with people regretting children? What's your point.

Anyway, I have to agree wholeheartedly with everything that Kecia said. It's refreshing to see a woman who does not hinge her entire life on her child. Most women use children as a clutch and an accessory. You're not alone Kecia. I, too, despise children. It's beautiful that some people don't find beauty in monotony...the ugliest of things.

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