If foster adoption is the best way to go about?
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If foster adoption is the best way to go about?
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Foster-to-adopt' How does this work we have been told it is the easiest way to go about and we have a big chance getting a baby?!? really not negitave stuff.. I've been told i cant carry full term do to medical conditions. We are ready to be parents and are not looking to replace our babies but looking to bring a baby into our lives and start a wonderful family!
my question is how long does a foster adoption take and where to start
and if this is a good way to go or any other adoption ideas
of and if this matter we live in Cali
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Randy B
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Many would differ as to whether or not it is the easiest way to go and gives you a big chance for an infant. It really all depends upon your area and how your program works.
Foster to adopt has it's own stresses and potentials for disappointment unique in adoptions. Normally what happens is that when a child comes into foster care and the Dept strongly suspects it will be placed for adoption it is placed with a foster to adopt family as long as it (the placement) matches the needs of both the family and the child. The foster to adopt parents will become the foster parent for the child while the system plays out. By that I mean that while you are fostering the child the birth parents are hopefully working on their issues, be they rehab, vocational training or even legal action if they have been arrested for something like abusing the child. Of course, depending upon the success of any of those the child could be returned to their parents or even another family member if someone comes forward. Thats a big thing for foster to adopt parents to consider because it could all end at any time and reunification is always the goal. You can't get your hopes up and you must remember to act as a foster parent only till permanent guardianship has been awarded and the birth parents rights have been severed...IF that is going to happen.
The ages of the children available naturally depend upon the ages of the children brought into the program. All ages come into care and go for adoption and the more you limit yourself the longer the process will take. In our last case we had a placement with a 4 day old that we were able to eventually adopt but she came into the program after her mother had a long, long history with the Dept as well as 6 previous apprehensions of children from this mother. We did not ask for an infant although we did request younger ages. It was just fate that we were blessed with this little one.
On average, depending upon regulations in your area, it could take 6 months to a year to work through the process to be approved and then, depending upon the age of the child you are looking for it could take hours, weeks, months or years for a placement. Older children need homes too and you have a better chance of a speedier match if you consider older children. It is just as rewarding and while it has it's own challenges (for both you and the child) you will have challenges with an adopted child at any age.
If you are intersted in learning more then call your local Dept of Social Services (or what ever it is called in your area) and speak to a worker or attend an informational open house. Thats pretty much the only way you will be able to get the real low down in your area so that you can make up your minds as to how to proceed.
Good luck.
Edit
I won't say that none of the children have issues but contrary to what the poster below me put there are plenty of so called normal children (who among us is really normal anyway) in foster care who are awaiting adoption. Our daughter is 100% healthy and, Lord willing, she will remain that way.
We had a placement of our daughter exactly 3.5 hours after the call telling us we were approved in the program and licensed and as I noted already, she was only 4 days old. We got to check her out of the hospital in fact. BUT, I fully admit that our case was most likely an anomaly. At the same time though, it can happen. |
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sweetjane
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We are foster-to-adopt parents. We brought home our 11 month old from his foster family in February. He is perfectly healthy, but had significant delays from neglect at birth. He is right on target today and smart as a whip. He is not a 'rarity'. There are many healthy, wonderful children in foster care awaiting homes and families. Our process took 10 months from the day we placed the first phone call to the CPS office to the day we brought him home. |
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crazychickizback
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dont do it! just plain adopt from an agency. There aren't a whole lot of babies in the foster system, alot have something wrong with them, and theres always the chance the birth parents can get them back after they place one with you. More babies are available overseas if you're in a hurry |
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