If i have 3 adopted children i just got the 3rd one should i adopt again?
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If i have 3 adopted children i just got the 3rd one should i adopt again?
 
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BPD Wife
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Only you can know the answer to that one. Every child needs a loving family - if you can provide a loving home for another child and your hear tells you it's the right thing, go for it.
Congrats to you on your most recent adoption. |
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Ashley P
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Angelina Jolie... is that you? |
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Morgaine
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Are you pregnant on top of all of this adopting? I just looked at your profile and you have asked baby name questions for a baby girl you are having, and all of these adoption questions in the last day or so. I hope you are not getting in over your head. Maybe you should take a few or four years off from expanding your family and get to know the children you currently have before adding more. |
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ladybmw1218
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May I ask your motivation for considering adoption again so soon? You just brought an infant into your home this week -in a possible attempt at artificial twinning- who is having adjustment problems, you are pregnant, your 8 month old is having a hard time accepting the new baby, and are on here asking about another one..that's odd. Are the three you have and one on the way not fulfilling some inner need of yours? If so, that need may be irrational.
Quite frankly you sound, to me, like you are pushing the "collector" boundary...some people do it with figurines, some with pets, and a few with children. If it is a compulsion, you may have an undiagnosed mental illness.
The other possibility, of course, is that you are a troll and wasting all of our time. If you're for real, am stunned your homestudy social worker gave you approval. |
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Doodlestuff
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You have a brand new adopted baby and you are on Yahoo!Answers? Um..I don't know of many women with 3 small children who has the time. They are spending it with their kids or their hubby. I think you need to decide if your time is being spent wisely with the kids you already have. |
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mel_rose777
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I would not adopt again right now.. you need time to get to know and love these 3 you already have.... let them know they are the special babies(kids).... til its time.... if u have too many at one time, you will be defeating the purpose of being able to love and care for the kids... |
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Crucio
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If you feel you can afford another child, and handle have that many kids go for it. Feel free to adopt as many as your feel you can handle and provide for. |
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Stephanie B
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If you want to and your family is OK with it (including your other children) go for it! Congratulations! |
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C K Platypus
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No, give your family time to adjust.
"Baby collecting" isn't healthy. |
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naynayjo
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Hey if you are ready and ur family is stable enough...then go for it! Kudos to u ...adoption is such a wonderful thing! God bless you! |
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magic pointe shoes
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no. Not right away anyways.
Editing to add: I looked at your previous questions. You have three children, the youngest two are under a year old, and you are expecting a baby too?!?
You should wait a bit. That transition on the family with each addition is rather hard, and adding another so soon would be crazy making. |
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dragonflygurl_32
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since you just got your third child i would hold off unless you think that you and your family will be able to handle another change. This could also cause some stress and I don't think you want to cause any harm for your family. Just talk to your family ask them a few simple questions like; what would you all think about adding another member to our family? Should we have another child?? Do we have time? Do we have the funds? and most importantly the space?? Just make sure you listen to every family member because it could cause problems if one of the members doesn't want this. Good Luck! |
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Jessica K
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Sure if you can afford it and if it is right for your family go ahead...it's great that you are adopting children that would otherwise possibly grow up in a shelter...good for you... |
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Patsy A
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What a wonderful big heart you have! If it takes the two years or so it took my daughters, you should probably start the process now for # 4 if you really think you can handle it. Don't short-change your three, but by all means take the plunge again if you feel you can. They need you. |
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Kim_T
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If you and your husband are in agreement go ahead but you might want to give it at least a year or two for eveyone to adjust. You have at least two adopted children in the past 8 months. You have a child who is not sleeping through the night and one who is jealous of the newest addition. For the sake of everyone involved including your own sanity, wait at least a year or two before adopting again. |
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Lily202
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if you think your ready and yes i think you should |
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I think you shouldn't especially if they are boys. My 2 cousins are horribly! They beat each other to the pulp and their mom's thinking about adopting because their dad's in the army. It probably would be best to wait a while! |
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pinktink1291
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go ahead. i see no problem |
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