If she adopts and the parents back out, does she get her money back?

Birthers are NOT mothers

Nope, she is out of luck...it's all about the birthers and their scams...they win.

monkeykitty83

No. Any money paid to an expectant parent is by law considered a gift, and is given at legal risk to the prospective adoptive parents. You can't give money in exchange for a baby-- that's human trafficking-- so there's no expectation of quid pro quo.

The mother has every right to decide to parent her own baby up until she terminates her rights. She would owe nothing to the prospective adoptive parents if she kept her child.

If your sister wants to adopt locally, I suggest she look into adopting from state care. There are thousands of children in foster care waiting for permanent homes.

Independ"ant"

Nope....otherwise it would be considered baby buying which is illegal and thats not what your sister is doing..right?.

mom of many

probably not, but also there are laws on how much adoptive parents are allowed to "pay" to the birth mom.

DevonChaos

Your sister needs to go through the proper legal channels to avoid a scam. If she goes through the state, it is going to be better than going through a private adoption. She needs to understand that she should never purchase anything for the mother, because if she does that can be considered baby buying, which is HIGHLY illegal (not to mention immoral).
If she goes through foster care, she can avoid scams on the part of any prospective first parents and also avoid scams that the agencies use to procure children.

Yarr

I would get a good lawyer and make arrangements so that all the medical bills will become your friends responsibility only AFTER the child is officially, legally, and permanently her and her partner's. That way if the birth mother backs out she gets all the bills and your friend doesn't have to waste her money on the scammer.

sizesmith

Never is it legal to get the money back. If the first parents offered it would be, but chances are, they don't have it.

It isn't even legal to give the first parents the money. One can directly pay the hospital bills, but not the first parents. In our state, it's not even legal to pay anything extra on the hospital bill, such as if the mother wished for tubal ligation when she gave birth. It's considered coercive. Agencies take money for hospital bills, and if a woman goes into an agency and says she wishes to place her child for adoption, they teach her how to get medicaid.

I urge anyone who does pay a medical expense or for anything for a first mom to never get mad. Hormones are made in the body to prepare a woman to parent, and they're very strong, one of the top reasons a mother changes her mind. Many times, these same women end up placing the child later, because the little quiet baby ends up being a loud baby, with a lot of needs and expenses. Besides that, if you don't get mad, perhaps you can still be her friend, and support her decision to keep a child. I've done that with a few women who've been around me, and even though I don't get to raise these beautiful little ones, I love every hug and kiss I do get from them when they are around me. It's one of the reasons life is soooooo good.

AdoptiveMama

While there is no assurance that your sister will get her money back, if she keeps her receipts she can file any adoption related expenses on that years tax returns. As far as the tax credits go, they see that adoption is risky and there will be times that things do not go as planned.

Good luck to her, we have been in her shoes, have had birthparents back out on us, but we also have two beautiful adopted children!

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