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Lucy Deana
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i find it really bad that you call children 'it'.
you can change a childs name, but you've already taken so much from them: their bio family, siblings, pets, etc...
why change the name?!
my name got changed from Deanna Carol to Lucy Deanna.
At least i still have part of my name in my name now, but i would have liked to keep my name. The child cannot tell you not to change their name, therefore you should keep it the same as what they were given at birth!
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grl in texas
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My cousin just recently adopted a baby from Russia. The baby already had a name. Well, I wouldn't call her a baby she turned 2 a couple of months after the officially adopted her. They kept her name. They didn't want to change it and confuse her. |
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Gaia Raain
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I find it so offensive that you call children "it". I know you don't mean anything by it, but that might be something to watch out for in the future. It's seriously offensive.
You have the right to change the child's name, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea. I have seen some children up for adoption without names (generally these are babies who are surrendered under a safe haven law). But most children will already have names that their parents gave them. It is disrespectful to change the identity their family gave them. |
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Heather B
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My parents didn't adopt an 'it'
I went to live with my parents at 3 months of age, I had my name and they saw no reason to change it. I love them so much for honoring my name. |
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aloha.girl59
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First of all, a child is not an "it."
Secondly, I have never heard of a child who does not have a name upon relinquishment. It probably happens, but I don't know of any such cases. Some adoptive parents opt to change the child's name and some keep the name the child's first mother gave. Given that the baby/child who is being adopted has already lost so much (his parents, his history, his original birth certificate, his heritage), keeping his or her name the same is a gift that that adoptive parent can give to him so that he doesn't completely lose his identity. |
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cathrl69
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"He or she" would be a lot more appropriate than "it".
Some adopted kids will have already been named. Some won't have been, if they were given up at birth. It depends. |
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Serenity71
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In local adoption Aust you can't change the first name that the birth parents gave your child. But you can request a to give them a middle name. (Which we did and her bio parents loved the name and said yes.)
You know I like it that they keep the first name they are given. It honors their birth parents for starters. I can't imagine my children with any other names. |
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Jennifer L
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Legally, adoptive parents CAN change the child's name, but as others have pointed out, the better question is whether or not they SHOULD.
Unless there is a seriously compelling reason to change a child's name, I am of the opinion that APs should not do it. |
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Rowan
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You can, but personally, i wouldn't. I'm assuming we are talking first names. My adoptive parents did not rename me, they saw no reason too. So i kept my original first and middle name. |
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Pazit.
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It's a bad idea to change a child's name. Regardless of who has parental rights, children begin to identify with their names at a pretty young age. My youngest brother answered to Lior (that's his name) before he could walk. |
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tazzie04
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If it's an infant, the adoptive parents pick the name. If it's and older child, why confuse them. But if you must, you can change it legally in court. |
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•*´`*♥ Melissa •*´`*♥
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if you want you can change it...though it is nice to give the birthmother that much as to keep the name |
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Randy B
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Yes, you can change the name if you wish. The papers state (at least ours do) "the child, formerly known as "X", now known as "Y"..."
Its something that you need to think about though given the age of the child and other personal factors that may affect a decision to change a name. It is possible though and quite common. |
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snowwillow20
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Hmmmm Sometimes the real mommies name it but you can change the name once it becomes yours.
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♥♥Rita♥♥
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I am not sure what an "it" is.
If you are talking about children sometimes THEY come named and sometimes the a/parents will not change those names, but sometimes they do.
I am finding more and more parents who keep the birth names as such and those are typically the parents who are very open to continue with family connections and they are open to talking about the fact that their child has a past and that past has parents and those parents are not them. |
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Happy HBAC Mama
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Children usually come with a name, but if you adopt, you can have it changed. We decided to keep our son's first and middle name the same, but I have a friend who was adopted, and her whole name was changed. |
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hargonagain
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First of all, a child is not an "it", he or she is a person. Second, it depends on your preferences, most children are named at birth and the adoptive parents are able to legally change the given name once the adoption is final. My son's birth mother and I named him together, we both decided on his first name, I gave him his middle name and his last name is hyphenated, hers and mine. |
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RPMR
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Ignoring the horrific fact that you called a child "it" I'll answer ur question:
If the child is under 18 you can, but it is not a good idea to do so if the child is older. |
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flounder2442
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When I was adopted at about 3 months old, I was in foster care. My birth mother didn't name me, and there was no name on my borth certificate. My foster mother called my Raanne and then my parents when the adoption was final and they had signed the birth certificate were able to pick out my name and put one on there. But I would also like to add, that it's hurtful and not even right to call an infant an "it" they are people to just like you and me. |
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sk8ermom
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Mine came with a name on the box. It came with papers where you write in what you want to call it in case you don't like the name. You can even register the new name online and play games and socialize with other folks that bought their kid. I changed mine's to phoebe before I was even out of the checkout lane! |
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The Toe
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yeah, but don't choose a crappy name, because
then you have to return it, get a new one, Pay for
shipping etc. Really more of a hassle than it's
worth. |
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♥countrygal♥
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The baby will have a name but you can change it no matter what the age of the child is. As long as they are under 18 you are the legal guardian and can change the name. Although it might not be a good idea if the child is an older child. |
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crazychickizback
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It will probably already have a name, but it's fairly easy to change. Even though I may have a better option I'm going to change my childs name if i still get stuck traditionally adopting. I already decided to name my first daughter Laura Eileen after my mom and grandma or Michael Bradley for a boy before I found out I'm probably infertile, and I still fully intend to. Since I only want to adopt an infant there wont be the issue of an older child knowing their first name
EDIT- Don't worry about whether or not it's disrespectful. The kid wont care (if they even know) and their birthmom gave up the right to decide what the child is called when she gave up being their mother. You would be the childs family and it would therefore be your decision. And come on, people don't have anything better to do than get you for calling a child "it"? get a life people. |
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Lizzy
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if it is a baby change the name
if the child is older you would not be able to change there name
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