If you adopt a new born baby,can you rename them?

Randy B

Yes, you can rename the child at just about any age (technically).

Should you? Well, thats been a great source of debate around here. I'm personally of the mindset that if the child is young enough then it can be considered.

Rowan

I wouldnt. in some cases, its the only thing that childs bio parents gave them.

You can, but i dont think you should.

Rebecca

Yes, you can rename the child when you adopt him/her. I know someone who was fostered from when she was a baby and the family officially adopted her when she was two. They changed her name when she was two from her birth name to what they wanted. They had always called her what they changed her name to so it wasn't like she had one name and then another. It just wasn't legal until she was two.

Renaming the child isn't wrong. I think the older they get the harder it will be on them.

Crucio

Once someone is legally adopted their new parents can change their name to whatever they want. Obviously wouldnâ€™t be the wisest thing to do if the child was older but adding a middle name could be an option. Or if the child is old enough and they want to have their named changed. I also think if someone changes a childâ€™s name that their original name should still remain a part of their new name.

When my Aunt adopted her son the birth mother said she and DH could name the baby but requested that his middle name be that of someone in her family.

Possum

When adoptive parents adopt a child - they usually - not always - but usually only change the babies name for their own selfish needs and desires.
They don't care that the child already has a name.

As an adoptee - I wish my a-parents let me keep the name my mother had given me.
I didn't fall from a tree.
I was born to a women that shares 50% of my biology.
That was MY name - and they should have allowed me to keep it.
It's supposed to be about the child - not the adults.

Opedial

What Randy said.

Me and Mario!

Yes you can rename a child once you have him/her and in most surrogate's the actual parents name the child not the surrogate! I think renaming a child isn't bad at all!

Anha S

I think that a child's first name should be kept if they aren't in any danger, or if the name isn't something insulting or vile. I think that an adoptees first name is one of the few ties that an adoptee still has to their first family, and to take that away without a darn good reason is just another smack in the face. Jmho.

kkbabyz

Yes you can change the name if they just gave birth or you think they are to youngh to recognize their name.

I dont really think changing their name is a bad thing but when we adopted my little sister my mom took her name as the only nice thing her birth mother was able to give her and it would be ashame to take the only Good thing her bio mother gave her away from her and she was 2 months old when this decision was made.

If the child is older than 4 months i dont think you should change their name because by then they already recognize it : )

durdenslabs

You can rename a child of ANY age, not just newborn. If the adopted child is old enough to understand, and they want a true "clean slate" with a new name, then it can be changed. You can also just change, or add, another name to theirs if you want.

If you are adopting from a birth mom that hasn't had a baby yet, it won't have a name til you name it. If you adopt a baby you can rename once it's finalized. Same with any other age.

penis_bling

well generally the birth mother has a name that she would really like it to have.. but usually the birth mother doesnt even see he baby in some situations, so the adoptive mum gets to choose the name.

it would have to be like that coz otherwise you would have to go through all the name change forms etc etc

mom to be

No if its an infant and they are so young that they do not know their name you can. If they are older it might be harder for the child.

tish_part deux

my children recognized their names at about one-week. hence, i find it problematic that people purport that "children don't know...won't remember, et al. " this reads more of a rationale to justify a practice that is for the most part, self centered.

in certain cultures, naming is extremely important. and to override a child's name is disrespectful.

also, i think that a name should ONLY be changed by the person who owns the name, if the child is in danger of abuse from a previous name, or if the person is in the witness protection program..:-/

since none of the three state "because the aps want to" i say, emphatically, no.

also, i don't approve of pre-birth matching, hence, i say that the child's name should come from the PERSON WHO GAVE THE CHILD LIFE.

now, if that woman decides not to name the child, then sure, the aparents can name.

but...to change a name just because an aparent "wants" to name the child or give an adoptee a "name always dreamed of", et al, is self-serving, and serves NO benefit to the adoptee, IMO.

my option, if you want total rights over naming a child, have your own. sorry, but adoption--albeit a legitimate parenting option--should be about "parenting"; and not trying to co-opt every experience of a mother who birthed and parented her child.

adoption doesn't provide a child with a "blank slate."

WSMA

Yes once the adoption is finalized, the courts give the adoptive parents a paper where they can write the child's new name on it and sing it and get it notarized by the judge.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

Yep, just like a brand new puppy

Julie C

I'm sure that you can, even if the birth mother gave the baby a name, you could change it easily after you adopted...you might actually have to so that it has your family's last name.

myst1998

Yes, renaming children is BAD. Children are humans, not pets and if they have been named by their mothers already, then why take the last thing they have from their lives with their mothers? Adoptive parents don't really have a moral right to change a child's names regardless or what the law says. I don't care if that offends people or not, the business of changing a child's name they ave been born with is unethical and downright sick. Just another thing adoption steals. If an adoptive parent truly loves that child, they wouldn't want to erase everything about the child they are adopting. Last names are different... eve just adding the adoptive parents family name would be better... PAP's have to realise when you adopt a baby, it IS NOT the same as having their own. This child doesn't drop from the sky with no past, no history. These babies already have families, names and a history.

So, no, names shouldn't be changed.

ETA: Even if they are newborn, names should not be changed. Bring on those thumbs down, just shows what a bunch of unethical sickos we have around here today.

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