If you believe that kids in foster care who have had termination of parental rights deserve to be adopted?

Timid Women Rarely Make History

I'm trying to understand what you mean here. Are you trying to say that if a child who has been taken from their parents and put in foster care shouldn't be adopted? Because that would be stealing them from their bio parents?
I don't see it that way. If a child/teen was taken from abusive parents or for whatever reason,that parent no longer has rights to that child. They were seen as unfit,and that child deserves a chance at someone to love them. The likelihood of a teen or older child getting adopted is rare because most want new babies. So,if someone would want to adopt them,I'm all for it. Give them a home!!

cantstopLinnyG

Absolutely not. It does not make you an "adoption troll". Foster kids are the kids who truly NEED to be adopted. They are the kids for whom adoption IS "the best interest".

That, in my opinion, is what most people here are trying to promote. Newborn adoption is RARELY in the best interest of the child, and is very coercive, UNLESS there is abuse or here is no one in the child's family to raise them.

Adoption should ALWAYS be about what's best for the child, and foster care and foster to adopt does just that. The system has given the natural parents the opportunity to get it together, and if they cant or wont, then adoption is what's best for the child.

Many people are not aware that there are in fact babies in foster care, too. For people who TRULY wish to parent and do what's in the child's best interest, foster care, in my opinion, is the only ethical way to do so.

38 Wks Pregnant W Elly Christine

I used to be a foster kid. We are the same as everybody else. We deserved to belong to a family too. You don't know what the older foster kids have to go threw because familys don't want them. It is hard as hell. They deserve to be adopted like anybody else. The only thing is normally the adoptive parents want the little ones. I think your way of thinking is a little screwed. How about you go the residental that I lived at and tell that to all the kids there. See how well that blows over.

Randy B

I think the vast majority of people here make the differentiation between foster care adoptions and adoptions through agencies. Adoptions through foster care are favoured by most of the people who oppose them through agencies and perhaps you are just reading things wrong. If you are not then I guess I'm a baby stealer since my last one was adopted through foster care.

I sleep well at night though, regardless of either of my adoptions.

nonosmommy

I dont know but Im not sure if fostering to adopt is that great if the APs are hoping that the child and family will not reunite. I was a voluntary case, and the social worker told me that if I voluntered that she wouldnt take my baby, she said that she would help me and my baby. My babys father was threatening to kill us. Then after I voluntered the first thing that the social worker did was to call the police and try to have them take my baby from me. The officer said no way, but he also told me that if she could convience 1 more social worker to say that they wanted my son took away from me that he would have to. So within the next 3 days she got 1 more social worker to say it, and they came and took my baby from me. She was really mean to me, and she never tried to help me get my son back. They lied to me and told me that I was to young, I didnt have enough money, and that my baby deserved to be in a loing family with a mom and dad that could afford to take care of him right. They put my baby in the foster to adopt program and the family was a friend to the social workers, they had 2 kids of their own and they wanted a baby to adopt too. They made me look awful, but I wasnt, I was young and yes I admit I needed help. They should ahve helped me. It makes me sick that they are allowed to do this, and then when my baby gets bigger they will tell him that his mom didnt want him, that I wasnt a good mom, and that I didnt care about him. Those things are not the truth, I wanted what was best for my baby, and I believed that they would help me to be the best for my son, and help us through tought times. But the system failed me. I hope that these types of things are not allowed to continue. I also believe that fostering and adoption could be wonderful things for some children. Good luck, and God bless you.

Flying Monkey #073177

I think that as with any other adoption PAPs should be careful. I am one of the women who lost her child to care but only because it was forced on me and wasn't done uh... nicely. I was working my case plan and ended up halted at every stop with no support from child welfare despite being told they would be helping me out. So I think any time a person is looking at adopting a child they need to really step back from the situation and look at EVERYTHING going on. As well I think there should be more communication between foster and natural families. I got one meeting and in that time I could tell his APs were battling to line up the person they saw with the person they had been told about.

Lori A

Noooo, being a liar makes you an adoption troll. Giving answers and descriptions in questions that are bogus and can be proven to be bogus by other answers given to other questions. An example of that would be asking a question stating that your a few weeks or months pregnant with your first child and you don't know what to do, and then answering or asking another question about your child clearly asking for something.

Advertising for fresh squeezed infants is trolling because it's against TOS.

Foster care needs work, no doubt about it, the program has major flaws, but getting kids OUT of foster care is a good thing. I can see where as a foster parent you might have a hard time accepting that other foster parents are just in it for the money, that they see it as an income not a way to help society's children, that some of those very children's mothers were in fact lied to about getting help and then their children put on the auction block, but it does happen. As with anything, there are good foster homes and there are bad ones. Some of the kids in foster care end up worse off than where they started from. I have read many articles on foster care and the abuse some children go through, and I applaud anyone who cares enough to take those children in and try to give them some normalcy.

Heather B

Of course they do. That's what adoption is supposed to be; a social service finding homes for children who genuinely need them.
(ie not this money driven unethical infant adoption business that's allowed to take place in the USA)

farm mom of 10

I am a foster mom, and really only meant to be a foster mom. We adopted our son Luke, who was actually my oldest daughters foster child, then, since we had our foster/adopt license for the second time in our marriage, we decided to foster again. Before it was over, we had adopted two more times.
I always did my best to work with the families to get their children back. I gave them my cell phone number so they could call me when they felt desperate to know how their children or grandchildren were. I attended every hearing and I sat with them if they would allow me too. I did have one child whose parents were as mad at me as they were at CPS.
And to the poster who said the adoptive parents would tell her child she didn't love them or want them - oh, I hope that never happens. It would be terrible for the child. I tell my adopted children that their mothers loved them very much, but they didn't know how to keep them safe (and they didn't) As they get older, I tell them a little more of their stories, age appropriate, I don't make it better than it is, or worse than it is, I just try and tell the truth, but they always know that the first mom did love them.

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