If you (or your partner) took a pregnancy test right now and it was positive, what would you do?

Flying Monkey #073177

I'd be calling Dr. Morgentaler asap!

I'd call the doctor that gave me a vasectomy and ask for my money back.

Mom of two

I would figure out how to add a child into my life! I would also have to see if "mom of three" was taken and stop being "mom of two" (LOL)

Boredoutofmymind

Welcome the baby with open arms... That is what we ARE doing. We are so excited to be adding to our family.

â™¥â™¥Ritaâ™¥â™¥

Me?? I would faint, then probably cry and then start figuring out how to make room for another child.....my youngest is a few years from being an adult. It would be a hard pill to swallow....but I would make it work. We are flexible....

She's here! 2-8-09

If I took a pregnancy test right now, it would most defintely come out positive because I am currently 33 weeks. LOL..

Lori A

Being as I am waaay too old and my tubes are tied, I'd probably faint.

But to answer your question, I would never give another child up for adoption. It almost killed me the first time, I'd never make it through another one. I would have to resolve to the fact that I am never going to be an empty nester. But I would have a plan set in place in case I did not make it through the child's formative years, just like I do now with my son's since I had them so late.

aloha.girl59

I'd be a little freaked but also thrilled!

My boyfriend and I are not "trying" to get pregnant and since having an abortion more than 18 years ago, I haven't been able to get pregnant. But I would never abort again and placing my child for adoption would not be an option. I'd raise the baby myself...somehow...and hope for emotional and financial support from my boyfriend.

jamie h

I am 5 months pregnant with my third child and just had a son who's now a year old. We definitely were not planning this. But, the baby is healthy so what else could you ask for; especially when so many want children and have trouble getting pregnant. Don't take it for granted! Adoption/Abortion seem like shallow shaddy choices for adults not ready to accept responsibility. If your old enough to lie on your back, your old enough to be a parent.

DevonChaos

I'd figure out how to make it work. I have five children currently, and I have my tubes tied. I don't think one more would be too bad, actually. I LOVE babies, and I would welcome having another easily.

I got pregnant while on the pill 3 years ago, and was surprised to say the very least. There was never a question of abortion or adoption. We just knew that we'd keep him close and love him dearly. The pregnancy before that I had twins. My husband and I decided to have "just one more" so that we could have a child together. (My oldest 2 children are from a past relationship) We were shocked to find that instead of "one more" we were having a set of boy/girl twins. Surprises happen, but I've found a way to make it work every time.

Gaia Raain II

That's not possible at the moment. But if it was, and if that did happen, I would stop the adoption process. ONLY because I don't ever want to put an adopted child in the position of having siblings who are the bio children of the parents. We've decided to only have adopted children because of how it can feel for some adoptees in families where there are bio children. I wouldn't put a child through that, knowing what I know. Bio children are actually our "second choice". (I.e., if we are not able to adopt, we will probably ttc. But we will not do both.)

kidmindi

I'd sue my Dr since he tied my tubes after my 6th child last year (5 bios; 1 adopted)!!!!

However if I DID get pregnant, I would all my OB and schedule my 1st prenatal appt and start preparing for the birth of my 7th child.

xlinzx88x

I've got a 7 month old and in this economy my husband and i are scraping the bottom of the barrel but even if we had to live off of top ramen and tap water, we'd keep our baby. There is no good reason that I could think of to give my own flesh and blood away.

Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo
~
Bonded by blood, family forever

Rowan

Figure out out how to add a child to my life. I want a child and would literally do anything to keep her/him with me.

We would start trying to make a child fit.

10 years ago the partner i was with had a false positive and we began making adoption plans even before getting the test confirmed at the doctor

Randy B

If that were the case...first off it would be a miracle in keeping with the rest of the season but other then that, sure...make room for one more. In my current life and situation there is no need to "figure out how to add a child into [my] life", we'd just do it.

â˜ Bunky â˜

Get on my knees and thank god having my tubes tied failed.

Not Adopted

Add the child to my life, as nature intended.

ETA: Then again, there was someone on here asking about how to advertise for a baby. I think I'll cut a deal with her - I could use $50k right about now.

drkangel210e

Celebrate!! I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks (nothing with my ability to have kids, just bad luck), and we're trying again.

Independ"ant"

This past Aug. I unexpectedly found out I was pregnant(wasn't trying). I decided to go through with the pregnancy and we are going to raise our child. My fiance is moving to the states from France (where he works) in Jan. He wanted me to move to Paris but he was offered a position in the states so it settled our dilemma.

I would never give adoption a thought. I can't even begin to fathom what a natural parent is or has gone through by relinquishing their child. Every mother I've met completely regrets it and feels betrayed by the lies that were told to them.

Yarr

You act as if those are the only two options. Considering I am the only one working (I'm the woman) and my boyfriend is still in college and we are living in a small apartment that I am paying for (I was living here before I asked him to move in with me so I don't mind paying until he graduates and gets a job). I am on birth control so the odds of me becoming pregnant are slim... but if my BC failed I would most likely get an abortion. Of course I can't be 100% sure what I'd do unless I was in that position. But that is most likely what I'd do.

If he had a job, we were married, and at least looking at houses I would probably consider that close enough to what I wanted to accomplish before I had kids and go through with the pregnancy and keep the child.

Edit: Also, my boyfriend and I already talked about what we'd do if this situation arose. He said he would support me in whatever I choose to do.

Heather Leigh

I would scream alot, cry a little and then have a few choice words with the doc that tied my tubes over 17 years ago. After my little melt down, i would convert my almost 20 year old sons bedroom into a nursery since he only uses it during school breaks.

Anha S

Would most definitely without question figure out how to add another kiddo into my life.

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

I would probably have an abortion.

I am in nursing school, and although I graduate as an LPN in March, I plan on going straight on for my RN. I have NO time for pregnancy between a 15 month old and school. I want more kids, but not right now. I need to finish school so that I can provide for the son I have *now*, I am more concerned about him than some imaginary fetus that has no concept of his/her existence.

opedial

This would shake our world up because I am pretty sure I have no eggs, and also because after adopting three children, we are so busy that if I became preganant I would be sure would be an immaculate conception ;0)

But that being said, if I was pregnant I would not look at adoption as an answer. I would though have to fully prepare my adopted children and educate myself on whatever I can do and not do to ensure they know they are not second best to the biological child. But again, this situation is not going to happen.

Also though, if any of my friends were pregnant, no way would adoption be an option. Interesting to think though that we are all married and middle class (i still like to think of myself as working class sigh but I digress), so no one would expect us to think about adoption. So why should it be different for those without money? INteresting thoughts though.

Thanks for the question.

Linny G

I would have an abortion shower and register at Babies R Us for pink and blue coat hangers.

grapesgum

There is always room for one more. I could never exile one of my children to a life of living with strangers.

ETA - Just read the other answers - funny how giving a baby away is great - for someone else, that is.

Steve K.

Figure out a way to add a child into my life.

But, as I stated in your other question, I'm 20, getting married in a week, and we have a back-up plan in case we have a child.

What would I do if I was a 14 year old girl in the middle of a crisis pregnancy? Heck if I know. At 14, I know I cannot meet the child's emotional needs (I know infants don't have many emotional needs, but by the time the kid's 1 or 2 they sure do, and I'm still only 15 and all emotionally mixed up), and I'm too young to get a job to support it. If my parents were supportive, I'd probably try and figure out if I can find a way to joint parent the baby with my mother and father until I at least get out of high school. If my parents weren't supportive? I really don't know. At 14, you're kind of backed into a corner with no where to go. Keeping it would be the best option, but unless my parents were supportive, I don't think I'd have any other option but to start some kind of adoption plan. It'd be heart wrenching, deeply emotional and go against every instinct I have, but I'd have to do it.

Lisa

I would raise the child myself most likely. The only other option i would consider would be abortion.

kateiskate

Well my fiance and I are at no point in our lives to have kids. He's a full time student working part time and I'm working full time and saving up to go back to school in the fall of 09. I am 21 and he is 23. We live in a 700 sq ft apt with our cat. We struggle to pay our bills and to save and I don't even have health insurance. The best decision for us at this time would be abortion because I would not be able to surrender my child after giving birth knowing the pain it will cause both of us. I don't know when I will be ready to have kids because I have way too much adoption related baggage right now to think clearly about baby making lol.

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