If you support adoption, and you were NOT adopted...?

Laurel J

Where are all the enthusiastic "yes" answers?

Yet when people hear I'm adopted, more than half of them respond with "That's wonderful!"

kims

If my mother was dead and my abusive father put me in an orphanage with my three siblings, yes I would want to be adopted. That's the situation my children came from. Adoption is desirable when a loving, nurturing home is provided to children who need one.

monkeykitty83

No, I don't wish I had been adopted. My parents were able to take good care of me, and were very loving.

But I also don't think children with parents who take good care of them are the ones who should be getting adopted. Adoption should be for children who have lost their families and need homes. Adoption should be about meeting the child's needs.

My strong support of the adoption of foster children really has nothing to do with my own childhood situation.

fleur de lis mock ILF TTC #0

Hell yeah, I was raised by a single mom, never knew my biological father, and I know I would have benefited from a stable 2 parent home where I was planned for and wanted. My mom is an unbalanced person and I no longer have a relationship with her. It would have been better to even have have an open adoption where I still knew her, I think that's probably the best option, as I always have wanted to know my bio father.

IDK!!

There were many time when I wished I were adopted, or just out of my home.

I though "how can someone do these thing to you and still love you?".

I figured that if I were adopted by someone who seemed to want kids, then maybe I would have had a chance to have a descent childhood.

All that's over with now and I am a stronger person, my childhood molded me into the person I am today.

Angela R

I support adoption for children who would otherwise be raised in an orphanage, foster home or group home, or for those who's parents truely decide they are not ready or willing to be parents.

I was not in any of those situations as a child, but if I was then I imagine I would wish I had been adopted.

Jennifer L

My parents were willing and able to care for me.

However, my sister was a young mother who chose to parent. She had all kinds of support from our family, but still made very bad parenting decisions. She and her (now) adult daughter have a terrible relationship and my niece has told me that she wishes her mother would have gone through with her adoption plan (she changed her mind) because then she believes she would have had parents that wanted to be parents. My niece has expressed to me many feelings of rejection and abandonment that I've also heard expressed on this site.

All the support in the world cannot make someone be a good parent if they choose not to be.

julie j

Hi Phil,

Relinquishing a child to adoption seems to be one of those things that's always portrayed as "beautiful & loving" for OTHER people to do!

How many times have we seen this example here:

"I support adoption for others, but I could never give MY baby up for adoption."

If it's so wonderful, why isn't everyone else jumping at the chance to give away their babies to others to raise? Because the truth is it's not so wonderful. Anyone who would resent others for being adopted, has an incomplete concept of adoption. Thanks for helping others realize the inconsistency there.

julie j
reunited adoptee

Sophie

As a pre-teen sometimes I did just beacause we were poor. But, as I grew up, no, I did not want to be adopted. I love my family and had a great childhood.

What is your point? We're not stupid:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=As87d0Z1DEEuqKxnNjYg.XFq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20080930060001AAJUhBa

LaraSue

Of course you are trying to make a point. I love my parents, no, I don't wish I had been adopted( okay, there were times when I was a teenager, that yes, I wished I could have different parents!) And when I was a child, I was SURE I HAD been adopted and wished my "real" parents would come and take me away.
If I HAD been adopted, I bet I would have loved my parents too.
Just because you were adopted, and wish you hadn't been(no, I am not saying you are angry, or that you hate your adoptive parents and all those other things) doesn't mean that EVERY adoptee feels the same.
Adoptees here get angry if they are told to be grateful, well some other adoptees are tired of being told to feel negative about their adoptions. Just my obversation, since i can't speak as an adoptee.

I don't necessarily support adoption, I do support my child and the decision she made to place her child for adoption.

Heather B

Ha Ha. Everyone should be adopted at birth - it's so wunnerful to lose your family, ancestry and identity dontcha know LOL

Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T.

no, I don't wish to have been adopted, simply because I wouldn't want any other parents. Whether these two people are biologically connected to me or not does not matter.. I would chose them out of the whole world, either way. Because they're great people.. Because I'm proud of who they raised me to be.

The fact that they DO happen to be biologically connected to me is a bonus.. It made for nice family photos.. You know.. the nice suburban mom and dad with the little girl who looks like mom... the older brother that looks like the dad... whatever.. Sure it was cool to have those pictures... to have people tell me I look like mom. That wasn't what was important.. The way they treated me and the lessons about life that they taught me was what was important..... I'm MUCH more flattered when people remark about the character traits I learned from imitating mom, from her telling me how to treat people.

So... take from my feelings what you will, in regards to answering your question. I would rather be raised by the people who raised me, whether or not they were my biological parents, than to have been raised by anyone else in the world.

C Wood

I was adopted and I don't think much of adoption as an option, due to my experience. You'll need to talk to my wife.
cw

Independ"ant"

I second Lori.

Im laughing at the ignorance of particular poster that claims she chose to adopt a child living in poverty but then turns around and says she's glad she wasn't adopted because although being poor she had a happy childhood.

Yep adoption is all about the child.

Brilliant question.

LMAO.

Nicci

Maybe I'm a little confused. Of course I support adoption - there's so many kids out there with no parents-how great is it that someone who doesn't likely even know where the kid came from would be willing to parent them?
No I wasn't adopted - but I didn't need to be because I had 2 great parents growing up.
Are you referring to the kids that had to grow up without parents and who were waiting to be adopted? I couldn't tell you how they feel. Hopefully those kids grow from the experience.

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