If you were adopted, when and how did you find out?

lindsay h

i found out i was adopted when i was very small. ive always known but it always left an empty place in my heart. i got really curios at 16 and me and my adopted mother wrote a letter to the adoption agency and there was a letter there waiting there for me from my mom. i met my mom for the first time in august 2009 i was 29 years old and it was a great experience.

Torrejon

I am the youngest of three adopted children (we're all from different families). I guess I was told even before I could understand the words, because I have no memory of the first time I was told. Amom sent out "birth announcements" as soon as I was placed with the family...and it has the date of my adoption in parenthesis next to my birth date. Never was a secret from any one which is the best way in my opinion.

If you wait to tell a child until they can "understand" or until they are "ready", the people withholding the information about the adoption send a strong message that there is something intrinsically wrong or shameful about adoption.

Hann.X

I've known all my life, well for as long as I can remember anyway. My adoptive parents have always said I can talk to them about it but I don't feel comfortable with it. My brother was also adopted but we're not biologically siblings. I've always felt as if I didn't fit in with my family they're all sporty, I'm not. They all have such differant personalities to me. When I was approaching my 14th birthday I felt curious and found my biological Dad on facebook. We spoke a few times, I remember I was sat looking at my laptop screen shaking. He phoned the adoption agency and they told my adoptive parents. I haven't spoken to him since, I'm not aloud. But in away I feel even more alone than I did before hand. I wanted to know why I was given up for adoption in the first place but he wouldn't tell me. He's made me feel betrayed and I've completely lost trust in most of my family now. I'm 15 now and I plan to contact my adoptive parents again one day, but when I'm ready and I've prepared myself for a worst case scenario.

ManInTheMoon

When I was young, my A-Mom was the greatest, loving, nurturing, & most of all honest about my adoption. In fact I could go to her about anything, I can still remember coming home after school in the 1st grade & asking Her, "what does this word mean.....fu_k ?", as I had seen in graffiti on the boys restroom wall.
(I'm laughing right now remembering the expression on her face!) Well needless to say, My A-Mom even broke it down into layman's terms to explain the act of "Making Love", & the fact that the word I'd asked about was very derogatory for something so beautiful.
Anyway back to the question, I've known I was adopted as far back as I can remember. My A-Mom used to tell me how she would talk to me & explain my adoption to me even when I was an infant, as she burped me, cuddled me, changed me, & even tucked me in at night. So I guess I'd have to say, "I've always known I was adopted".

"Simple & To The Point Honesty"..............Gods Speed !

Frankie

I found out I was adopted when I was 7 and I met my biological mother when I was 9. It was a great experience. I I though I was special that I had 2 mums and 2 father. My brother (not biological) was adopted (he's 15) and he calls himself the mistake child and he thinks his biological mother hates him. is biological mother was only 15 when she had him. I think ages 5-12 are a good time to explain to a child that they were adopted.

7rin

Known all my life, sorry to spoil your fun, an' all.

M!2!cu_R!0+

I'm not adopted but I have two friends with completly different stories

Jamie: ehrn she was like 6 her parents explained it to her they wanted her to know and they helped find her birth mom.

Liz: she found out this year and her relationship with her adoptive parents is strained. she is 14 and was going through photos her two sisters are biological with her adoptive parents and they both had videos of their births when She asked her parents about it they said they were waiting until she came of age which is 18 according to them.

ha h

I've come up with these ideas, I guess some are from movies ^^!
- The biological parents come up from nowhere and claim their paternity.
- You come across someone who really looks like you, and you try to find out why. (You do secret ADN tests, for example)
- Someone tells you the truth for various purposes (maybe bad, e.g. to revenge you)
- The current parents decide to tell the truth for they are dying or they have other motivations (e.g. $_$).
- You're an absolute Asian while your parents are Britons!!
...

summerjwl

i was adopted at age 6 before that was foster homes. my mom and one of my brothers died in the car accident that we was in so i heard two stories of why my dad couldn't keep me and my oldest brother but you know what im steal dealing with that pain but i have a wonderful family that adopted us. im 32 now and have 3 of my own children its hard to explain to them cause their asking questions i cant answer.

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