In our overpopulated world, why don't more couples consider adoption after having one or two birth children?

punxy_girl

Well, my hubby and I had 3 biological children and then adopted a beautiful little girl. We are planning on adopting another! I think that the adoption process scares a lot of people. Home studies are invasive and someone judging your home, marital relationship, and parenting abilities verges on insulting. Also people are afraid of what might be "wrong" with the child they adopt. Part of this is the "bad seed" myth where the birth parents must be bad because they put this child up for adoption. The most common form this takes is that the birth mother is easy. Therefore, the child will be bad, too. Most people think that children adopted from foster care will have emotional, psychological, or physical problems (see the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption). Education is the key!

psychokitty

they don`t do home studies before they let you become pregnant.
My cousin is a social worker working in international adoptions. And she said she wasn`t sure if she could pass a home study!
Financially it`s cheaper - at least to start.

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot

We've opted to adopt rather than to deal with fertility treatments, but at this point I'm questioning if fertility treatments wouldn't be less of a headache.

canadianmom

I did! 1 biological, 1 adopted, and planning to do one more of each. I think there are a lot of myths and fears surrounding adoption, attachment, birth parents, and emotional 'damage' which prevent people from adopting. Also, it is not very common so people don't naturally think of it when planning a family.

the_proms

Because everyone has a right to their own children if they were given that opportunity by God. I have 2 children myself, and our next one, if we choose, will be adopted because we chose to. To each his own.

British*Bird

Its natural for people to want to have there own biological child. I think once people have had children they see how important love is to kids and maybe they feel differently. I want to adopt simply to give a child a chance but its also important i have a baby of my own.

texan_draw

There are orphans all over the world with numerous reasons why they are so, but I truly believe that it is up to the parents whether or not they want to conceive or adopt. The parents of these orphans had the same choice. I feel for these kids, but we can't look down on those that choose to have children of their own... biologically. Bob Barker said to have our pets spayed or neutered to control the population... in your line of thinking, why aren't "we" all fixed?

no body

I would like to adopt but my husband is totaly against it. He wants 6 kids. We are on the process of #2 our son.

it depends on the couple. If one is against it then theirs not much you can do cause you cant bring a child into a home where one wants it and the other doesnt.
Others can agree to it and other couples are against it.

magic pointe shoes

Because as much as society loves to believe in the adoption koolaid and how wonderful it is, the same society when push comes to shove won't drink the koolaid that they hard sell.

It's not easy to adopt children and I'm not talking about the paperwork and money needed to adopt in many types of adoption. The not easy part is coming to terms with meeting the needs of the child being adopted. Acknowledging that there is a biological family, acknowledging cultural and/or racial heritage, and doing these in honest forthright ways is more difficult that the average person has the energy to address. Adoption loss can be very overwhelming to people thinking about adoption. It is a threatening thought to know that no matter how much one tries, it won't replace what was left behind.

Sunset

Personally if I can have my own I wouldn't adopt. When raising a child has it's problems I find. That just remembering what one went through for them to be here makes it easier. I tend to think this is my child and she didn't ask to be here. I made that choice. There fore I consider it my duty as well as my obligation to be the best parent I can be. Also I have seen and heard about people that have adopted a child. And been good parents to that child. Just to have the child later on find out they were adopted and want to look for the natural parents. To me that is more than a slap in the face. I myself wouldn't tolerate it.

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