In real life, how much of your day do you spend talking/thinking about adoption?

furfur

Kazi, I think about adoption much like you. During the day, I have an energetic three year old to keep me busy, but during her nap or while she is being read to by daddy at night it is on my mind.

To me, the most important job I have right now is to make sure she can see her adoption in a healthy, relatively happy way. I am not saying deny her grief, but to work through it and come out on the other side positively. So I do come here and read as much as I can; particulary from the adoptee experience because no one is a better teacher than one who has been there and done that.

Gershom

I'm sick at home today and have been here WAY.TO.MUCH.

Other days its still on my mind.

Cool Hal

For me it depends - recently quite a lot (I have been sorting my sh1t out - you know life insurence, health insurence, pension, eye test kinda sh1t) and all the questions man it is doing my head in. So it is constantly there at the moment.

Other times not a lot - just depends on how I am feeling.

Gaia Raain

I do think about it a lot. At this point, my priority is preparing, so I'm spending probably ridiculous amounts of time, energy, and brain power to learn everything I possibly can. After becoming a parent, my concern will be just doing parenting stuff. But all of this will be in the back of my mind, I'm sure, all the time. I just won't be spending so much time on learning about it (not that I'll ever stop). All of the different aspects of my life intersect in some way, so even when I'm thinking about work or scrapbooking or paying the bills, adoption is on my mind (and vice versa). So, maybe I'm nuts, but it's pretty much 24/7 for me.

Mom to Foster Children

Every time I log onto Y!A and every time I see my child - it crosses my mind. Do I sit and dwell on it - no, but I do think about it everyday!

Heather B

I'm a mother of three young children, so it's impossible for me to spend my whole life talking about adoption! LOL

A couple of hours a day, I guess. Writing, calling and emailing legislators and friends online. It's too long really and does interfere with my ever-growing pile of ironing.

I spend more time with my family and horseriding so no, adoption is not a 24/7 thing in my life.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

almost constantly.

sunny

Hardly ever.

Randy B

Other then my time here, and especially now that my adoptions are completed...not much time at all. We are awaiting another call from the agency however about another child so once that call comes I'm sure my level of thought on the subject will spike but only because we are going through the steps yet again. Other then that though, it's not a big part of our day.

Hannah B

Almost no time at all. I visit many areas of Yahoo answers so this is just one of many. My reason for being here is that I like to learn abour adoption as I really look forward to having children and would like at least one of my children (possibly the youngest) to be a child over age four adopted from foster care; possible with some disability or learning difficulties. This is because in the area that I live in (Gloucestershire, UK) there is a desperate need for parents for these kids and I want to learn as much about this as I can in my life before I make such a decision.

littleJaina

I can't say I talk about it "all the time", but I do think about it often. I think about alot of things "often" though. I have a few issues that are close to my heart, and adoption is only one of them.

Of course, all the thinking has to fit around momming, working, and studying. I don't go around standing on a soap box all day, but I do point out certain things if it comes up in conversation.

Serenity71

Generally not 24/7. Motherhood and housework take over...

At the moment I'm going through another reassessment... so lots because I have had a lot of phone calls to the social services dept for adoptions regarding it. (Its through foster care, but then as I have said, its not done any other way legally here.)

I have to say I'm like you said Kazi in saying it will never be far from my mind, but that's because I want to learn about raising an adopted child and give her the best chance at life.(and in saying that I don't look at her as "adopted". She's my child... Oh lets not get into what I mean by that, I haven't got time to explain in writing what i mean...)

Even some of the productive not so good remarks I do learn from. (not full of hate, but you know people who can say, this can be improved on...not can the whole idea of adoption. )

But I need to know the good too. who doesn't!

Besides I'm not really a regular...

tammmy s

Kazi, you asked 6 questions yesterday all related to adoption. You are one of my contacts, I get an e-mail every time you do. I had 2 this Morning. I would say that's a considerable amount of time, even though you can't post during the day, you must be thinking about it.
I don't know this to be a bad thing, you have a right to think deeply about anything you choose. Adoption is a very deep issue, and I am glad that so many women come together to discuss it on here. I have been thinking alot about it myself ately thats why I'm on this site. Many First mom's never quit thinking about it apparently, from what I've seen, nor angry adoptees.

Mini

Since I'm too busy with school I only think about it when I space out probably like twice a week. I really hope to adopt kids when I'm able to...

Robert S

i think about adoption but im single own my own house and work nights so there is no way for me to adopt

jlynne1

zero! I want to be financially stable before even thinking about kids.

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