Is Adoption (actually relinquishment) like rhinoplasty.?

Do you think that adoption (actually relinquishment) is kinda like rhinoplasty?

sometimes it's for cosmetic reasons.

Sometimes it necessary.

Sometime people just THINK it's what you need.

Sometimes even the cosmetic reasons, still cause a lot of pain

Sometimes ones done for necessity cause a lot of pain, but relief at the same time.

Sometime there are a lot of scars

Somethimes the scars seem to be "worth it".

Sometimes the scares are so obvoius, the it causes a lot of regret.

Sometime it just makes a bad problem worse.

Sometimes we think it's just a harmless procedure, but then we walk away with an infection.

Sometimes everything goes smoothly, everyone is happy and noone can tell.

Sometimes the outcome looks so fake that people can't help but stare.

Sometimes one is so pleased with the outcome, that they can't wait to schedule the next thing.

Sometimes it's so horrific, one can't imagine how no one warned them.

What do you think?
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I guess what I'm getting at is, if you take away the emotional aspect to adoption and view it as if it were a "Nose job", just maybe you could perhaps see it from a different perspective.

MamaKate

Interesting analogy - I can see the comparisons! I like it. (My "rhinoplasty" didn't turn out as expected! LOL!)

I have often thought about posting a Q asking for everyone's best adoption analogies!

My favorite so far, is below. It encompasses all of adoption and IMO is the best analogy I've ever seen for adoption.

The Opening Screen for Adoption Threads says this:

"Adoption is not a pretty present with a cute bow. It isn't a bowl of dirt with worms in it. It's more like a patchwork built of patches and stories from all sorts of people. They don't always mesh and sometimes clash outright but every piece, every thread is important to the whole quilt.

Adoptees who believe their adoption was perfect and the best thing for them. Adoptees who have good relationships with their parents but still want to know and adoptees who had terrible adoptive parents and are full of righteous pain.

Birthparents/Firstparents/Natural Parents who feel they were cheated, abused, lied to and many with cause. We have some who willingly gave up their children but may have regretted it later or may still feel that it was the best thing.

Adoptive Parents who want to understand all the possibilities of what it means to be adopted, others who just want to hear how perfect it is, and still others who speak like it's all about them.

We also have all the threads that fill the gaps in between.
We fight and we argue, we cry and we comfort, we love and we hate, we scream and we whimper, we hope and we dream. Some of us have hearts of strength, other have hearts in shards. Some of us are filled with pain, some of us with light.

Tomorrow we may switch places, take a new color thread and begin to weave.

Despite this the we go on.

Meanwhile some get hurt. Some very important voices are made to feel unimportant or invalid. We all lose then. Sometimes, the smallest thread holds the largest piece together. Without it, the pieces fall apart. We just need to stop and look at each person's thread, and marvel how it fits into the whole.

So we invite you to add your thread to ours."

- Apologies to Wraith

I think it is beautiful and wish that we could all patch ourselves together...

ETA: Sunny, OMG! ROTFLMAO! HOW TRUE!!!

sunny

I'd rather have had a rhinoplasty.

The recovery is faster.

Independ"ant"

I can't understand why someone that chooses to adopt would ever send a child back to an orphanage simply because its not whom "they" want, for any reason.

Nothing in the entire adoption process is worse than that, no matter how much they sugarcoat it.
They are basically saying they "chose you" but didn't want you in their life because its not convenient for "them" and you're not their problem.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

i would take the pain of ten thousand rhinoplasties over my one adoption, thank you.

Minnimouse

DO people actually have such little imagination that they can't compare the two. It's not a LITERAL comparison it's an analogy. Man..literal people annoy me lol

Anyway, i refer to adoption like an open and infected wound.

A child taken from their birth mother is left with an open wound. Often the children left with this wound is not tended to or even worse hacked into and made worse, they are given money, "love", food, shelter, but this will not help the wound heal, if only they would notice it. If only they would stop hiding it away. The wound gets covered up, it becomes infected and forgotten. Sometimes it gets bumped and the pain is excruciating. Sometimes, if they are lucky, someone notices this wound and tends to it. They bathe it every day and change the dressings until it has eventually healed.

chelsea s

No. I wouldn't use that metaphor.

LindseyTaylor

Did you seriously compare giving up a child and changing their lives to getting a nose job?

sizesmith

The comparisions bring up a lot of good issues of what could go wrong and right. One more comparision:

Do your research on adoptive parents. It's a lot like finding a doctor. Don't just go by the advertising or the agency. Live with them, if need be, find out how their voices react to the baby moving.

My son's first mom and dad lived with me for 3 1/2 months. It was a good experience for both of us. I hope for more contact with her in the future for our son's sake. I believe this way, she new that he would be raised in a happy environment that was drug free, and in many ways, the way she would want to raise him. We found out the things we have in common, and that way, I'll know that he gets his temper from her, and his smile from his dad, and his extra high little steps from his "Me'maw"

sheloves_dablues

I'm not sure how you made the leap from recognising you are unable to provide for a child and getting a nose job. It's a sick comparison, and the answer is No. There is nothing similar about them, even if you could strip away the emotion.

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