Is adoption a good thing to do?

Gershom

No, it isn't. I can think of more loving and selfless things to do than I have fingers.

Humanitarians are loving and selfless. Adoptive parents are not humanitarians based on the act of adopting. lmao.

monkeykitty83

Is having biological children a good thing to do? I don't think there's any way to answer a question that broad in a way that will apply to every situation.

I certainly think adoption can be the right decision for a family, and I think it can be extremely beneficial for a child who is without a permanent home to be given one.

There many children in the foster care system who are in need of homes. Especially those who are older, who are minorities, who have special needs, or sibling groups may have trouble finding adoptive parents, and they may age out of the system without knowing the stability of a permanent family. I would say that providing that family is a good thing to do.

But doing a good thing doesn't make you a saint for doing it. Once you adopt children, they are a part of your family, and do not owe you any more gratitude or affection than a biological child would.

I do think providing a home to a child who needs it, if you are willing and able, is a good thing to do. I think we should all be trying to do good things in general when we have the ability to, though. Adoption is not a way of getting extra credit.

Brother Otter

My wife and I certainly thought so at the time we started the process. We still do; it's just not a fit for us.

There are lots of good kids out there who need a home and will be able to do more with their lives if they get one. The statistics on kids that age out of the foster care system are appalling - welfare, lack of education, drug use, health issues. All romantic ideas about having kids aside, it's a good thing for our society for kids to have stable, nurturing homes.

Sofiakat

I think it can be when the right aps are chosen. I think it can be when the child is a foster child with no hope of going back to his or her parents. I think it can be only when it is absolutely necessary.
But it needs to be an ethical adoption.
It needs to be a fair adoption.
It needs to meet the needs of the child.

I have a hard time with people who only want to adopt an infant and will not adopt unless they get an infant. To me that is more about the ap than the child. If you want to be a parent, than parent a child that truly needs a parent.

Independ"ant"

For orphans, children being abused and severely neglected other than that no. I would suggest donating time and energy to help assist mothers struggling or look into foster care for teens or children with a disability.

farm mom of 10

I am a foster/adoptive parent, and I have written several articles on the subject, if you are interested:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/150807/carla_raley.html

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

ONLY if it is for children of abuse or neglect!

Infant and most international adoptions are unnecessary and cruel

Stay on here, you will learn soooo much, I did

Josie

If you are going to provide it a good, nurturing home and are willing to be patient with the children, then yes, it is a good thing to do. Adopting a child and not giving it the care it needs is not a good thing.

cmc

Being a good parent is a good thing to do. This is the same regardless of how you became a parent. There are bad bio parents that never should have children. There are also bad adoptive parent. And there are good parents who are bio or adoptive. Loving a child and doing your best for him or her is definitely a good thing.

Most people adopt because they want a child, so this is not a selfless act. Adoption in and of itself isn't really a good deed.

C Wood

If you have taken time to learn how to raise a child, I think adoption is a fine thing to do.

If your only reason to adopt is because your family believes "you should have a child" then I don't recommend it. My AM felt she was expected to have children, and she ignored the fact that her husband didn't really want to, so my life with them was not all that good.

The other thing you need to have for it to be a good idea is a lot of love and a strong desire to share it with the child you choose.
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LnC

Yes I was adopted :)

Really it doesnt matter who carries you for those 9 months; its the person who raised you and loved you who matters. Being adopted was never a big deal for me; and it always set me apart from my other classmates.

I did recently find my birth mother and father; it was nice and they are wonderful people, but they arent my parents!

Hope this helps!

*Edited- I think its funny that so many people have a misconception about adoption, like its a horrible unethical thing to do! I think love is giving a child up for adoption knowing that you cant provide for it like it needs. If I wouldnt have been adopted likely I wouldnt have had the chance to do a lot of things in life; like go to college. Im grateful that my birthmom recognized that fact and gave me a better life. Im grateful that my parents loved me like their own flesh and blood. So go ahead and give me a thumbs down, but I still support adoption!

LaraSue

I guess it depends on which side of the adoption fence you are on.

maymay b

yea cause some kids dont have people to care for them u can fell that need

Dawn R

Yes, I have a son he just turned 5 and we have an open adoption it is great he call me Mama Dawn and his mom is a great person. I got to pick the family my son went with. I know he is in a loving home and that puts my mind at ease every day.

Just a Mom

You would think so. Not always on here, though.

Sophie

Yes.

Amy M

Yes, I can think of nothing more loving and selfless to do.

Pooty

i think its a good thing to do but the children can easily have problems because of the feeling of rejection

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