Is it just me, or does something seem very wrong with this?
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Is it just me, or does something seem very wrong with this?
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I found this on one of the sites I visit often.
"My husband and I need guidance! We were notified of a birth mother in Maryland who is looking for a home for her unborn child. She is due end of December and we need to move quickly. We have full support from her family on the adoption of this baby.
We live in Ohio the birth mother lives in Maryland
The mother is in a mental facility and will be making her own legal decisions.
Her social woker has not been helpful.
Does anyone have suggestions on how we should proceed? We are getting legal representation in Maryland, but the first firm we talked to did not have a lot of advice on how to proceed in our conversations with the birth mom.
We would like to build a distant relationship with her (we were told not to give her too much information due to her illness) but we still need to work closely with her to get the consent. Any advise?
Also, the lawyer was stating that it could take several months after the birth of the baby for it to be finalized with the courts. Does anyone know of a quicker way to do that?
Thanks for your support! "
I didn't even know what to say.
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Gershom
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my translation:
we've found out there is a girl in a mental hospital who's pregnant and everyone wants her to give her baby up for adoption. We want the baby but we don't want her in our lives. Whats the quickest way you think we can get this baby and have the adoption finalized and keep her mother far away as possible.
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Mei-Ling
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So, let me get this straight.
She's in a MENTAL FACILITY and yet is capable of making her OWN LEGAL DECISIONS?
*sputter*
If she's -
Oh, never mind. I'm just going to pretend that I didn't read that. |
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Not Adopted
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I'm left wondering about the "mental facility." Why is she there? Was she involuntarily committed to this facility?
They appear to just want to get the baby as quickly as possible, no consideration of the mother's needs. |
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Lori A
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Just because someone is in a mental facility does not mean they are a mental case. They might be thinking for them selves and not going along with what others have planned for their lives. Lots of young girls get stuck in mental facilities by their parents because they are being unruly and unreasonable.
I wish I had a link to the story of a man and a few of his friends who willingly were committed just to see what happened. It took months for them to get out, something they did not expect. They told their story and planned another attempt. After releasing I think it was 40 people deemed as fakers the man announced he sent no one the second time around.
I think it's possible the couple may have more support from the family of the girl than they do from the girl herself. |
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BOTZ
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Good GOD!
I had no idea my adoptive parents had a website. /sick, sad joke.
I'm speechless. I'm so, so sad for that pregnant mother I can barely breathe. I get affected like that. sorry.
Just makes me feel more and more every day this intense longing to spend no more time than necessary on this ailing planet humans call earth. (I call it hell.)
I'm so sorry for her.
And to you, Camira, I think of you often. I hope your case will end overwhelmingly in your favor, and that of your precious child -- HOME with YOU.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care! |
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Santa's Lil' Helper
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When I was a teenager I had a friend who was in an "institution" she was not crazy...but her parents were.
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Possum
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OMG
*cry*
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Problem Child
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wow..just wow.
made me think...do they not believe in genetics? if 'birf mom' is in 'mental facility', maybe this baby is tainted too...they must be real desperate. or maybe they believe lots of love will erase biology?
sorry..feeling VERY bitter today. |
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grapesgum
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Nope it is not just you. It is very wrong. Their comment "Her social woker has not been helpful." pretty much identifies them as adoption vultures (who also are illiterate - not rare in the "we are more qualified" saintly adoptive parents BTW). God forbid that her social "woker" might be looking out for the natural mother's rights, or even worse, the rights of the natural father.
I doubt that the forum is open to an opinion on the so-called "birth" mother's rights. I would stick it to them anyways.
I have to ask if there are women who get pregnant "out of wedlock" are still put away by their families. It was quite common in the baby scoop era. Can that happen now? I hope not but if it does it would not surprise me at all. Gosh, I feel so sorry for this woman whose womb is being harvested by these vultures. |
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Erin L
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Mei-Ling took the words out of my mouth. It shouldn't be legal consent. |
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MamaKate
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This makes me absolutely sick.
I have a million questions! Why do this girl's parents even have custody of her!? How can THEY give consent for HER baby?! How can SHE possibly give legal consent?! Where is her LEGAL representation? How DID she get pregnant?
These people sound HORRIBLE!!! They are basically ADMITTING they need to coerce her! WTF!? They sound as though they think she is just some kind of a creepy incubator they have to put up with to get their mitts on a baby! And I just want to vomit at the "Does anyone know of a quicker way to do that" = "We can't get that damaged and creepy incubator out of our lives fast enough!" How FOUL can people be?! WHERE IS THE MORALITY?!
WAY WAY too many red flags here!!! Doesn't this poor girl have ANY advocates? Someone needs to protect her!!!!
I have to go sweep my heart up off the floor again. The horrors of adoption keep breaking it and I don't think I can cry any more today... |
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tammmy s
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Yea, something, the part where it says we were told not to give her too much info because of her mental illness. People misjudge the mentally ill, I would want contact in case the baby has the same thing.
And some other stuff, I don't know adoption laws, but some of the people trying to adopt come across as weird anyway. |
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Cool Hal
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I am speechless - this is everything that is wrong with the current adoption process.
The details are there for everyone to see so I wont rehash them, but this woman sole priority is use someone else misfortune to get what she wants regardless of the consequences.
Can anyone defend the current adoption process that we have around the world after reading that? The UN and western governments need to take action now so that the child come first and the very basic human rights of the Bio Mother are taken into consideration. |
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♥♥Rita♥♥
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I am not really sure on this but I think they have to have ICPC approval to take that baby across state lines, the mom is in a mental hospital so how competent is she in making her own decisions.......and how closely (coercive) are they working with this woman?!?
Sounds a bit hokey to me!! |
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Heather Leigh
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I love how they claim that she is able to make her own legal decissions, but can't be trusted with too much personal info.
This poor "Birth-mother". |
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Sophie
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I'm sure she's not that much of a mental case... She can raise her child in the mental facility, right? |
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Jessa ~Noah Blaine due 7.19.2009
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Um....how in the world did a woman who is in a mental institution get pregnant to begin with? |
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9479KL
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If you can prove that the birth mother is not fit to care for the child you can probably get the baby as soon as it is born. Don't jump into an adoption too quickly. I agree with the others though, you should take time to grieve. |
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