Is it legal for the birth mother to write a letter to.....?

LaurieDB

The type of adoption doesn't matter in determining the legality of this. It is perfectly legal. If there is no restraint order, then it's not illegal to make contact with another human being in our society. We live in a society that has free association.

But, I would handle things delicately, as she is still a minor and under her parents' say. This concern could be avoided by hanging in there for the next 18 months, when she's an adult and can make all of her own relationship decisions.

amyburt40

No its not but handle it very very carefully.

Freckle Face

What if you just put a feeler out there. Keep the letter general and brief. Then she what she does with it.

Good Luck!

Glitteroid

I don't see why it would be illegal.

snowwillow20

It's not illegal to write a letter but is it in the best interest of the minor child. She can send the letter to the aparents but I think she should hold off contacting the child until the child is an adult and don't expect the aparents to be happy you are writing. She could also send a letter to the adoption agency and have it put in the childs file. I do not feel the letter should be addressed to the child.

Romany

A letter to the adoptive parents would make the most sense. They have been raising this child and their reaction could be anything from welcoming (the child has been asking questions they wish they could answer) to threatening legal action (they haven't told the child, they've told lies or have been told lies by the agency about the birth family, they are genuinely afraid of what the birth mother might want).

But - they are the ones closest to the child and would hopefully know the best way to address the situation.

I would ALSO write a letter to the agency to be put in the child's file to be given to him/her IF and when the adoptee (as an adult) requests it.

Crucio

Sending a letter should not be illegal. I do know depending on the state that the adoptee must be 18 to search for birthparents and must be that age for birthparents to search for birthchild. That said since this letter would be going to the childâ€™s mother and not the child in question it might be different. I guess it cant hurt to try and if push come to shove your wife can send a letter directly to the young man after heâ€™s had his 18th birthday in 2009.

btownznd

I don't think it's illegal.....but I would be really careful. You don't know know if the child knows he/she was adopted? Or what has been said to the child......16 and 1/2 is a complexed age. Writing to them now might do more damage then good. they're looking a driver's license, prom, sat's, college apts....etc....if you drop a bomb like this now.....it could be very difficult and NOT in the best interest of the child......if they know they were adopted and good things have been passed back and forth....probably at 18 the letter would be better expected and accepted.

Magick

Use caution because it could be illegal under 'Endangering a Minor'. The endangerment laws often include emotional stress and are catch-all laws.

Complicated

It depends if it was a closed or open adoption

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