Is it possible to be adopted as a minor if...?

terreamere

Wow...you have a tough situation. The behavior of your parents is clearly abusive.

I am no expert on how things work with CPS in NC but my impression is that the legal system will not provide a quick or easy answer to your situation and may even make it a bit worse if you need to stay with your parents (who I am sure will claim they are good parents and that you are just an impossible teenager) while you are working through the process.

You need to be practical and develop a "Plan B"...Surviving the next two years and figuring out how to make your new life without your parents as good as it can be

- For the next two years stay out of your parents way as much as you can. Spend time with friends, family, church, extra stuff after school....whatever you can just so you can limit your time with them. Try to make sure the people you spend time with are good, kind and have their heads on straight.

- Your parents have issues and you are not going to be able to fix them. Try not to make them mad. There maybe nothing you can do here...they don't sound rational or like they have very good self control but if there are things you know will set them off don't do them. It would be great if you could just be a normal kid and not have to worry about this but that is not the situation you describe. No point of getting into the line of fire if you don't have to.

- Plan your future. What will you do, how will your support yourself and where will you live after you leave home. Think about a job. Can you get one now? It would give you another reason to get out of the house. Be a good employee so that you can build your experience and references. As you get closer to your 18th birthday try to find a reasonably priced room you can rent in a healthy environment. Try to figure out a way to go to college at least part time. Try to build a support system of friends and maybe a church (don't know where you stand on religion) who can be there for you as you venture into this next part of your life.

Remember you have a lot of years in front of you. While I know you are miserable right now the 2 years you have left is pretty short relative to all the time you will have after you leave home. Hang in there, stay strong and look to the future. Plan for those next 60+ years. You have your whole life ahead of you. Work to make it what you want it to be.

Take care and God Bless.

~ T

Jose

If you're not reporting the abuse, you'll never get away from it. Please let the authorities know.

Logan M

Report them to Child Protective Services

http://www.dhhs.state.nc.us/dss/local/index.htm

Lori A

You would need their conscent unless proving them unfit, that is where i have a problem with you being adopted by a family of your choosing. You may want to check into what happens if you have them proven unfit. You may end up in foster care for longer than you expected. Maybe your friends will not pass a home study. You wil belong to the state at that point. I'm concerned it wil not turn out the way you expected. Be careful.

country_girl

I think your parents have to consent to you being adopted.
you should talk with a councelor at school
and you should also call the national c hild abuse hotline - you can look it up online (the number) and tell them whats going on
you can also call your local department of social services and ask to speak with someone in child protective

thats the best route for you to go,, and they wil get you out of the situation you are in - if they dont help the first time - keep calling

Radiant Sunset

It takes a lo-o-o-ong time to terminate parental rights. If one or both parents fight it, it could drag on for years, and you will be an adult by then. Nothing that involves family court happens quickly!

I don't know what you call Child Protective Services in your area, Department of Social Services or something? Check your county listing (the blue pages in the Yellow Pages phone book) for the child abuse hot line - it's available 24 hours a day. Call and talk to them about what's happening and what your fears are. If abuse is reported, they HAVE to investigate.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine not being loved and cherished by my own parents. There is something wrong with them not to recognize your value, not only as a human being but as their own flesh and blood!

REBELLYNN

I am so sorry for you, it sounds like your life is really hard. Try setting up a hidden web cam or tape recorder to show the abuse, you obviously have intelligence as you are weighing your options, If you can show the abuse that should help with the emancipation issue. Do you really want to be adopted by someone else, do you have someone in mind, have you spoke to them about it, are they really serious <it is easy to say I would adopt you if I could but harder to follow through with>? That makes you legally theirs, you can have them appointed your guardian instead. It is also hard for older kids to be adopted if you don't have someone willing. Good luck <hugs> you sound like you could use one.

pinkpokkydots

im so sorry to hear this my cousin was abused what he did is a family member took him in because if you turn in your parents you will be turned into social services so if you have a family member you trust i would talk to them first about it and then if that didnt work out YES your guidance counselor HAS TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT RIGHT THEN but you have to make the decision do you wont to get a job working as much as you can i would recommend movie theatre because you go in after school say till most people are asleep that would keep you away from them alot and you would be making money to save up to move out when you turn 18 yrs old or you can turn them in if you go on a search engine and put in how to turn in a child abuser in nc they will provide you with a phone number to call its confidential and they will do something about it but you cant get adopted if your parents are not going to give up there rights so i would try the above things i talked about it helped my cousin his mom was doing drugs and locking him out of the house it provely saved his life i would strongly suggest turning them in people can really put you down mentally and emotionally im going to put you under my contacts so if you have any other questions i will try to help you out i sorry this happened to you but i hope this helped

sizesmith

Report the abuse. Offer to take a lie detector test. Even if it isn't admissable in court, just the fact that you offer to take one might go a long way with the school counselor. They are mandated by law to report abuse to the authorities. If you ever get hit again, call 9-1-1 IMMEDIATELY. Do it while the red is still there, and you will probably get removed immediately.

I hate parents that do this to kids. I've adopted a baby, and wish for another child, and would give anything to be able to give birth and raise a child. I'd love to be able to adopt again, and then those that have the gift of being able to produce a child do this. Thumbs down to your parents!

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