Is it too late for adoption?

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The best thing you could do is to explore all your options. Even if adoption seems like the right path, you cannot make that choice until after the baby is born. You can make an adoption plan before hand, but the actual choice comes after the baby arrives. In fact, if you were to choose adoption a lot of your healing comes from how well you explored your options before placement and making sure you weren't coerced by anyone.

So that being said, I'm going to hook you up with some links. This first one is a pdf written by the Evan B. Donaldson Institute which explored current domestic adoption and figured out what things are important to safeguard the rights and well being of those considering adoption in the adoption process. After reading this, you should be able to tell when you contact either an adoption agency or an adoption lawyer if they are indeed acting ethically and taking you into consideration respectfully. Also be sure to read the part about the well being of birthparents... it gives a good summary of the long term emotions that happen after placement.
http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/publica...

This next link is written by a birthmother and is about open adoption. She gives wonderful information to think about, be sure to read the link for expecting parents.
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org/...

Also, don't dismiss the option of parenting your child. Here are some forums where you can get some support pulling together resources.
http://www.singlepregnancy.com/...
http://www.girl-mom.com/

If there is anything else that I can dig out for you resource wise, add more information to your question.

Havanah_A

nope it is not too late. you can still give your baby up for adoption to a loving couple who cannot have their own children.

Angela R

No, it's not too late, you actually can't give up you parental rights until after the baby is born anyway, but you can contact an agency now and make an adoption. Someone said that you have 6 months to change your mind, however it varis by state, and in many you just have a few days or weeks.

If you do decide to place the child, I'm sure you can contant the office where you applied for those programs and just let them know that you will no longer need those services.

Good luck

lillian_ivy

No, it isn't. Just notify your local office and let them know you wish to place the child up for adoption. Ask them if they can recommend an agency for you to call and then schedule and interview with the agency. I admire you for making this decision. Giving your child a chance to be a family that can care for it is the right decision.

3peas in a pod

No it is not to late. You need to tell your doctor. He will know how to go about it. It is never to late.

Good for you for doing what is right for yourslelf. It will be hard but giving the baby a good home is the best thing.

Maxum F

You should still be able to release legal rights to the child once it is born, which would make it available to go up for adoption.

Nurse Susan

No, it isn't. Call social services or the church of your choice, and ask to be put in touch with an agency.
There are plenty of people out there waiting for a healthy child.

Julie c

No it isn't too late, in fact it wont be too late after you have the baby. Have you thought about trying to parent before giving your child up? See if it is something that you can handle, if you are truly too young and cannot manage it you will know quite soon and can still make an adoption plan without having to wonder if you could have parented.

Peace Yo

As an expectant mother you still qualify for these services whether you plan to parent your child, or not. Just because you are considering adoption doesn't mean that you, as an expectant mother, do not qualify for social services.

It is not too late to consider adoption because you have received social services if that is what you are concerned about. You won't get into any trouble with SS regardless of what you do.

You're still you, you're still with child, you still qualify regardless of the fact that you are considering your options. Adoption has nothing to do with your qualifications for WIC etc. during pregnancy.

It's good that you are taking care of yourself. Whether you parent your child or not you still need to take care of your health and that of the baby during pregnancy. Don't feel guilty about it because you are considering options.

blkmiss

Why didn't you use birth control?

Nicki

No, it's not too late. Are you 100% sure you want to do this. If you are not, don't do it. You will have to live with the decision the rest of your life. It might be tough now, but this too shall pass. My best friend was in the same situation at your age. Now, she is a successful woman, mother and wife. She didn't give up and she faced her consequences. I admire her for her perserverence and commitment. Giving the baby away is the easy way out.

onehotmommy 79

you can give a child up for adoption at anytime and there are many forms of adoption just make sure it is what you really want to do i have been looking to adopt cause my sons want another brother or sister i have a 4 and 5 year old and i can not have anymore do to highrisk of ending my life please make sure it is what you want feel free to e mail me topofthehill4@earthlink.net

Kristina W

No, it is not too late. In most cases, the birthmother really doesn't decide until 28 to 38 weeks for sure. But, what about your parents and the baby's father? Do they know that this is what you want to do and are they on board? If the answer is yes, I know a really good adoption attorney that is very kind and really helps the birthmother decide if adoption is right for her. If you want more info on him, please e-mail me at chempossible08@yahoo.com.

New Mommy

No, it is not too late! Let me commend you on this decision. I promise that adoption is a wonderful option. It is a way to give your child a wonderful home, family, and future AND give yourself a chance to finish high school and go on to college without the burdon of providing for a child.
I recommend Catholic Charities - your religions denomination does not matter, they will help you and guide you through this process.
As an adopted baby (now 28 years old) let me thank you from the bottom of my heart. It was a little over 28 years ago that my birth mother gave me up for adoption and I have had a wonderful life!

MrsG-2B-6/19/10

No it's not too late. Do whatever you think is right.

combratable

Your decision is your choice, a very difficult choice, but no it is never too late to give a baby to a home you feel will be a better choice. I just say (no of my business I know) be certain of your answer. If you keep your baby, a way will aways provide itself, it is often tough, but I also know letting a baby go is tough too. Good luck. Best wishes to you both....

bigred

No it is not to late to consider adoption. I must say I truly commend you for wanting to provide for your child the best way possible. This will be a very difficult and emotional time for you. Please call 1-800-Bethany. They have counselors that will talk to you and assist you with an adoption plan for your baby. If you decide to place your child, you will be able to choose the family you want to raise your child. Depending on your desires and the adoptive family you may even be able to stay in touch with your child.

Mariah B

It is not too late at all. I adopted my daughter when she wa 2 months old because her mom decided she could not take care of her. I commend you for realizing how hard it is to raise a baby. It takes a strong woman to be able to see that and to do the right thing. If you need any support, someone to talk to or advice on where to go please feel free to email me at mariahbovee@yahoo.com

ladybmw1218

Not at all, you can use the Medicaid during pregnancy as well. You cannot actually make the decision to place until after the baby is born anyway, so you are free (and should be encouraged IMO) to plan for both parenting as well as adoption. You may change your mind several times, so having plans in place either way is a great thing.

You sound very smart and capable, by the way...best wishes to you.

BPD Wife

It is never too late to consider adoption. Have you spoken with your guidance counselor at school? That might be the first option for you. Another suggestion would be to speak to a reputable adoption agency to obtain more information. There is typically no fee or obligation to meeting with the agency and they can offer you the support and counseling that you may need as you go through this process.

Good luck to you and God Bless you for making this decision.

Megan

Adoption is a hard decision for any woman at any age. But if that is your choice then be glad that there are many families out there who would love to have a child to love as their own. It is never too late. Even after it is born but the sooner the better for you and the baby bc one or both of you may become attached. You may even change your mind after you give birth. The bond between a mother and child is undescribable and unconditional. So keep your head up and have faith. Any one can raise a child. You don't have to have money or experience...just love. Good luck sweet heart. XOXO

Wow...thats a hard choice...its not too late but think about it. You might regret it later...I'm sure there are people around you who care about you and are willing to help you. It'll be even harder when the baby is in your arms...=(

BraxOwl

No, it is not too late at all! If you are sure of your decision, contact your local Department of Social Services or a private adoption agency and they can guide you in the right direction.

If you would like to contact me (and no, I am not going to ask you for your baby!) you can do so through your profile. I have some links that might be of help for you too. I can reply to you without having your email address, so you can remain safe.

pookiesmom

No you could wait until after the baby is born if you choose but if you're going to adopt the baby out you should start looking now so that you have plenty of time to choose a couple that you believe is best for your baby.

Ashley P

No. It isn't too late... you can put older children up for adoption. I've heard of people putting their 6 year olds up for adoption. As long as a kid is under 16 (I believe) then they can be put up for adoption.

meghananne23

(((((Hugs)))))) No it is definitely not too late! You are make such a loving and wonderful decision! You are a hero! :) It is wonderful that you are realizing this now, you will give your child a great life!

There are many different options for adoption. You could just an open adoption, where you could receive letters, pictures, and possible meet the child occasionally. Closed adoption, which is really best for the child and family, is another option.

There are many wonderful agencies to choose from. I wish I knew where you lived and I could give you some local resources, but here are some for right now:

Here is an adoption hotline to call 1-800-592-4725. Please call them, or another # asap!

If necessary, they might be able to help you with some expenses, such as your living expenses, food, etc.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))) You are making a very loving decision!

Jennifer

No, its not too late. Even though you are receiving government assistance you still have the choice of placing your child for adoption. Hope that helps...

Mom of 3

First of all you should contact an adoption agency to get your answer. But I must tell you something. I too was pregnant in high school with no job and the father wanted nothing to do with the baby. I too didn't know anything about babies so I read everything I could get my hands on and asked questions to my family. I took the responsibility. I got a job and still finished high school. I couldn't be happier that I did it. You don't know what joy that child is going to bring you. But ultimately it is your decision. Just make sure you think of everything. If adoption is what you want to do, you will need to contact an adoption agency. They will tell you all you need to know.

Bobbye

It is never too late to put the baby up for adoption. While it is a difficult choice to make, there are certian adoption agencies that have an open adoption. That means that while you will not have custody of the child, you will be able to see your biological child when you feel the need to. I would advise you to look up local agencies in your area and talk to a counselor if you are feeling overwhelmed. Just remember that people are here for you, regardless of your choices.

dales girl

It is not to late. Please call A Link Adoption 1-800-272-2229
they can help you.

April

No way is it too late. For my first baby I did not decide to give it up for adoption till I was two weeks away from having him. You need to get in touch with a good non profit group like Link Adoptions in North Carolina. They have adoptive parents all over the USA who would be at your side the second you said jump. Adoptive parents know that when the chance for a child comes you dont wait around you jump for it.

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