Is it wrong for us to adopt?

mlb_sept22

Its not wrong to adopt a child..... i think you help them with their problems.... one they lack of LOVE.... two, they really need some shelter for them.... three, they also need food to eat so that they can grow... fourth, they need parents who can help them, LOVE them, teach them what's right and wrong, teach them how to talk, write, sing and dance.....

Aside that you help them in their needs.... they can also give you pleasure for having them.... You are a good parents because you think for the good of the child.....

if your intentions are good you would not be conscious about what others might say.... You are a good person... Thank you for helping them.... PLEASE LET ADOPT A CHILD, so that he/she can have a better future.... God bless...

newjdguy

Do whatever you want. It's not like there aren't PLENTY of children awaiting adoption. Perhaps you should consider a child that is over 1 year old . . .

guatemama

Wow, I've been right where you are. My husband and I had a healthy beautiful daughter and a healthy beautiful son. Both were biological and we had no trouble getting pregnant or during the pregnancy.

We decided we wanted a 3rd child. We looked at our options and decided that we wanted to adopt this time. Adoption was something I had always wanted to do since I had been single and my husband's heart had softened to the idea as well.

However, when we told each of our families about it, you should have seen the looks on their faces!

I'll cut to the present time since we IGNORED all their rude comments and stupid remarks. We adopted a 3 year old little boy from Guatemala. He has been with us for almost a year now and I can't imagine our family without him. My bio kids have literally THANKED me for their little brother. Instead of US being a blessing to HIM.....HE has been the blessing to US. He fits in perfectly and to be honest, sometimes I FORGET that he isn't biological. It seems that he has been here since he was born.

As for the people that think you should let the children be adopted by those who cannot conceive........believe me.....there will ALWAYS be children that need a loving mommy and daddy and a safe home. I don't think there will EVER be a day when a prospective parent calls an adoption agency and the agency says "You know what, there are NO KIDS in the world that need a family right now."

Only YOU and YOUR HUSBAND know in your heart what child will fit in your family. It may be a baby, it may be an older child...a girl, a boy....a child from the United States, or an international child. YOU GUYS are going to be the parents for the rest of the child's life......who cares what everyone else thinks.

As for my family. They have spoiled my son rotten. And are ashamed of the way they acted when we first told them we wanted to adopt. They STILL apologize.

Good luck and God bless.

Truthteller

That's called ignorance my dear. Why in the world would there be anything wrong with adopting a child? But these kinds of comments usually come from grandparents and other family members who are afraid that they won't be able to love that child just like your bio ones. We have close friends that had 4 children and just adopted three and I can assure you that if you saw how well it has worked for them, it would put your mind at ease. They are all in love with each other and there are 3 less orphans in the world. We have 3 children, and one on the way and are looking into adoption too! Most people don't know what to say, so they gotta say something. Don't be afraid to do what most people can't imagine doing(I know cause honestly I thought I couldn't do it myself until seeing others that I know do it so well). Blessing to you and your family! www.myspace.com/allison729

Amanda L

I come from a large mixed family. Me and one of my brothers belongs to my dad. Another brother belongs to my step mom. We adopted one boy. And have two brothers living with us that will most likely be adopted in the next two years. So in response to the "think of how it would feel knowing it is the only adopted child" it doesn't matter how you got there, your family is your family. When people ask me, I say I have 5 brothers, not one step brother, one real brother...and so on. I love them all, we are a family end of story.

In response to the "Shouldn't you allow those who cannot conceive to have the child" there are SOOO many children in foster care it is ridiculous. More people should be like you. If only the people who couldn't concieve took in these children imagine how many more there would be in foster care.

As long as you can support the child and give it all the love and care you give your biological children, i think this is a great idea. It is also a great lesson for your children to help other who are in need. Bottom line, if that child needs a home and you can give it a good one, people are crazy to complain about it.

Good Luck! Way to GO!

BraxOwl

No! It is not wrong for you to adopt. There are many more waiting children in this country, and in others, than there are people in line to adopt! You are not "taking a child" from someone who can not have one.

We have two biological children and a third on the way. We intend to adopt one, possibly two, child(ren) from China. And we have not ruled out having another biological child either.

The people who are making these sorts of comments to you are ignorant of how many children there are that need homes and how relative few families are willing to take them in. Perhaps during your own adoption quest, you could "educate" them. You never know, they might end up adopting also!

I think it is a wonderful thing that you want to adopt. And if you DO have concerns about the child being the only one adopted, you could possibly adopt a sibling group or a second child later. But, I think that as long as a child is loved s/he will not mind being the only one adopted. Love is the most important thing.

It is definitly NOT wrong to adopt. I'm 47 and I'm adopted as is my brother. As soon as the child is old enough to understand, you can stress on how much the childs birth mother loved him/her to care enough to put them up for adoption; wanting them to have a better home than what she could provide. Yes, there are alot of people out there that can't conceive, but there are alot of children out there that are never adopted. You and your husband are doing a wonderful thing in wanting to adopt. The source I listed is where I came from :-)

Harley

It's not wrong to adopt a child. Why bring another one in when one needs a home if you can afford it? Just because he/she is adopted does not mean they will be loved any less. The kids won't know the difference growing up and once it's out that he is, everyone in the family will still treat him the same.

Giving a child a chance at a loving home is absolutely fantastic!

April

I think if you are able to adopt then do it. There are so many needy children around that if you choose to adopt Im sure there is one loving child who will be gratefull.And tell the other people to mind their own buisiness.

Chanel

I think it's great that you and your husband are willing to adopt even with the fact that you are able to conceive. There are millions of children out there who are in need of homes.

If this is really something you want to do, don't be too concerned with the opinions of others. Yes, there are people out there who can't have their own kids and would like to adopt...but it is a fact that there are plenty of children out there and you adopting is not going to hinder the happiness of another family. It will instead, give that child a decent loving home and family with two beautiful siblings (I'm sure.)

So do what your heart says, and the rest is history.

Wishing you the best...

sassy women

no adoption is one of the most exciting things to do because your giving a helpless child some hope :)

Honeypai

WHAT? What kind of IDIOTS would tell you not to adopt? There are so many kids out there who need a good home ad loving parents and siblings. How cool of you to want to welcome a child into your home. It doesn't matter that you can concieve another, but that you are UNSELFISH enough not too. Good for you.

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot

Why not? check out adoptuskids.com if you want to see a ton of kids who need to be loved by parents like you!

S@R@H

I say this...

There are MILLIONS of children out in this world that nobody wants anything to do with. Yes you can have your own children, but why, when you can give somebody elses a place in your heart and give them the chance they never would have had otherwise. I think it is absolutely wonderful. There are plenty of babies in the world that need adopted and should be... I have high respect for couples that adopt AFTER they have had their own children. It's wonderful. The child they adopt will have a full family to go home to that loves him/her dearly. Good luck and yes, do it! There is a child out there that needs you!

!it is me!

i was adopted so i am gonna say it isn't wrong because if i wouldn't have gotten adopted i would be in a bad place right now you always have to think about the kid would it be better for them and than you have to think about the kids you do have would your adopting affect them so all i can say is it is your choose don't let anyone change you mind on what you want to do

rutym02

it shouldn't matter if your able to concieve or not, all that matters is that you will love the adopted child unconditionally and treat him or her no differently then your biological children

gerdie65

If you are financially able to care for this child and have the love it takes to raise another one,why shouldn't you.At least the child will be in a loving home and have a good start at life.I say go for it and don't listen to the people's comments.Good luck and best wishes.

Jessica T

I think that babies who are put up for adoption need a loving, happy home.
Can you give this to a child?
If yes, and you want another child, I don't see any reason why someone wouldn't be happy for you.
Everyone has opinions, trust your own and don't worry what others think.

ClassyInCoach

They're insane!! If only we really did live in such a perfect world that so few children were familyless that people had to fight over them! The problem is NOT that there aren't enough children in need of loving families, it's that there aren't enough loving families willing to take them! We have NO shortage of orphans in this world, trust me! I just got back from volunteering in an orphanage in India!

Ashley

there are enough children out there for both you and those who cant conceive to adopt. The world is full of homeless children. It may seem odd to others that you have two biological children and one adopted child, but it will not be a big deal to them unless you make it sound that way. You are still the mother of all 3

sxcsam92

No not at all. Im 14 and when i'm older I plan to have a huge family! I want to adopt maybe 4 and have 5 or so of my own. Good luck xxx

Crucio

Its perfectly fine. I could more understand if say there were only 10 children/babies left that needed to be adopted. This however is not the case there is no shortage of children that need to be adopted. I think itâ€™s great if a couple/person chooses to have a mix of adopted and natural kids. I applauded you and your husband for deciding to give a loving home to a child that needs one.

Also Iâ€™m 1 of 4, and the only adopted one. I have never had any problems over being the only one adopted.

eve

I think those comments are totally ridiculous and it never even would have occurred to me to think it could be "wrong" to adopt. You are absolutely not depriving someone else of being able to adopt. Unfortunately there are a lot of unwanted children in this world who very much need homes with loving parents who want them. Anyone who tells you otherwise has never been to an orphanage and they also have no idea what it means to want a child or have a child. Children in this world need homes and parents. It is wonderful beyond measure to take an already living child as your own and not add another human being to our already very overcrowded world just so you can have someone new in your life to love. It would be a totally different and far better world if most people considered adoption before they had a biological child.

PRiNC3SS

if u are both happy and secure about this idea and are good parents you should go about this but also think about your other children's feeling, Don't worry about other people words make your on decisions.

Melissa V

Well I have two children ages 4 and 16 month and although I could have more biologically, we too have decided to adopt. there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. As for those friends. There are thousands upon thousands of kids that need to be adopted, there are not enough people who cannot conceive in this world to adopt them all. I think what your are doing is wonderful. That child will be just as much apart of your family as your other two. Ever child deserves a home , and you are by choice willing to give that to them, even though you don't have too. Now that true love!!!! Don't get discouraged, Sometimes I think people tend to get jealous, when you do something that their not willing to do.

Rebel

Do what is right for you and your wife...
If you want to adopt go ahead.. its not anyone else's business
As long as you never treat that child differently, and the other children don't either..... go for it..
Many children without homes..adoption is a great thing!

Sergeyâ™£Vladnov

Who cares what other people say? You and your husband need to decide what is best FOR YOU FAMILY, and situation. You don't need other people deciding for you. Period.

iluvsunsets

Listen to your heart, not other people who think they know everything !

anonymouse

We are going through adoption right now. I should think of you as more "competition". But there are so many kids needing a loving family and home, that you are a fellow traveller in our journey to adopt. How can anyone resent that???

My take: good luck in your adoption and don't let idiots stop you from adopting.

Sassy

I think it is a great idea that you adopt. There are soooo many children in this world who needs a loving family. An y loving person/family who wants to adopt is okay with me. Forgot about what everyone else thinks.

babygurl

It's a bueatiful thing to adopt a child and care for it. I also have a 3 and 5 year old and my last child will be adopted or when the time is right. Just don't get your tubes tied or anything you might change your mind and want another one of your own.

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