Is it wrong to give the baby up for adoption, if you're drinking when your pregnant?

kateiskate

Depends on whether or not you know what you did was wrong and want to change. There should be effort to rehabilitate the biological mom in all cases where it is possible so that families aren't separated. While it is easy to say "yes, she should give the baby up, how terrible of her to harm her child like that" there are no absolutes in these situations, no black and white.

Independ"ant"

No its not wrong and i think everyone should do it.
Callus and ignorantly worded question.

Obviously anyone doing drugs and abusing alcohol during pregnancy is not in their right mind.

Addiction is a real ugly "disease" isn't it.

Instead of punishment and treating addiction like a crime how about prevention and treatment before, during and after pregnancy.

BLW_KAM

Our daughter was born with drugs in her system. While going through the approval process we were trained in how to care for an infant with fetal alcohol syndrome and drug exposure. In my area it's not uncommon for babies placed for adoption to have these types of issues.

To answer your question, is it wrong to place a baby who has been exposed? No, it's not. But it's vitally important that the APs have the tox screenings and any other medical information available so they can get the right care for the child.

Is it wrong to exposure the baby in the first place? We all know the answer to that.

icehockeymom7

It's kind of gross to just tell yourself "Aw, I'll just drink this bottle of vodka because what the h#ll, this baby's going to be someone else's problem anyway, I won't have to deal with the FAS"
But, having said that, there are many AP's who adopt children knowing they have been exposed to alcohol and drugs in the womb. But a birth mother who drinks and does drugs during pregnancy is terribly selfish, regardless of who will end up parenting this child.

Kate

It is not wrong to give the child up for adoption as if seems the biological mother has many issues she needs to get help for.

An infant exposed to alcohol when in-utro suffers a lot of damage as alcohol is the worst if you were to choose to go any drug, etc.

The child does suffer the rest of their life dealing with many health issues, mental issues etc, I personally think that the biological mother would not be able to care for the child's needs. Also, often the biological mother if they keep the child, they have to look at the child for the rest of their life knowing what they did.

My biological mother hid a lot from me, and by looking at me, it is too hard for her and she wants nothing to do with me. I was told she drank while she was pregnant by another family member, she claimed she had the chicken pox although there is not record of it.

Regardless, I also had a couple of brain sugeries and suffer from mental issues, etc. I know my biological mother has mental issues as well.

I am glad though that I was adopted, that I can the proper care I need, etc.

billdeana2

Give the baby a chance at a good life. Some people would love to be "damned" by your mistake.

bbhefer

i think if they did drink and its too late then they dont care for the child anyways and it be better off with adoptive parents that are going to love it. at the same time they should be so selfish to take chances of harming the baby. those people should be put in prison for attemptive muder. they know the consequenses nd do it anyways

adrianny

if you think you are not going to change well its better if you give him in adoption there are parent that treat kids better ,it's wrong but is better for the kid if he is going to suffer with you hopefully he wont be like you with the help of his new parent's

IDK!!

i hardly feel "Damned" by my sons health conditions. FAS or not he is a blessing to our family and a wonderful little boy. Please understand that this is usually cause by self medicating of another serious disorder. I couldn't even give up root beer while pregnant, I can't even imagine having to fight alcoholism while pregnant with a baby I wasn't intending to keep. These women need HELP and REHAB, not jail.

Serenity71

Its wrong to drink alcohol or take recreational drugs period when you're pregnant. If you have been doing either you can't undo it but you can take control of it from now on.

If you have be honest with your doctor, that way they can help you and your baby more effectively.

HouseMom

There's nothing saying there will be permanent damage - you just have to wait and see what happens when the baby is born. But to give it up just because you don't want to take parental or fiscal responsibility for a kid whom you may have caused damage to in the womb would be pretty crappy.

mom to be

You should never drink when your pregnant, regardless of your decision to parent or place the child up for adoption. It may be too late to change the effects on the baby, but as soon as a woman finds out she is pregnant she NEEDS to stop, long term exposure to drugs and alcohol is only going to increase the risk to the baby. If a woman continues to drink and drug---it is abuse.

Jane S

Like I should be the one you ask an ethics question to?

Ha!

Rawr. All you scene h8rs. Eff off.

C B

hell yeah its wrong and i hope you do give it up for adoption because there is someone out there that would give up anything in the world to have a baby.

Opedial

House mom is wrong, there is evidence that ANY amount of alcohol will provide some degree of challenges to the brain, and they are not reversable. That is why it is FASD, it is a spectrum of which children will fall.

First, no woman should drink while pregnant, and one who does needs education. Likely these are not the women thinking that they should "give" their child a better life, because if they did they would not drink. They often would not have the thought process to consider adoption.

When adopting you take your chances with FASD and be prepared to find out that your children has learning disability and poor logic and other challenges to natural development.

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