Is there a situation where you'd ever give your baby up to adoption?

Possum

Never.
Ever.
I had a pregnancy scare when I was young.
I was petrified with fear that my adoptive mother would make me give the child up for adoption.
I would have done anything BUT adoption.
I just knew that I would never place that hurt on my own child.(ie being given away to strangers)

As for the present day - if something were to happen to me (and my husband) - we have made arrangements for family to take care of our children. And they would - in a heartbeat.
Perhaps guardianship would happen - but they realise that to love and care for them they wouldn't need to be 'adopted' - as that would just strip them of their identity.

tlent

If I was going to die soon or something like that. I would give the baby to a friend.

Kevin

Only if I'm going to die soon. And I wouldn't give it to a foster home, I'd give my child to a trusted friend or family member.

almost human

Never

nope
no situation
not ever

I would never put any child through the feelings I am dealing with today, as a grown woman, about being abandoned. It left me without a foundation to stand on, always unsure of even the most basic things everyone in normal families take for granted.

I have raised my own children from poverty and impossible odds and overcame all. There is no situation that can not be conquered better together. That's what unconditional love does.

Rosie Babayyy

no way, i got pregnant at 16, gave birth at 17, and that didnt stop me from raising my own child. i absolutely love being a mother. i have 3 boys and i am trying for a girl. maybe i would consider adopting..

in love with love!!!!!

No, never. Even if i got pregnant during school i would still have to take care of that baby bcuz i was the one that did what i did so i need to live with that. But no i would never put my baby up for adoption i don't want someone else for my baby.

nextelfan25

Well I had my first child at 17 and the other at 19.... nope. It's my responsibility to take care of them...I help produce them there my responsibility. I know people do but I couldn't.. And I know people have there reasons too.

BOTZ

Not likely. Very, very unlikely.

Others here have mentioned one I'd have to think about -- If I knew for certain I was going to die SOON and my child(ren) was/were too young to 'wait and see' if I'd make it until they were self-sufficient.

And, in that case, ONLY if my husband was unavailable/unable to care for them into adulthood (and beyond).

In a case that includes all of the above, my (hypothetical) children would live with a family member and their name(s) would not be changed -- a guardianship, rather than an adoption -- and they'd NEVER go to a stranger.

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I would rather have an abortion then to ever give something up that i had inside me for 9 months, then go through all the pain of birth just to hand it over to strangers to always have to worry about if the kid is getting treated right. Not all people who adopt are saints.

LaurieDB

No. And, I would always make certain to have provisions for them in case anything happened to me.

Gershom

No, never.

tash

i was adopted and i never met my real parents. some do and they are luckey. i would never give up my son to anyone. i know how it feels not knowing your true self

LALA

Never Ever Ever. I was adopted at 5 and have always known my real mom. I think even now how I needed the connection with her because thats my Blood and its a part of who you are.

The kids i have now NO
However at 17 my girlfriend and I had a pregnancy scare. Before knowing the out come we discussed everything from Abortion to adoption because she was 15 and we felt we could not keep the baby if she was pregnant. She ended up not being pregnant
ETA
I was a freshman in college ( graduated early from high school two months after turning 17 should of been a ) and my parents had already told me that if i got a girl pregnant they were going to stop paying for school and i would have to go work. I knew what kind of dead end jobs you can get at 17 going at 18 and knew i could finish school but it would be a lot harder and take a lot longer. especially since at the time i thought i was going to be a doctor.
She was in high school and was already poor. Her mom had her young and her dad refused to pay child support. Her and her mom had a rough life because of it and her mom dropped out of college and never went back. She did not want her life for her child so she did not want to keep the baby either.
So yes i did for consider adoption
We broke up shortly after and remained friends for a few years. I know she did get pregnant in college and had an abortion for the same reasons above.
ETA2
Just to give a frame or reffernce . my girlfriend had just moved into her first apartment with her mom since her birth. They had been living with her grandmoter who reminded them daily that she was allowing them to live their. They finally were making enough to have their own place. If she was pregant and had kept the baby they would of had to move back. the money i would give from my little job and if she went to work would no wear near support a child. She never wanted to talk to much less live at her grandmothers home again

Gaia Raain

If my husband and I were both physically or mentally incapable of caring for our child(ren), my best friend would raise them. She would have GUARDIANSHIP, she would not attempt to erase their past by adopting them.

Sofiakat

Katie U

I got pregnant at 17 and gave birth to my beautiful son at 18. He is the best thing that ever could have happened to me but I couldn't raise him. I didn't want my parents to have to raise him with me, the father was a deat beat so I decided to place him for adoption. He is now in an open adoption with the most wonderful parents EVER! I see him about once a month and I couldn't have chosen a better way for things to work out!

friendshiponfire555

Yes. I believe parents think they are always the best parents for their babies. Let me tell you, that isn't always true. If I was a drug addict or abusive, I would certainty give my child up to someone who could take care of them. Just because you are that babies parent, doesn't mean anything when you jeopardize their chances of becoming good people. Many people are to selfish to think of their children. Also if I couldn't financially support my child, I would give them up also. Being a good parent and loving someone means giving up what you want. It's all about who could raise your child and make him/her happy and safe.

linkin4113

I personally would never give my child up for adoption. If I was ever in a situation where it would be better for my child, then I would do whatever I possibly could to make it better. Although, I think more of these young girls should give their babies up because I have seen too many of them pawn them off on their parents and not be responsible and too many babies have to grow up with their grandparents and not a real mommy and daddy. I'm 100% supportive of adoption but it's just not for me. I want to be a mommy way too much to ever give up a child...

jessica

If I absolutely knew I couldn't give my baby the life it deserves. I would never have an abortion but if I couldn't take care of the baby for any reason I would want someone who could to have it and give the life I couldn't. I would still see it so it knew where it came from and knew I gave it up because I loved it.

Hannah B

For me no as I know my family will always be their to help me out any way they can and I have a job and a house now. If it had been while I was still in education they would still have been there for me financially and otherwise. However if in another life I was desperately poor or in some other terrible situation like being addicted to drugs and I didn't think I could possibly offer my child the upbringing they deserved then I would give them up for adoption.

bre

If I was not able to support the child and myself with everything we needed than I would put my child up for adoption

Dark_Fire_Angel

I was shock when i found out i was pregnant. I was in no way shape or form to be a parent and both me and her birthfather wanted better for her. So my daugther is in open adoption with a awesome couple and i visit her about 2 times a month.

alicialions

No, I wouldn't, but I do understand why many people have done. Sometimes that is the only answer and it is better to give a loving couple a child when they can't have one themselves if you are unable to care for your child for one reason or another.

cassie

only or if i was extreamly poor and they would have a better life with an other couple

morgandy731

My friend said if i ever got pregnant he would never let me give my baby up for adoption. I say yes because I know our parents would get most of the responsibility then we would, going to school and all.

HotDonkeyLove

USE CONDOMS!!!

-Edit- Proof is on this page, all the people who wasted there chance to vote to give me a thumbs down. Their parents should have used a condom..lol.

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