Is there an age limit on when you can put your OWN baby for adoption like in the film juno ???? please help?

Independ"ant"

Charla...you're an adoptive parents wet dream. Many are already lined up with money in their hands...waiting for girls your age to hand them a baby. Don't believe them nor trust them. They'll just tell you whatever you want to hear until you sign your rights away.

If you're mature enough to go through pregnancy and childbirth you're mature enough to raise a child despite what some sects of society think. Hopefully you have parents and relatives that will support you if and when you decide to keep your child.

I know a couple of girls that had kids at 13 that made great parents despite being young. You can still have a life and raise a child.

magic pointe shoes

GirlMom
http://www.girlmom.com/

What you should KNOW if you are considering adoption for your baby
http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.php?id=1

Anyway, test and findout if you are indeed pregnant and regardless read this book. It's a teen version of Taking Control of Your Fertility
http://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Savvy-Smart-Teens-Mysteries/dp/B001A5RHL4/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1227571198&sr=1-2

monkeykitty83

No, there isn't. The biological parents of the baby must legally be the ones who terminate their own rights, even if they're minors. They also have the right to decide not to place their children. If someone else tries to tell you that you don't have the right to decide whether or not to place your own child, don't believe them.

(Which I assume is what you mean, since Juno made her own decision, not her parents or the state.)

dasher

AN AGE LIMIT .
do you mean the age of the mother or the baby ?

I have never heard of an age limit. there are so many couples looking to adopt a child.

If you are old enough to get pregnant, then you are old enough to decide who would be best to raise that child....
seek some free legal help

Perdie

You , as a parent, can be any age, as can the child. Its a life changing decision & is a process that is well supported by professionals.
EDIT Charla you will not get into trouble, it is your decision, you should let someone you trust know as soon as possible the situation you are in, they will help you feel confident in whatever decision you make. I was a mom at 16, it was scarey &you need an adult to support you through the chenges you are going to experience physically, emotionally&mentally-it isnt as easy as you may think. Good luck honey:)

Linny G

Why? If you cannot care for your child temporarily, or the stress is so great you may harm yourself or your child, you should take the child to his or her other parents or a grandparent or other relative or friend. Adoption can be very traumatic on a child and on the natural parent, and it is best for it to remain with family.

edited to add, Im not sure if you already have a child, or if you are contemplating adoption. Please be more specific.

Felicita1

Too bad you are writing yourself off as a mother without even holding your baby in your arms. I know moms who were once 14 and pregnant and were wonderful mothers to their children. There are resources out there, including college scholarships for single moms, daycares on campus, and parent resource centers. Plus young mom support groups, and financial assistance and housing. Plus "Moms and Mentors" groups that match up young moms with experienced older moms to mentor them.

You won't know if you are ready for a child until your baby is in your arms, as pregnancy and birth are what prepares us hormonally and emotionally for becoming a mom.

There are tons of people who will want to adopt your baby. According to "Adoptive Families" magazine, for every newborn available for adoption there are supposedly 40 couples wanting to adopt. If you put your baby on the market, you won't find a lack of them. The problem is that once you are "matched" with them, you will find it next to impossible to change your mind and keep your baby if you want to, as your pregnancy bonding hormones may cause you to "bond" to them like being your own "substitute parents". Be very careful of getting yourself into this trap. You are the mother of this baby and have EVERY right to all the resources you need to keep your baby.

sizesmith

Dear Charla:
Hopefully, you aren't pregnant. It's sooo young, and an unwanted pregnancy at that age is very hard. I do agree with not aborting it! There are 1000's of families who'd love to adopt. I know, I'm one of them.

I urge you to maintain contact, and work with someone for open adoption. Have a trusted adult in your corner, even if it's your school counselor or nurse (the nurse can probably get you a pregnancy test). Pregnancy tests are very easy to get, and clerks sell them all the time, so don't be embarrassed. They run from $1.00 up to $60. The cheap ones work just fine. Take one soon, and if it is negative, take another one in a week. Could the baby's father take you to planned parenthood, or your local health office? There, they'll have tests, and ways to help you through pregnancy.

Be careful asking for parents online. Although there are good ones, who've already gone through open adoptions, there are sooooooo many who aren't good, who don't have paperwork in order, and so many who don't follow the promises of open adoption. You have so many rights you're probably not aware of, such as you cannot be forced to do anything about the baby. No one can force you to place it for adoption, keep it, or anything, including abortion. You have every right to meet the adoptive parents, visit their home, meet their entire family, and get to know them. Our son's first mom actually stayed with us for a little while, by her own request, his pregnancy, and her subsequent one (she kept the 2nd child).

It's very brave to ask for help. Contact me, and I'll help you with resources if you wish to keep the baby, or if you wish to place him/her for adoption. You don't have to know if it's a boy or a girl, but I'd recommend knowing after it's born at least. You even can get copies of the driver's licenses of the parents who adopt, and authorization to obtain their credit reports in years to come, so that way, you can find out where they are in the future. This is a decision only you can make, and please make it because you decide to, not because ANYONE either around you, or online tried to talk you out of it. There are so many people like myself who want to adopt, and some will literally try to force you and will lie to you to get the opportunity to adopt. There are others who say your baby needs you, and you alone, mainly because they didn't get adopted into good families. Each individual's experience is different. You can even have the family who adopts in the delivery room, and understanding your age, and need for privacy, you could have just the woman, or no one in there except the doctor and nurse. Anyone should feel so blessed to adopt a little boy or girl, so I'd skip anyone who specifically says they'll only adopt a little girl, or boy. Your baby's adoptive parents will also need to be open to care for a premature baby, as many babies born to women your age come early. I urge you to take prenatal vitamins, available over the counter at any pharmacy, or at least a regular vitamin/mineral supplement, including iron and folic acid, two very important things you'll need right now. If you need help, contact me, please. Good luck, no matter what you do!

suzanne

Like everyone else has said, you will not get in trouble from the law for putting the baby up for adoption. I really commend you for not seeking an abortion, I know that a pregnancy at your age can be very hard on you and embarrassing and I admire your willingness to go through that for the baby's sake.
As others have said, you definitely will not have any trouble finding an adoptive family for your child, one thing no one has mentioned is that with many adoption agencies YOU get to pick the adoptive parents. ( at least I know the agency I'm working with allows you to do so) As for the comment someone made about you being forced to go through with it, it is just not true in today's society. (it may have happened in years past) Now, the hospital has a social worker who is there to advocate for you as the first mother, you have your own social worker from your agency and you have all rights until you sign them away. The potential adoptive parents and their social worker cannot even have access to you or your baby without your express permission. I just recently went through a failed adoption where the mother decided to parent after I'd spent 2 days in the hospital caring for the child. Yes, it hurt, I'd already bonded with that baby, but I also knew that the child was still her's and she had that right to make that decision. Not every adoptive parent is out to "get your baby." Most importantly surround yourself with people who love and support you, not one's who will try to make the decision for you. This is a decision you will live with the rest of your life and you must make it. Best of luck, I know this is a really difficult time for you.

karcnr

No there is no age limit in placing a child for adoption. I would contact an adoption agency and they should be able to answer any of your questions as well as provide counseling. You won't have any trouble finding parents for your baby either as there are way more couples wanting to adopt than there are mothers placing their baby for adoption. It truely is a selfless act and I admire you for making such a tough choice. I encourage you to place with a non profit agency, which doesn't cost the adoptive parents an arm and a leg. Adoption can be expensive costing upwards of $40K for a healthy white newborn.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

you don't have to be any age to abandon your baby.

be prepared for a life of sorrow.

Nicole

No you cannot get into any trouble and your parents really have no say in the matter. It is your child, therefore it is your decision. Your age does not mean anything to the adoptive parents. They just want a healthy baby to raise.
You will need to contact an adoption agency, do your research, don't just pick the first one you see. Also you will need to get the biological father to sign over his parental rights in order for you to put the child up for adoption (you will have to do the same)
Good for you for not considering abortion, that shows you are a mature and intelligent individual. Take your time, educate yourself about the process (the adoption agency will help) and don't let anyone persuade you to change your mind. It is your decision, not theirs.

katzy

Charla go to the Salvation Army and talk to the people there. They are really kind people that are very helpful and generous with their time. They will be able to give you good advice. There is also legal aid in all the cities just look in the phone book and ask them where you could go to see about free legal advice and they also will advise you. Good luck. Don't worry there are lots of people who will be there for you and will help you.

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