Is there anyway to bypass all the red tape when it comes to adoption?

tish

thanks for qualifying...i'll edit my answer.

you need to first make sure the fmother's rights are protected. many young women want adoption then are ambivelant after birth.

also, you need to go through the legal process. this is not something to rush through.

Mei-Ling

The red tape is necessary.

34 weeks with Evan Alexanderâ™¥

Of course you still have to go through all the steps!

Lillie

You do realize you are talking about a HUMAN BEING, don't you?

Unglaublich. *shaking head*

Rowan

Reading your edits, i understand what you're trying to say. But the legal issues are necessary.

The red tape is there for a reason. I really doubt abortion rates would drop if adoption was made easier. For the simple fact that some women just don't want to give the child up, they would rather abort it.

IDK!!

You can take care of a womans baby, without adopting. Of course the mother can regain custody of her child at anytime, but if this is just so the baby can be taken care of then, you don't need any paperwork.

The only think I would suggest, is getting the parents to sign a REVOKABLE right to censent for treatment and temporary custody. And attorney can draw one in in a few hours.

This will allow you to have the child treated wil also allow the parents to revoke is if they wish.

Angela R

If you do not legally go through all of the proper steps to legally adopt the child, then the child will not be legally yours. If a woman just "gives" you her child to care for, basically you would just be babysitting.

Without legally being the child's parent or guardian you would not be able to consent to medical treatment for the child or enroll them in school. Also, unless you legally adopt the child the biological parents could come back at anytime to regain custody, or a family member could decide that they wanted to raise the child, and you would basically have no rights at all.

Also, realize that the "red tape" is in place in order to make sure the child is going to a safe home. Every adoptive family must undergo a homestudy to ensure that the child is going to a suitable home. The situation you are discribing may sound easier, but it definetly would not be in anyone's best interest.

Gaia Raain

I see where you're coming from. Unfortunately, adoption and abortion have nothing to do with each other. Abortion is decided long before adoption is even an option, and adoption isn't an option until well after one has decided whether or not to complete her pregnancy. Also, there are more than enough people willing to adopt (far more than necessary, if you remove all the healthy, white, infants who would be just fine staying with their own mother). It's just that most people don't want to adopt the kids who NEED new families - i.e. kids in foster care, kids who's parents have died and have no other family, kids who have no other safe options. We do NOT need to make it easier to talk women out of their children (which would be the end result of your proposal...no woman should be deciding on adoption before giving birth and holding her child in her arms). If anything, the adoption process should be harder, and should include steps to remove from the applicant pool those who are adopting to serve their own selfish interests, those who do not understand the needs of adoptees, those who believe that adopting a younger, less traumatized child will result in a compliant child who displays no obvious issues, etc.

sunny

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Angelina seems to avoid the red tape, but I don't know how she does it.

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almost human

I know a couple of adoptees who were adopted privately this way.

Without the "red tape" and oversight, their adoptive parents were not studied, and their adoptions were not monitored. They were horribly abused but nobody was looking out for their interests.

Quality of life should be every bit as important as life when considering the welfare of children. To be born only to live a life of torture is not a life worth living.

Please spend your energies formulating theories that make raising your own children a viable and desirable option instead.

ETA
Are PAP's allowed to solicit for children on Y!A like karcnr did below?

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

what a disgusting question.

"easier" for families to adopt? you clearly have a lot of research to do when it comes to adoption.

what about the CHILD?????????? isn't it supposed to be about the child? for pete's sake.

making it easier on the AP's. good grief.

Serenity71

You still have to be assessed. Why do lawyers have so much influence in the process, there should be something in place that the prospective parties still have to see social workers for counseling on the emotional side of adoption. To assess if anything sus is happening.

It's not so simple of "Oh I'll take the baby for you." I know of one case years ago that that happened. The couple wanted a baby and the Nmother didn't want the child so they all made a deal. The couple couldn't legally adopt the child because of our laws, but the kid was 7 seven years old when I met them and the kid believed them to be her biological parents. One day that couple are going to be in for a rude shock when their daughter learns the truth.

gbmortie

I have a close friend who *just* competed an adoption like this. A relative of her husband became pregnant with her 4th child and he was having trouble taking care of the 3 she already had. She approached them about adopting the baby and they agreed. When she had the baby, he went right home with my friends and she had her tubes tied.

They still needed a lawyer, and a social worker. They still had to do the homestudy and everything. They had guardianship and POA of him from the time he was a couple of weeks old but their adoption did not become final until he was closer to a year old, the delay being the search for the biological father.

There are still plenty of steps involved.

karcnr

Yes, I think you can just go to a lawyer and get the legal stuff done.
I am not sure if the adoptive parents need to have a homestudy for this to be legal, but homestudy and lawyer fees would still come to around $2K which is much less than the $30-$40K average to adopt a healthy while newborn.

If you know of anyone who wants to place a child this way, please refer them to me. My husband and I would love to adopt a baby or young child and the red tape is such a pain not to mention expensive.

div2wice

Adoption is crazy. Everyone says to adopt children, there are so many needing homes, but then they make the process so ridiculously time consuming and difficult, its no wonder more people don't adopt.
I would assume that already having a child/birth mother agreed upon would be "easier". You would just need to get an adoption lawyer and complete the paperwork.
Going through adoption agencies and/or internationally is when it gets wicked. So many time delays, so much money, so many ups & downs. Its like you're buying a baby. Quite sad....
If you go through the state its usually somewhat simple, except you need to complete a homestudy, and visits with the social worker, research into your past/background checks, etc. A lot of time consuming research and paperwork....

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