Is this a load of?

adoptionissoawesome

I compeltely agree. i just saw this category of yahoo answers and came looking. I'm totally appalled that people on here say such negative things about adoptive parents. my parents didn't steal me. if there are adoptees that think that, they are so sad.

amyburt40

It still happens today. I know of at least ten folks who have had their children basically stolen due to the unscrupulous agencies and attorneys. These are the cases that have been publicized. After I had my first child, the doctor that should have delivered her was dealing in black market babies. He got busted for it. I changed doctors at the last minute. My daughter is now eleven years old.

The reason why records are sealed is not to protect natural parents, adoptees or even adoptive parents. Its to protect the adoption agencies and their attorneys. Period.

mlassi65

my mother was told I died at birth. so yes children do get stolen.

Theresa

Some recent news stories from the past two months you may wish to review...

Too many cases to ignore despite lack of proof
Anecdotal evidence gives ample cause for concern
http://www.canada.com/edmontonjournal/news/story.html?id=78cc5c6e-c50e-4e7d-b5b2-030a06d7ab40

Adoptees claim they lost their biological parents through underhanded methods
http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/story.html?id=2a996c3d-1112-4f65-abb4-dd7e084b8743&k=93848

Adopted Argentine sues dirty war parents
http://www.miamiherald.com/915/story/425153.html

Liberia investigates child adoptions by U.S. agency
http://africa.reuters.com/wire/news/usnL01119563.html

The shameful secrecy of the adoption system
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/newscomment.html?in_article_id=511604&in_page_id=1787

Baby racket in three major hospitals
http://www.sundaytimes.lk/080127/News/news004.html

KIDNAPPED KIDS REUNITE WITH FAMILY IN GUATEMALA
http://insidedateline.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2008/01/17/584551.aspx

Adoption agency in child kidnap probe
http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,23026719-38200,00.html

Chad court jails French aid staff
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/7160790.stm

Ghost Writer Rides Again

You have a lot to learn, little girl.

The women who relinquish nowadays that are ok with their decision and have no regrets(or some regrets) are so few and far between, lawyers and agencies would never make their $$$ (I am one of those very few women). CPS preys on the poor so they can get their cash bonuses from the federal government, all thanks to Bill Clinton when he was prez. There are many, many mothers and fathers who are still fighting the return of their children. Even if they contest it within the revokation period, the lawyers and agencies fight until the period expires and continue the adoption. Women feel obligated to hand their children over if the prospective adoptive parents pay for medical costs and such (no first mom should be expected to pay them back if she decides she wants to parent her child!), CPS homewreckers falsify reports to keep wrongfully taken children with them......there is evidence all around us of the corruption and distortion of the foster care system and adoption. Perhaps you should educate yourself before running your mouth. Want first hand accounts, look into exiledmothers.com....Read The Girls Who Went Away....not all women "chose" to give away their babies.

Gaia Raain

I think there is a very large part of the population of biological mothers who did seek out adoption, of their own free will, for their child...but then, when they changed their minds, were coerced into giving up their child anyway. In some cases, the adoptive family has already been paying the mother's bills throughout the pregnancy, and if she then decided to keep her baby, she would have to pay back all that money. There are people who don't tell the baby's father (so, he's not consenting to his child being raised by someone else...I think that qualifies as stealing a child). There are many subtle forms of coercion...I mean, think about it. We as a society still give out the message that if you're not married, don't own a home, don't have a great job, don't own at least 2 cars, and/or live in a bad part of town...well, you just don't deserve a child. That, in and of itself, is enough coercion for some women who could be very good mothers, to seek out an adoption plan for their child.

I'm sure there are also back-alley psycho gynecologists who steal babies and carry on the illustrious tradition of selling human flesh to the highest bidder. Human trafficking does happen. Yes, even in America. (I don't know where you're at, but I bet it happens there, too.)

Bizzi

9/10ths? Can you prove that and back that statement up or is that your discriminate opinion as normal?

Stolen is like I was my family was a good family till some rich spoiled brat with opinions and discrimination similar to yours ripped it apart..

Stolen is forcing a mother to give her child up....
Stolen is being born out of wedlock and your parents telling you your making them look bad give up the child..

jgf5822

obviously your 9/10 theory doesn't include most of the adult adoptees from the baby scoop era in the 60's - 70's. i was one of them.

doctors drugged mothers, told them their babies had died, and then took bries and sold the kids.

but as long as people chose to believe adoption is A-OK!, i guess we're screwed.

whatever!

I wasn't stolen, my mom had to give me up because of life choices. i just learnt i can't judge others.

Jennifer L

First, I will grant that the adoption process in the 60's and 70's and before left much to be desired, and that's putting it lightly. My sister was pressured to place her first child for adoption, changed her mind in the hospital. It took a pretty firm stance on her part to make it happen, but in the end, nobody drugged and coerced her.

But adoptions now have made huge strides toward fairness for both the birthfamily and the adoptive family. That's not to say bad things don't still happen, but overall the process has made tremendous progress.

As for the first part, about adoptive child being stolen from the family. That's personal baggage from someone who really has issues to sort out. I've said it before that this sweeping, broad judgements on what are unique and personal situations is getting rather annoying. But I don't put a whole lot of stake in it at all. It's very easy to lash out at strangers.

eliminator_3

Yeah, that is true, however, if the bio-mother is underage, she has no right to keep the baby. Her parents might give the baby up for adoption. When the Bio-mother becomes 18 or whatever she hunts her child down.

I know someone that had that happened to them... she's battling in court right now.

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