Is this wrong?

mJc

Yes... it is very wrong. And it proves again how selfish and immature these "unfit" bio parents are as human beings.

Glinda W

Yes it's wrong, but you already knew that.

Tom =]

yeah it is wrong, id tell them that they got no right to control my life, they gave me up and with it all responsibiltys of having a child

chik620

I think its wrong of the biological parents to try to control a child they, for whatever reason, had to put up for adoption. Being a biological mother to a 6 year old boy, would never dream of trying to run his life or even force myself to be apart of it if he didnt want me to be. All i concider myself is a surrogate mother. The child doesnt call me mom, i didnt raise him (although i would have loved to), so what right would i have to have any say in what he does?? Thats my answer!

tommi_ghurl_2006

Yes, its VERY wrong to do something like that. If that child dont want to see his/her bio parents at that point in time then they shouldnt do that. Its Wrong.

falnangel07

Yes it is really wrong ! These people decided to give up there rights as parents it would be one thing if they came back and just wanted a friendly relationship but trying to control a child that is no longer theres is wrong.

nov22lagirl

Of course it is wrong !! that's the worse thing you can do unless you have a darn good excuse for doing it. I do believe if a parent can't take care of a child that is the thing to do is give it a good home

rickane5

Yes very they werent the one who worried about the child when it was sick, teething, on its first day a school, when it fell over.

They werent there when the child took its first steps, laughed or went through puberty Etc Etc.

I am adopted from birth an have met my biological mother. I would never see her as my mother as I have a mum and I believe anyone can be a mother or father but not every one can be a mum or dad. Mums and Dads do the hard yards

maccrew6

Definately WRONG.. In a similar situation, one of our great Pittsburgh Steelers was raised by only his mom after his dad walked out on them... Fast forward several years, the son is a successful pro ball player and his bio dad miraculously crawls out of the woodwork... Kudos and respect to Hines Ward's mom!

Robert Miller 95670

Ofcourse it us. Just because they gave birth and walked away because they couldn't reer their child, they intrusted someoneelse to bring up their child. They have no legal, moral or say in the matter. They could be gold digging for money.
That is now way to get back into good grace with the child they abandoned! I would tell them to go back under the rock the crawled out from until they act respectful and could they offer sound life changing advice. Hopefully the boy and adoptive parents have lawyers to protect their interests

JoHn S.

It would be wrong for ANY parent, whether they be bio, or adoptive.

GeminiVirgo1971

Yes.

AdoptiveMama

Yes

StacieG

I do think it is wrong. What's wrong is NOT that they couldn't care for the child & later sought out the child. It is the perceived motivation for seeking out the child -- to get ahead.

If I were the child and I perceived that was the bio parents' motivation for seeking out a "relationship" with me, I'd put a stop to it immediately and let them know that my "real" parents were the ones who fed me, cared for me and gave me all the love, encouragement and nurturing throughout my life.

Anyway, that's just my take on it.

mum to 3 precious little girls!!

yes it's wrong its just like you telling your cousins sisters friends daughter what to do you would have no right to do it and neither do the bio parents in this particular case

momofone

yes its wrong...not because they didnt raise him/her but because it is wrong for any parent to try to control their independent successful adult child (even moreso when it might seem to be financially motivated)

who is this guitarist??

itsjustme

Um, yea. First of all if this "child" is over 18 then the bio parents can't do anything that the young adult doesn't want them to do. If they seem like they are only interested because of what they could gain (money, material things or notoriety) and are not interested in the person himself then they need to hit the road and stay the hell out of this persons life and let him be happy.

Jess

yes it is the child should tell the bio parents where to go

Emmett

yeah, if you give the baby up, leagally its who ever adopts it child then.

If the child is adopted, the bio parents have no rights, so the child can do whatever he wants without any need to follow their requests.

eve

If the child is an adult, it is not wrong. I'm not sure what you mean by "trying to control them." If the child has adoptive parents, it is their responsibility to take care of and have control of their child. If the child is an adult, it is their own responsibility to have control over their own life. Anyone can try and control anyone and it is not srong even though it can be awful and cause problems. Adults try to control each other all the time. Kids are supposed to be protected by their parents. Healthy adults should be able to control their own lives and deal with the issue of other people trying to control them. The adoption issue doesn't really seem to enter into it as far as I can see.

goodquestion

"It" is a human being. If "it" really has a loving, caring family, then "it" should have developed the self esteem necessary to stand up to ANYONE who tries to put one over on "it".

The most famous guitarist? Something smells fishy to me.

Maggie

yeah, that's wrong. but if the parents just want to get to know the kid, i think that's okay and normal. the kid should know his real parents.

suenami_98

Understandable to want to meet the child, but absolutely intolerable to try controlling ANYTHING.

It is wrong if the biological parents are trying to control the child's career and life if their reasons for meddling is monetary. The child should be grateful for them conceiving him/her as the 9 months in labour is definitely a tough period for the parents to pull through. However, the child must know that the choice to listen to the biological parents is ultimately his. The family that raised him/her has played a bigger role and have been far greater parents than those that abandoned him/her. So while the child should accept their advice, he/she should judge for himself whether what their biological parents are doing is right or wrong. If they get too controlling, there is one last thing to do: walk away just as they did from you.

Leanne B

You know its wrong and its damaging of course the child wants to know deep down who the biological parents are but i hope the child doesnt expect love from them the child is only going to get deception be there when YOUR child needs you to love him when he finds out they arnt what they portray

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