It's a known fact that adoptive parents tend to spoil their children, right?

Mom to Foster Children

While this question insults me - I am going to answer for the sheer pleasure of the two points. I spoil ALL my children. Just because one of them came into our family through adoption doesn't mean I treat him any different than the rest of my children.

quirky

What possible facts could you have to support that theory? Maybe you should pick up a few books on parenting, and adoption and psychology.

"known fact" is not equal to "uneducated assumtion based on opinon"

Not known by me! I have literally dozens of adopted relatives. I didn't even KNOW that some of them were adopted until we were much older. Everyone treated them the same. Just because you know one or two people who are either adopted and spoiled or spoilers of adopted children doesn't mean they all are that way. Just because one blogger says it is that way doesn't mean they know what they are talking about.

Wundt

No, it is not a fact (known or otherwise) that APs spoil their children.

So, no, they are not creating a wave of spoiled brats. What is more, because the percentage of children who are adopted is small, less than 1 in 20 kids, they hardly consitute a 'wave' even if they were spoiled.

Edit - The article you cite does not cite any statistics or really make the claim that "it is a known fact" about anything. It is one person's opinion/experiences with their adoption.

Heather Leigh

Of course you didn't mean to offend...How could we find you calling our children spoiled brats offensive?

I am wondering where you found this *known fact*? Was there a study done? Do you have a link? Didn't think so!

To answer you question, I am raising respectable young men not spoiled brats.

eld_teacher

This is just like saying only children are spoiled. So are parents of only children also creating a wave of spoiled brats?? Oh and what if the adopted child is also an only child??? Oh no!!! Then what???

Sweeping generalizations generally do work...

Randy B

If it's such a "known fact" then why do you feel a need to ask the question?

If I were you I certainly wouldn't be basing my outlook on a subject because of a blog post or an article on a biased website.

DevonChaos

Wow, no. As an adopted person, I can say this is truly offensive. Adoptive parents are just like anyone else. Some spoil, some don't.

Rowan

I wouldnt consider myself spoiled, even though my older siblings swear me and my brother got more.

There were things we wanted that we didnt get. We got what we NEEDED.

23 year old texas female married

Not all adoptive parents spoil their kids, just like not all natural parents abuse their kids. If anything my kids are spoiled rotten. All 3 of my kids are given a lot of attention, love, and guidance. And my newborn is always being held. She co-sleeps with me and breast feeds. She has gotten to the point where she refuses a bottle from her father and adjusted to my work schedule to nurse.

realmom lese

Not all adoptive parents spoil their kids. The ones that adopted my daughter knocked her teeth out. Among other things.

cantstopLinnyG

Ummm, not mine. The exact opposite.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

hunh...interesting. Im sure my son would love this. He's not adopted and definately spoiled absolutly rotten. He'd want to know what he's missin out on!! LMAO

Erin L

It's funny you should ask this. Just yesterday my daughter's daycare provider told me that I'm the only adoptive parent she's ever seen who is consistent with my daughter and not permissive.

To be honest, it's sometimes hard. I know of the losses and difficult experiences she's been through both physically and emotionally. It's hard not to just want to do what will make her happy in the moment, not wanting her to experience any more sadness. But I know that isn't what's best for her and I'm strong enough and know enough about parenting to not do that.

Sophie

No and no.

My son is an only child who may get all of my attention, but he is not spoiled... and he is not a brat.

kateiskate

My parents never spoiled me. In fact, they made sure I worked hard for everything I got. They were never rich, in fact at times our family was downright poor.

When I turned 18, I started paying rent to live at home. By the time I was 19 I was paying 400 a month to live at home. I'd hardly call that spoiled.

Philippa

I don't think all adoptive parents spoil their children, it's like saying all parents spoil their kids and that's not true either.

calvinscleaningservice

Hi there...Well...Well... That would have been a nice life for me.I was adopted back in 1958 as a baby. My life was Hell, there are always 2 sides to a story. But because you are looking for an answer: No! not always.And anyone that would do that has some kind of guilt in them self.

Independ"ant"

I've seen it go both ways.......spoiling them as well as alienating/not treating them as equals to their biological children.

Either way.....they are both detrimental to the emotional well being of any children.

rachael

i was spoiled. spoiled rotten ....just like my sister. their bio child.

i agree that the parents vary, some are abusive, some are strict, some are passive. i dont believe it has to do with adoption all the time.

Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T.

No. Surprisingly, Adoptive parents are as diverse as any other family.. Some are good parents, and have adopted their child for the right reasons... Some (unfortunately) are crappy parents and should have been weeded out, but the system isn't perfect... Some are strict, some aren't... some are CHristian.. some are Bhuddist.. Some are married.. some are single.. some are straight.. some are gay.. Some APs couldn't have children biologically.. some can (and do!)..

There's no "across the board" profile of an adoptive parent, child, or family.. Trying to stereotype is ignorant and stupid..

Shelby

Well, don't tell my kids that - they would feel ripped off.

Seriously, I do sometimes feel like my kids are spoilt, in comparison to me when I was a child. However compared to some relatives and friends who seem to have every material things possible, relatively speaking they are actually not too spoilt.

FYI - I don't spoil my kids because they are adopted, I spoil them because they are my kids.

guapagirl02

That is truly a ridiculous statement. I am adoptive and I am not spoiled. Adoptive parents are not all the same. It's a ridiculous oversimplification to say that all adoptive parents spoil their children. That's incredibly ignorant.

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