Mothers and Adoptees, are you religious? Are you spiritual?

amyburt40

Yes sometimes I do. I have a strong spiritual belief in God. I like to think our God is more compassionate. I think mankind has affected adoption not God.

magic pointe shoes

I am, thank you for asking. Maybe it was the way I was raised, but my faith in God is based on what God wants for us and then humans bumble up. I get my knickers in a twist about anyone mentioning God's will or God's plan because it comes down to living a good life and caring for those around us so they can also live that good life. We aren't supposed to have to decide to relinquish or abandon our children. That's human will, not God's will. So my faith core in God wasn't shook by losing my son to adoption in that way.

What did get me riled up was the people who's faith said that women like me lost their way with God and then came back. Sorry, I don't buy that either.

Anyway, my faith is as strong as ever... what's in question is my faith in human kind and their choice of actions regarding free will.

snowwillow20

I truly want to "believe". I find it very difficult to trust anyone and unfortunately I also find it difficult to forget and to forgive.

Rowan

Yes i am a Christian. Ipersonally believe God(or whateverDiety watches over us) is much more compassionate that our fellow man.
And no, i dont think its affected my faith, as i came into my faith in God as a teenager. MY ADOPTIVE MOTHER WAS A cHRISTIAN AS WELL, BUT I DIDNT KNOW THAT UNTIL LATER ON, AS SHE NEVER PUSHED IT ON ME.
Damn caps, forgive me if i dont retype

Jenny

For me no , if it weren't for the lord I probably would have ended my life before I had my 2 other children. However my reunion has come to an abrupt halt for no obvious reasons other than i think or suspect the adopters are pressuring him, so I am at a loss saying 'GOD WHY, but i am also trying to hold some hope.
As for my son that was adopted(my oldest) he struggles with spirituality
which I couldn't understand since he was adopted by Christians, i could not understand for the life of me why he would be so turned off by it until I read the book Primal wound then it all made sense, the primal wound tends to affect the spirituality in some adoptess.

celtic.piskie

I was adopted by a less than pleasant pastor in England.

He is very well respected by the church, goes to seminars all over the world, and is generally very successful.

I now have a very sceptical outlook on all organised religions, because if a man who breaks his childrens bones is that well respected, I dread to think what the men at the top are like.

Plus, i'm more interested in science and observable reality.

Anha S

I had no problems being spiritual in my chosen faith, but I could never fly with my afamily's religious beliefs. I had issues believing in anything that labeled me as a product of sin, bad, unworthy. Sins of the father and all that jazz. I turned to a nature based path very quickly after leaving home.

Trust, I still have issues with trust that tie in with my abandonment issues. The issues have gotten better over the years but at times I still struggle with putting my trust and faith in people when my instinct says I will be dissapointed and left alone.

Laurel J

I think it has. Even as a child I found it very difficult to believe. I find all religions very interesting, but actual faith? I haven't got any. (I tried Eastern reliigons, nature-based spirituality, the whole ball of wax, and nothing really took.)

Mei-Ling

Maybe said it all.

I no longer believe in faith the way I used to.

If I was "meant to be" adopted into this family now, then I guess my mother was "meant to" suffer for two decades.

Zeena

No, I do not believe it affected my ability for a spiritual connection.

Luckily, I was not brought up with a religious family, so that gave me room to explore different beliefs and I came to a comforting conclusion that feels "right".

Not Adopted

Yes, it has greatly limited my ability to believe in traditional religious theories. This is probably due to the prevalent attitude among adoptive parents that the baby they adopted was "meant for them." If they believe god gave them a baby, then I have to believe that god took my baby. Why would I want to acknowledge that type of god?

Also, much adoption practice was invented by religious organizations that sought to punish the evil "unwed" mother. I refuse to support their BS.

I have moved on to more nature- and ancestor-based theories of spirituality.

Rainia W

I am probably considered very religious by most people. I wouldn't say I am as committed to a single church as many people are, but I am very committed to my beliefs, so no, the fact I am adopted has had no impact on my ability to have faith in God.

Indian-vision

Very interesting question. I was expecting these answers from this section. Sly plz do share your thoughts too.
As for me, the country, religon and culture i grew up in, mostly in majority of the people religous/spirtual beliefs are deeply ingrained and loss,suffering and pain believed as important part of a person's existense.
I faced a huge loss a few years ago that shook my belief in god and i started researching answers to what my religon had to say about my loss. Instead of making me feel i was deserted by god,this was not god's actions etc. I started to understand his ways and reasons(even if i could not understand anything then). I must say it helped me move on , look forward, remember the past and loss and change my life with his blessing. Not being overtly religous.......i do have faith and i do believe the loss and pain was due to a certain reason.

ETA- I look at god as a belevolent ,loving parent. He controls everything YET he gives us a free hand to do our deeds.(good or bad). If we are wrong , yes he will make us pay in this birth or next.*gasp*. Yes he WILL punish us and give us pain,loss and grief . Also he will occasionally test our faith. I don't think in most major religons god anywhere says "i will give you happiness and heaven on earth". If there is misery in our life, god gave it to us for a reason and it is for us to trust him, accept it and look forward.

carrieberryterry

Um if your talking about the child it shouldn't

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